A boy has a crush on me!!!

[Hallie]

So i'm not sure if this is the right place to put this, but there's this really sweet guy at school who obviously likes me and obviously doesn't know that I'm gay. He keeps flirting with me and I'm letting it go on partly because it would be awkward to be like "hey, by the way, I like girls" and also because it's nice to have someone telling you you're pretty all the time. It feels good when he compliments me. I feel really ugly all the time, and having a good-looking guy who does think you're really cool and pretty is a great feeling. Is it so wrong to let it keep going on? I mean, I know I shouldn't be leading him on, and it's not like I'm flirting back, but when he flirts with me I feel good. Should I let this go on, or should I just tell him that I'm gay?

[Croconaw]

I wouldn't tell him that you're a lesbian just yet. You could just tell him you're not interested.

[kylem1229]

You should at least tell him that you are not interested in a relationship, but you can tell him you want him as a good friend. You dont have to actually tell him your are a lesbian.

[sqishy]

I agree with the others. You can got for being a friend with him, but don't let him think you're 'available'.

[baseballjock]

r u bi or just gay

[Tarannosaurus]

So i'm not sure if this is the right place to put this, but there's this really sweet guy at school who obviously likes me and obviously doesn't know that I'm gay. He keeps flirting with me and I'm letting it go on partly because it would be awkward to be like "hey, by the way, I like girls" and also because it's nice to have someone telling you you're pretty all the time. It feels good when he compliments me. I feel really ugly all the time, and having a good-looking guy who does think you're really cool and pretty is a great feeling. Is it so wrong to let it keep going on? I mean, I know I shouldn't be leading him on, and it's not like I'm flirting back, but when he flirts with me I feel good. Should I let this go on, or should I just tell him that I'm gay?

When this happened to me I just outright said that I'm a lesbian (well I kind of slotted it into a conversation) and he didn't believe me. It kind of depends on how persistent/delusional he is... But it wouldn't do any harm to slip in that you're gay. He'll still think you're cool, pretty etc and you could gain a really good friend.

[Its Pretty]

So i'm not sure if this is the right place to put this, but there's this really sweet guy at school who obviously likes me and obviously doesn't know that I'm gay. He keeps flirting with me and I'm letting it go on partly because it would be awkward to be like "hey, by the way, I like girls" and also because it's nice to have someone telling you you're pretty all the time. It feels good when he compliments me. I feel really ugly all the time, and having a good-looking guy who does think you're really cool and pretty is a great feeling. Is it so wrong to let it keep going on? I mean, I know I shouldn't be leading him on, and it's not like I'm flirting back, but when he flirts with me I feel good. Should I let this go on, or should I just tell him that I'm gay?

If you think he's so sweet and good looking doesn't that mean you like him lmfao ecks deee

[itsvbro]

guys love lesbians so dont even sweat it. some lesbians are better wingmen than guy friends

[Hallie]

If you think he's so sweet and good looking doesn't that mean you like him lmfao ecks deee

No there's a difference between thinking someone is sweet and good looking and actually having romantic feelings for them. Like I'm sure you know lots of people who are "sweet and good looking" whom you don't have a crush on. Just because I recognize that someone is good looking doesn't mean I personally am attracted to them. Assuming you're straight, I'm sure there are people of the same sex that you know are good looking, but that doesn't mean that you like them in a romantic way.

[Its Pretty]

No there's a difference between thinking someone is sweet and good looking and actually having romantic feelings for them. Like I'm sure you know lots of people who are "sweet and good looking" whom you don't have a crush on. Just because I recognize that someone is good looking doesn't mean I personally am attracted to them. Assuming you're straight, I'm sure there are people of the same sex that you know are good looking, but that doesn't mean that you like them in a romantic way.

You can't be 100% sure you don't like him when you use such descriptive language like that :P

[AlexOnToast]

If it were me, I would say casually that you roll down the girl side of the mountain, but still act like you want to be friends

[Hallie]

You can't be 100% sure you don't like him when you use such descriptive language like that :P

Well YOU can't be 100% sure of whether I do or don't like him, but I can. I don't know about you, but when I have a crush on someone as opposed to just thinking that they're sweet, I get those butterflies in my stomach. I get nervous and I sometimes start sweating a little bit. My heart starts racing faster. I think about that person a LOT. That's when I know I have a crush on someone. I think there's a pretty distinct line between that and just enjoying someone's company. It's simple really. This guy that I'm talking about is very sweet and good looking, but the "spark" is just not there. I've just never been attracted to guys that way, and as far as I can tell, I probably never will be.

[Its Pretty]

Well YOU can't be 100% sure of whether I do or don't like him, but I can. I don't know about you, but when I have a crush on someone as opposed to just thinking that they're sweet, I get those butterflies in my stomach. I get nervous and I sometimes start sweating a little bit. My heart starts racing faster. I think about that person a LOT. That's when I know I have a crush on someone. I think there's a pretty distinct line between that and just enjoying someone's company. It's simple really. This guy that I'm talking about is very sweet and good looking, but the "spark" is just not there. I've just never been attracted to guys that way, and as far as I can tell, I probably never will be.

OK then, have fun telling him that you don't like him.

[noplanhere9]

I think you should talk to him. Tell him as kindly as you can that you are not interested in a relationship, but would love to be friends. You can still flirt as friends :-)

[Danagal]

You don't have to explain anything just tell him your not interested.