Can chubby guys be sexy?

[dusman77]

In your opinion, can chubby guys be sexy? Why do you think so? There's a link to my tumblr below where you can see a semi shirtless pic of a chubby guy (AKA me) that I recently posted. Opinions of guys of around this weight?

http://www.tumblr.com/blog/dusman77

[Croconaw]

Weight should never matter in a relationship. For some reason though, I find chubby boys attractive. As long as they're not severely overweight.

[Pure Innocent Nun]

^ I agree.

Chubby boys are pretty cute.

[ImAurora]

What she said.

[Daz 2000]

You look good to me. Be proud of yourself ;-)

[hoboliz]

Zach Galifianakis is sexy as hell. So, yes. Abs are hot and all, but wit is way sexier.

[Tenoka]

If you can swoon me, weight doesn't really factor in. Plus I'm not a huge abs person (I like flat stomachs, but it depends)

[AlexOnToast]

I dont see why not, In my eyes anyway

[Damien2014]

In your opinion, can chubby guys be sexy? Why do you think so? There's a link to my tumblr below where you can see a semi shirtless pic of a chubby guy (AKA me) that I recently posted. Opinions of guys of around this weight?

http://www.tumblr.com/blog/dusman77

Chubby/overweight guys can be sexy, I think because everyone has their rights and its not looks that matter it is personality e.g. if they are extremely nice or a big bitch.. I get people interested even when I am not in uniform..

[Zachary G]

See how many positive comments you got? I told you that you were an attractive boy, and I would date you any day.

[everlong]

Of course, just not extremely obese. Then...

[TinyDancer]

Personality comes first with me, then a sense of humor.

[Gopher]

your hot man, id go out with you...id have to get to know you first but i think your attractive

[JonBarleyCorn]

I would not obsess on it but every guy should be in shape. Just work out man. Don't worry about it. But hit it hard and only good things can happen.

[Hermes96]

i like a sligtly chubby gut they normaly have more love to give and 9 times out of ten their funnier than other guys

[Ethe14]

I don't mind guys with a little weight, better than some people that compare to skeletons.

[Karkat]

Tumblr is being stupid to me for some reason, but my boyfriend is actually a little overweight even, and he's absolutely sexy to me. I love his body. In fact, I prefer guys who are a little chubbier.

[Nanael]

they are cute but dont over do it :P

[phuckphace]

no thanks. to each their own but I personally find chubbiness a turnoff

[Taryn98]

sexiness isn't about looks it's about personality and how you make the other person feel

[dreamofdante]

I'm slightly chubby and no one wants to date me so I don't know. I guess sometimes it can but women don't like me at all so maybe not.

[Plasma]

I sure hope so. But I'm guessing that if its someone worth a damn, they wouldn't care

[Plasma]

I'm slightly chubby and no one wants to date me so I don't know. I guess sometimes it can but women don't like me at all so maybe not.

Are all of your posts fucking sob stories? Plenty of girls on here have told you that you were attractive

[dreamofdante]

Are all of your posts fucking sob stories? Plenty of girls on here have told you that you were attractive

Cheers. And for the record, they've said I'm not ugly. That doesn't make me attractive.

[backjruton]

Between thin and fat (basically just chubby) is the best in my opinion too. I prefer the fat if they're not extremely fat. Not because they normally have more love to give
but because it's just something I've started to prefer in the past few years.
better than some people that compare to skeletons.
Skeleton bodies are boring, and I wouldn't be able to cope properly if every single person was comparable to a skeleton, because I like to see people of all different shapes and sizes. I like people with more to grab on to (or something along these lines) XD :yeah:

[Plasma]

Cheers. And for the record, they've said I'm not ugly. That doesn't make me attractive.

So what is your reasoning behind all of the depressing posts? Surely it can't be good to always say bad things about yourself. You should just stop thinking the way you do and get a more positive outlook. They dont like you? Fuck women then. Go make yourself happy and then you'll find a girl

[dreamofdante]

So what is your reasoning behind all of the depressing posts? Surely it can't be good to always say bad things about yourself. You should just stop thinking the way you do and get a more positive outlook. They dont like you? Fuck women then. Go make yourself happy and then you'll find a girl

I hate myself for one thing and things keep getting worse every day. It's hard for me to have a positive attitude. And I honestly don't know what to do because I can't go anywhere.

[Plasma]

I hate myself for one thing and things keep getting worse every day. It's hard for me to have a positive attitude. And I honestly don't know what to do because I can't go anywhere.

Maybe women hate you because you hate yourself. Would you want to date a girl who only talked about bad things in her life, regardless of the topic?

[Karkat]

I hate myself for one thing and things keep getting worse every day. It's hard for me to have a positive attitude. And I honestly don't know what to do because I can't go anywhere.

Self-esteem can be really finicky. Ultimately, we have to learn to love ourselves, but it's not easy. And getting a girl won't entirely take away your self-hate, let me tell you that right now.

In the end, we have to learn to accept ourselves, because we're never going to be anyone else. It's a journey, not a destination. Don't feel bad that you still aren't positive right now. Just deal with what you think you can deal with, and go from there.

[dreamofdante]

Maybe women hate you because you hate yourself. Would you want to date a girl who only talked about bad things in her life, regardless of the topic?

I'm not going to tell you all the reasons here so you'll have to either PM me or forget about it, man.

Self-esteem can be really finicky. Ultimately, we have to learn to love ourselves, but it's not easy. And getting a girl won't entirely take away your self-hate, let me tell you that right now.

In the end, we have to learn to accept ourselves, because we're never going to be anyone else. It's a journey, not a destination. Don't feel bad that you still aren't positive right now. Just deal with what you think you can deal with, and go from there.

Yeah that's the problem. I hate myself and wish I could be "someone else. Someone good" as Lou Reed said in Perfect Day. There's so much shit I wish I could take back and change and now I'm so messed up.

[Rdsxbaseballfan]

A little fat is never a problem, when they become obese and have health hazards is when I tend to stay away but my mom loves a man with meat on his bones

[Plasma]

I'm not going to tell you all the reasons here so you'll have to either PM me or forget about it, man.



Yeah that's the problem. I hate myself and wish I could be "someone else. Someone good" as Lou Reed said in Perfect Day. There's so much shit I wish I could take back and change and now I'm so messed up.

Stop wishing and do it then. I'm done arguing about this

[Karkat]

Yeah that's the problem. I hate myself and wish I could be "someone else. Someone good" as Lou Reed said in Perfect Day. There's so much shit I wish I could take back and change and now I'm so messed up.

(Ok you like Lou Reed, that already is a good thing there. See.)

Eh, look at me. I'm a disabled, mentally ill, self-loathing addict that turns into Gordon Ramsay every time I get mad. (I just tone myself down a bit on these here boards because excessive profanity isn't uh, very helpful)

I've messed up plenty in my life. Probably MOST of my life is one giant fuckup. And I'm pretty pessimistic about myself, and generally whiny and I tend to wallow in self pity and yeah.

But at the same time, I've done some good things too. I've been sober from alcohol for almost a year and a half, I got a job, got promoted, won a couple of writing awards, made some good friends. I have an amazing boyfriend whom I'm planning on marrying and stuff. Life's not all bad.

HOWEVER, that's because I got up off my ass and did something about it. At one point, I just said "Screw your self-pity Ren, I'm going to do something anyways, even if it is pointless. I'm going to LIKE myself if I have to KILL myself in the process."

Did it work? No. But we're getting there. (And consequently we've also taken up talking in the third person and plural first person when we are in fact singular. Hmm.)

Point being that the fact that life isn't butterflies and rainbows yet is OK. Happiness is an action, not a destination. It's not something you achieve, it's a disposition. And sad days will come. Self-doubt and loathing will come. It's ok to get upset, happy people get upset. It's also ok to not consider yourself a 'happy person'. I don't. I'm getting there. The important thing is the thought and the effort, and from what I can see, you've got one if not both. I think you just need more support, maybe.

[dreamofdante]

(Ok you like Lou Reed, that already is a good thing there. See.)

Eh, look at me. I'm a disabled, mentally ill, self-loathing addict that turns into Gordon Ramsay every time I get mad. (I just tone myself down a bit on these here boards because excessive profanity isn't uh, very helpful)

I've messed up plenty in my life. Probably MOST of my life is one giant fuckup. And I'm pretty pessimistic about myself, and generally whiny and I tend to wallow in self pity and yeah.

But at the same time, I've done some good things too. I've been sober from alcohol for almost a year and a half, I got a job, got promoted, won a couple of writing awards, made some good friends. I have an amazing boyfriend whom I'm planning on marrying and stuff. Life's not all bad.

HOWEVER, that's because I got up off my ass and did something about it. At one point, I just said "Screw your self-pity Ren, I'm going to do something anyways, even if it is pointless. I'm going to LIKE myself if I have to KILL myself in the process."

Did it work? No. But we're getting there. (And consequently we've also taken up talking in the third person and plural first person when we are in fact singular. Hmm.)

Point being that the fact that life isn't butterflies and rainbows yet is OK. Happiness is an action, not a destination. It's not something you achieve, it's a disposition. And sad days will come. Self-doubt and loathing will come. It's ok to get upset, happy people get upset. It's also ok to not consider yourself a 'happy person'. I don't. I'm getting there. The important thing is the thought and the effort, and from what I can see, you've got one if not both. I think you just need more support, maybe.

"I'm a disabled, mentally ill, self-loathing addict that turns into Gordon Ramsay every time I get mad." Me too...

But yeah I guess you're right because I have literally no support in my life. Everyone just tells me it'll be okay and then I just go back to my room because I have nowhere to go. I have no friends and my family doesn't understand me at all. None of them have been as bad as me because they weren't screwed up at an early age like I was. So yeah, support would be nice. The hope that things will get better because the people in my life will help but I literally have no reason to feel positive. No one in my life seems to give a shit so why should I?

[Karkat]

"I'm a disabled, mentally ill, self-loathing addict that turns into Gordon Ramsay every time I get mad." Me too...

But yeah I guess you're right because I have literally no support in my life. Everyone just tells me it'll be okay and then I just go back to my room because I have nowhere to go. I have no friends and my family doesn't understand me at all. None of them have been as bad as me because they weren't screwed up at an early age like I was. So yeah, support would be nice. The hope that things will get better because the people in my life will help but I literally have no reason to feel positive. No one in my life seems to give a shit so why should I?

I feel ya there. I mean, it's not so much a lack of people who support me in my case, it's just that everyone is busy, or they're dealing with a lot too...I always feel so lonely, and it turns me into a neurotic piece of shit. It's not that they don't want to help me, they just can't. I don't really blame them, either. It's just that once again, I've got no help, and where does that leave me?

[dreamofdante]

I feel ya there. I mean, it's not so much a lack of people who support me in my case, it's just that everyone is busy, or they're dealing with a lot too...I always feel so lonely, and it turns me into a neurotic piece of shit. It's not that they don't want to help me, they just can't. I don't really blame them, either. It's just that once again, I've got no help, and where does that leave me?

Well I'm here for you if you need me. I'm usually around because I have nothing else to do. I'm a self-loathing, angry, lonely, and selfish prick but I would try my best to help you feel better.

[Karkat]

Well I'm here for you if you need me. I'm usually around because I have nothing else to do. I'm a self-loathing, angry, lonely, and selfish prick but I would try my best to help you feel better.

Ah, same. I'm here for you as well if you need me. :)

[goundy]

Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

You guys...

I've had so many guys come onto my cold approach pickup bootcamp with 'below average' looks who absolutely kill it with girls when they figure out what to do. I've always viewed it as rather pathetic when guys blame there looks when they lack success with women because they are just shifting the blame from their lack of knowlege with women (a tangible thing that you have control over) to a factor they have no control over. Why would you do this to yourself?
I know so many ugly guys who have the most insane sex lives you could possibly imagine. I regularly go out with a guy who is seriously 5 feet tall, Asian and can hardly speak English. He every week pulls the hottest girls in Sydney. I know loads of guys who kill it with girls because unlike the self-haters, they decided to go out and accumulate experience with women to improve their skills and their ability to attract them. I did the same thing, except I wasn't chubby or short but I had severe acne and I was 17. I went out and practiced despite self image issues and the rest is history.
Here's the truth, there are thousands of people who had significantly worse circumstances but managed to turn their lives into something amazing.

I used to deal with all this kind of bs. I'm ugly, girls don't like me, yadada. I understand where you guys are coming from. I know that feeling where you're just like fuck it! I don't care about anything, the world sucks!!! I've been there. But I also deep down knew that you can't live like this and there needs to be a turning point. For me that turning point was learning how to meet and attract women via cold approach pickup. For you it could be anything. Pursuing anything that can highten youre complexity as an individual, expanding your level of consiousness and doing something that give purpose to your life. Soccer, business, learning a new language etc.

Anyway, I don't mean to brow beat or put anyone down. I just read all this and empathized on a deep and personal level because I've been there. Please take the time to realize that your life could be the most amazing thing you could imagine. You want millions of dollars? Changed millions of lives? Have sex with 200 women before the age of 25? Produce a piece of work that lives on for thousands of years? Whatever you want, it's possible.
When your young, you are like a leaf blowing in the wind and you don't have much control over anything. But when you hit 16+, there isn't any excuse to wollow away in sorrow because you're brains developed enough to have the capacity to take your life in the direction you want to go.

[NeuroTiger]

"Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder"

[enriqueroxx]

Chubby guys are definitely sexy...

[Dwemer]

Looks change over time anyway. Personality is what is important.

[ColinB]

I have chubby friends i find very attractive.....being hot is more than your looks, to me anyways. If looks are that important chances are their a jerk anyways