Girl i like in school

[Fatmonkey88]

So I followed this girl I know from my school on twitter some while ago. After about 2 months I decided to make new friends and I wanted to be social so I dm'd here(direct message). We talked for about a week straight and kinda stopped. I didn't want to keep messaging her because during that week I always started the convos and she only texted me first once. After about a week I decided to add her on snapchat. We did that for a while and we hung out in real life too one day. This girl is beautiful and whenever I see her I feel like she is out of my league. She hangs out with all the popular kids at our school and I don't. I'm not an ugly person but I don't know why she would want me if I try and pursue her. It doesn't even feel like she wants to talk to me a lot since she's always talking with other boys. I feel really insecure and idk what do do. I've only felt this way about a girl one time in my life and that didn't turn out well. I'm in 10th grade and she's in11th btw. What do you guys think, what should I do and what could I do to higher my self esteem?

[Living For Love]

First you should only try to be her friend, then things could develop from there. Start to hang out more with her, but not too regularly, and talk to her over the social media as well. If you feel there's not a chance you two could date, then you're probably right, but that doesn't stop you from trying to be her friend.

[Fatmonkey88]

Thanks Ryanair, any other replies? I need advice

[Plasma]

I'd say just hang out with her more, and you might find out that she likes you too.

[Its Pretty]

You gotta be on top of things mang.

[Fatmonkey88]

Turned out the girl has a boyfriend too ��

[Croconaw]

You should wait until she is single and see how things work out.

[Cygnus]

Nothing is impossible man, show her that you, despite whatever insecurity, are willing to bring things further with her, then again, she does have a boyfriend, that might get you into trouble. Get close to her, and if she becomes single seize the opportunity.

[thesurvivalist]

First you should only try to be her friend, then things could develop from there. Start to hang out more with her, but not too regularly, and talk to her over the social media as well. If you feel there's not a chance you two could date, then you're probably right, but that doesn't stop you from trying to be her friend.
What? terrible advice, if she thinks you wanna be friends she won't look at you romantically, make your intentions clear when you meet

[Croconaw]

What? terrible advice, if she thinks you wanna be friends she won't look at you romantically, make your intentions clear when you meet
You need to develop a friendship before a relationship, though.

[thesurvivalist]

You need to develop a friendship before a relationship, though.

Absolutely not! Say you're flirting for 30 minutes or so, or maybe you're working a shift with a cute coworker (who happens to just be an acquaintance) and you get her number. You can just call her and ask her on a casual date like getting coffee or something just to get to know each other past the acquaintance level. Continue dating, maybe to new places like the park or something, etc. you get the point from here I assume. =)

[ImAurora]

Absolutely not! Say you're flirting for 30 minutes or so, or maybe you're working a shift with a cute coworker (who happens to just be an acquaintance) and you get her number. You can just call her and ask her on a casual date like getting coffee or something just to get to know each other past the acquaintance level. Continue dating, maybe to new places like the park or something, etc. you get the point from here I assume. =)

I agree with everyone else... you can't just start a relationship randomly out of the blue like that. Being friends is a gamble, I admit, but it can definitely pay off, and if not, you still have a new friend. Either way, you kind of win :)

[thesurvivalist]

I agree with everyone else... you can't just start a relationship randomly out of the blue like that. Being friends is a gamble, I admit, but it can definitely pay off, and if not, you still have a new friend. Either way, you kind of win :)

All my (good) relationships have come from getting to know each other by dating, and not being friends. I think you have mistaken my previous posts, as you use the saying "out of the blue". It's not like you're asking for a relationship as soon as you meet them, the point you have to get across is that you are attracted to them and want to get to know them better (and see if you can build mutual attraction between you and the girl).

[ImAurora]

Yeah I understand that, but sometimes starting with just friendship is better.

[thesurvivalist]

Yeah I understand that, but sometimes starting with just friendship is better.

Of course, there are always outliers to any survey. But for personal preference, I like to make my intentions known upfront, it makes things less awkward later and can allow for a more mature atmosphere on dates, instead of just the too casual "hanging out with friends" mood; imo.

[ImAurora]

Of course, there are always outliers to any survey. But for personal preference, I like to make my intentions known upfront, it makes things less awkward later and can allow for a more mature atmosphere on dates, instead of just the too casual "hanging out with friends" mood; imo.

Makes sense. I guess the way you said it just threw me off a bit.

[yonkers7]

Just be nice but not too over-bearing...things will work out

[Dat_cool_dude]

So I followed this girl I know from my school on twitter some while ago. After about 2 months I decided to make new friends and I wanted to be social so I dm'd here(direct message). We talked for about a week straight and kinda stopped. I didn't want to keep messaging her because during that week I always started the convos and she only texted me first once. After about a week I decided to add her on snapchat. We did that for a while and we hung out in real life too one day. This girl is beautiful and whenever I see her I feel like she is out of my league. She hangs out with all the popular kids at our school and I don't. I'm not an ugly person but I don't know why she would want me if I try and pursue her. It doesn't even feel like she wants to talk to me a lot since she's always talking with other boys. I feel really insecure and idk what do do. I've only felt this way about a girl one time in my life and that didn't turn out well. I'm in 10th grade and she's in11th btw. What do you guys think, what should I do and what could I do to higher my self esteem?

When I say the EXACT SITUATION I mean I am in the EXACT SITUATION other than she already says she doesn't like me. I don't really know what to do either.

[TheLivingLie]

Just get to know her well, that's what my friend is doing to the girl I used to like who is way out of both our leagues.

[Dwemer]

be yourself. make sure your comfortable around her and become friends. When thats done express your feelings to her.