don't want to be gay...

[Jman437]

I'm 18 years old, never had a girlfriend but had my share of experiences and always was attracted to women, both physically and emotionally, but recently I've been constantly swarmed by my brain with the idea of being gay, like an obsession, and worst of all, whenever I'm thinking about this, I get unwanted erections by looking at men... But I don't want to be gay, I've nothing against homosexuality, but I always wanted to live a normal lifestyle liking women(I still like women emotionally and physically, but I'm unwanted ly physically attracted to men). I won't be able to be comfortable with myself when I'm gay, I just won't... I don't want to have this feelings anymore, I want to be normal just like every other men... Why can't I be normal just like them? Please, somebody help me...

[Loner_97]

It's not weird or abnormal to be gay/bi... so stop thinking that way. Be what makes you feel comfortable.

[ECSTASY]

you don't sound like gays . you may be Bi .
anyways , there is no way , last few weeks , when i started to believe that i'm gay , i got really depressed and i thought about suicide so much . i still do sometimes but i feel a lil better now . i started to read thousands of articles about sexuality and i found out that there is no way to change sexuality really .sry to say that but this is what we are and we have to accept it.
unless you have some feelings to girls , i don't have even 1% attraction emotionally /sexually to girls :s
and... being gay/bi isn't abnormal really , its completely normal . the reason that i didn't want to accept myself as a gay was cause of the circumstances here.

[Simon WDS]

There's nothing wrong in being gay/bi, it is totally normal :)

[Green Arrow]

Sounds to me like you're bi, but it's up to you n wether to act on those feelings quite a lot of peole have those type of feelings and don't act on them and lead for a straight life instead. You can't stop feelings, dispite what some people believe unfortunately.

[Living For Love]

I also have a certain "fear" of being gay, not because I find it disgusting or something, it's for other reasons. I believe you can't change who you are, and what type of people you fancy, but from what you described, I don't think that's enough to tell you're gay or not. Maybe it's because you never had a girlfriend, or you lack some kind of emotional link towards someone you can really trust that makes your brain, not you, have those desires for other guys.

I understand you fear not only the fact that you wouldn't be able to have a "normal life", it's all the things attached to it (bullying, discrimination, prejudice, stereotypes, etc...), but I would say those thoughts are just temporary, the less importance you give to them, the quicker they get out of your mind.

[sqishy]

I also have a certain "fear" of being gay, not because I find it disgusting or something, it's for other reasons. I believe you can't change who you are, and what type of people you fancy, but from what you described, I don't think that's enough to tell you're gay or not. Maybe it's because you never had a girlfriend, or you lack some kind of emotional link towards someone you can really trust that makes your brain, not you, have those desires for other guys.

I understand you fear not only the fact that you wouldn't be able to have a "normal life", it's all the things attached to it (bullying, discrimination, prejudice, stereotypes, etc...), but I would say those thoughts are just temporary, the less importance you give to them, the quicker they get out of your mind.

I agree with this.

[wattado]

You are more likely to be bi then gay. I didn't want to be gay either. I used to be terrified of the idea and how I wouldn't be able to live with myself. But now I can't imagine my life any other way. Maybe it will just take you some time to get used to the idea. Also you could just be curious.

[Liam Peter]

It's normal to be gay and their is nothing wrong with it. But you don't sound gay or bi to me, if you were, you would be emotionaly attracted to them to.

[Luminous]

You could be bi, but you say that you're only physically attracted to men? That would mean bisexual heteroromantic, to be specific.

[stacy1203]

You are who you are, theres nothing wrong with it

[AlexOnToast]

You could be bi, but you say that you're only physically attracted to men? That would mean bisexual heteroromantic, to be specific.

Very nice terminology there :) That has actually answered another question of a friend of mine :)

[Luminous]

Very nice terminology there :) That has actually answered another question of a friend of mine :)

Glad it helped!

[Jman437]

You could be bi, but you say that you're only physically attracted to men? That would mean bisexual heteroromantic, to be specific.

Nice terminology indeed :b

[Zachary G]

we have no control over who and what we are attracted to, but its what we do with that information that makes al of the difference. it is possible to live a very healthy heterosexual life while being sexually attracted to men, its called bisexuality, but it doesnt mean you have to act on it. acceptance is the key here, once you do that, everything else will fall into place for you.

[Lovelife090994]

You could be like me and many others, who you are attracted to changes and shifts. Most people who are straight tend to stay that way but even still because a man is straight does not mean he likes women sexually. I want the romance part but sometimes sexual attraction comes into to play with guys. You could be a person whose sexual and romantic attraction are different. It is not bad to have a more fluid sexuality but it does complicate things sometimes.

[Danagal]

Then don't be.

[Elysium]

Then don't be.
What do you mean, "don't be gay"? How is that helpful?

[marko08]

you sound like me - i do like boys, dream about boys when masturbating....but i am affraid of it, although i have had oral sex with boy once. But for me girls are number 1

[PurpleLips]

nothings wrong with being gay, it's ok if you are.

[SciMassKid]

You are what you are and there is nothing wrong with what you are whatever that might be.