Depression

[Zosomac]

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[The Batman]

I know exactly how you feel seriously sometimes the best thing to do is to find something to let out all of the steam you have. For example I use this site to let out all of my feelings and that people on here are always willing to help you through a bad time

[byee]

Hi Max, and welcome! I'm sorry to hear you're depressed, maybe it's caused by your feeling no one cares? Who is it that you'd like to care? And how can that happen?

One of the major symptoms of depression is that it interferes with attention, concentration, and focus, so it's understandable that you're having problems with schoolwork. It also indicates that your depression is pretty significant.

It might be best to try to at least seperate out the school part and come up with a plan to stay focused there. Not doing so will only cause additional problems, which you don't need. Can you talk with a guidance counsellor about this, at least the school part? They might be able to work something out for you so that you've got some additional flexibility in handing things in, etc., to prevent lower grades.

Maybe you could tell us a little more about what's hurting and what you need.

[Zosomac]

today when i woke up, my mom discovered that i used to use illigal drugs... that was no big deal because i am over that stuff and i have been sober for months. when i was eating breakfast my mom told me that I was grounded for a month (again not a big deal for me, i know i deserve it), but right after she said that she also added that she was going to quit her job just to keep an eye on me. I don't know why but after she said that i spiraled into the WORST depression attack of my life, even at this moment i feel depressed.

i find that when people tell me that I am responsible for their misery or misfortunes, I go into depression, not immediately but i gradually sink into it... but today has probaby been the worst one of my life. the second my mom told me that she was quitting her job for me, I exploded :(

[Patchy]

It's hard to speak to people about depression but the best thing to do is talk to someone about your problems that you have.

getting it out means its like getting something off your back and that person can give you advice etc.

[Zosomac]

I know... i talk to as many people as i can about it, thats why i joined VT in the first place

its teens looking after each other and i really find posting on VT helps me out when i feel sad

[The Batman]

Since your mom is going to quit her job why don't you try and talk to her about it maybe now since she's gonna be around more often she can help you through this.

[Zosomac]

thanks Dynamic_T!

your advice really helped

i just talked to my mom about it and she said that she is gonna go with me to see a psychologist!

i am really happy now and i cant thank you enough

[The Batman]

Your welcome and you don't have to thank me this is the reason I come to this site to help and get help

[byee]

Well, I'd suggest you tell the psychologist this whole story, the one where she threatened to quit her job to 'watch' you and your subsequent depression. I bet he'll have a lot to say about that! And, hopefully, even a lot more to your mom!

You and she need to come to some understanding about your behavior and what's causing it. Sounds like she doesn't really understand (or even know) that you're depressed, and maybe your (past!) drug use was a symptom of that. She sounds (rightfully) concerned hearing about it, but her response doesn't exactly fit the situation. Quitting a job to watch a kid seems like a bit of overkill, and the type that will adversely affect both of you. Maybe if she better understood what was going on with you and why, you and she might be able to respond most effectively to the real problem, your depression.

I'm glad you're seeing the psychologist, it's a wonderful experience. Even if it took something this awful to bring it about. he can help identify and clarify what's happening for both of you, and come up with some strategies for (hopefully) resolving the problems.

When are you going?

[Zosomac]

In 2 weeks