Am I in love??? Please reply and also a very long post...

[death-metal]

Heyy!!! Sorry about my previous thread... I was drunk and was very upset.

I know this is a stupid question but oh well. Also I don't actually know where to post this but this seems to be a good place.

I've been talking to a girl since past few months. She is pretty and fun to be around with. Since the past couple of weeks I've been feeling different. I smile whenever I think about her and yes, this means i smile for like 16-19 hours a day ( the rest lf the time i'm asleep). I think i dream about her but I cant seem to remember what I dreamed about the night before. We spend alot of time chatting via viber.
Unfortunately( to me ) she has a boyfriend who doesn't treat her that well. He only talks to her whenever he wants to talk or whenever he wants to make out -.- . He treats her like dirt from time to time but still she loves him. He's 3 years older than both of us but is only a batch senior in school and this year is his last one and she's afraid he might leave him. She tells me everything about how he feels about other people and how she tried killing herself once because that dumb fuck treated her like she was no-one. -_-
Whenever she tells me about how she feels, I feel worse than i already feel. Sometimes i think i'm useless because i cant help her. I JUST WANT TO BE THERE FOR HER BUT I CAN'T.

Ok...now for the wierd part.
I'm 16 and straight (obviously) and like most of you guys, I, you know, wank. Whenever I try to do that, I remember her face and my sexual urges seem to calm down. It is normal right??? I cant masterbate while I think of her. (Yeah i tried to :/ ).

So what do you guys think?? Is this feeling "love"?? I've never felt this way ever before. Or is this just some stupid hormones forcing me to think like this?? Your help will be appreciated. And please reply!!! I seriously need your help!
And yeah, I get jealous too!

Also, if this is love, what do you think I should do?? Keep the feelings to myself or talk to her about it?? It maybe a bad idea...i'm kinda scared of loosing her. Its not everyday I get close to someone. Thanks!!

[Its Pretty]

It's your feelings man, You call the shots. About that 'wierd' part, maybe it's because you were 'friendzoned' and you feel like giving up.

[death-metal]

It's your feelings man, You call the shots. About that 'wierd' part, maybe it's because you were 'friendzoned' and you feel like giving up.

Nope!!! Its not because I was friendzoned lol haha...

Also...I cant exactly describe my feelings..

[Its Pretty]

Its okay man write a song about it or something... call the song 'friendzoned'. Every time I personally continue to talk to a girl I've had a crush on for a long time, they end up treating me like shit, even if I've really helped them somehow. For me It's less friendzoned and more like... bitchzoned.

[death-metal]

Its okay man write a song about it or something... call the song 'friendzoned'. Every time I personally continue to talk to a girl I've had a crush on for a long time, they end up treating me like shit, even if I've really helped them somehow. For me It's less friendzoned and more like... bitchzoned.

Haha...me being in a death metal band...the only thing I'm good at writing is about mutilating corpses and shits like that haha.
She treats me fine I guess. Everytime I'm upset, she tries to cheer me up. She makes funny faces and stuffs like that haha.
BTW thanks for replying. Its like most the users here just park their IDs to fool people.

[Living For Love]

If she makes you happy whenever she's near you, if she makes you smile just by looking at you, if she can cheer you up even when you're very depressed and if you feel you hearth beating a bit faster when she's walking towards you, then yes, I'd say you're in love with her. Problem is, she has a boyfriend, but I guess their relationship won't last much longer, those kind of relationships never do. You just need to wait for your opportunity, prove her that you can be a good boyfriend to her, someone she can always trust on. About that "masturbation thing", maybe it means that you are attracted to her in not only in a basic sexual way, but also, and most importantly, in a strong emotional way.

[death-metal]

If she makes you happy whenever she's near you, if she makes you smile just by looking at you, if she can cheer you up even when you're very depressed and if you feel you hearth beating a bit faster when she's walking towards you, then yes, I'd say you're in love with her. Problem is, she has a boyfriend, but I guess their relationship won't last much longer, those kind of relationships never do. You just need to wait for your opportunity, prove her that you can be a good boyfriend to her, someone she can always trust on. About that "masturbation thing", maybe it means that you are attracted to her in not only in a basic sexual way, but also, and most importantly, in a strong emotional way.

Dude, hell yeaahh!!!!
You are the best! Thank you!!
Thats exactly how she makes me feel!!!
Dude thank you so freaaking much!! haha

[Austins]

Dude, hell yeaahh!!!!
You are the best! Thank you!!
Thats exactly how she makes me feel!!!
Dude thank you so freaaking much!! haha

Like I said, back off of her she isn't your girlfirend. Besides even if you were to wait for them to break up you are obviously too deep in the friendzone and just hitting on her after thinking of you as only a friend would probably anger her.

[hockeyfan]

U obviously really like her. Talk about the subject of breaking up. See wat she says. Wait a while after the break up to ask her out.

[death-metal]

Like I said, back off of her she isn't your girlfirend. Besides even if you were to wait for them to break up you are obviously too deep in the friendzone and just hitting on her after thinking of you as only a friend would probably anger her.
Dude let me explain what is actually going on:
First thing, I never wanted to talk to her. Her boyfriend was treating her like shit and she wanted someone to talk to. And then she found me so I don't think its me who is after her. Second thing, I just wanted to make sure that what I felt was real feelings not just some stupid hormones.
And no, I won't be hitting on her even after they break up. I promised I'll be there for even in the most difficult situation and that is what I intend on doing. And if we somehow get together like that, it wouldn't be knowingly.
Also, I feel sorry for her. Her boyfriend literally treats her like toilet paper. He comes to her only when he needs to .Whenever he wants to make out he goes to her. And when she says she doesn't want to his reply is mostly "Then go fuck yourself or do you want something to suck something??" He was this incredibly good guy when he first hit on her and then she fell for him, badly!! And after 2 months, he treats her like shit. Seriously???? She tries not to cry but when we talk, she mostly does and I hate seeing her like this. The guy she's dating has 3 girlfriends right now and she is not aware of that.
So I think you know what I was trying to say.
U obviously really like her. Talk about the subject of breaking up. See wat she says. Wait a while after the break up to ask her out.
Yes I DO like her. And I dont need to talk about them breaking up. She usually brings it up herself. Our convo goes like this most of the time. let us consider her boyfriend's name to be B
She: Heyy!!! :(
Me: Hii! Whats wrong??
She: B yelled at me today again.
Me:( I kinda get upset and she notices too)
She: (starts crying) I really want the things between us to end but I cant tell B. He'll probably beat the shit out of me. I love him soo much but all he cares about is about other girls and his games. He doesn't even ask me how i feel these days.
And this is when i get so angry. She deserves better!! And i dont mean I can treat her better but still...

Oh and yeah...B once called her a bitch because she didn't let him touch her breasts. And she almost cried. Whenever she is about to cry, he calls her weak and then doesn't talk to her for few days. This really wants to make me beat the shit out of the guy. He hits on other girls, they ignore him and he comes to be with her and tries to kiss her and when she aska him how his day went he'll say something like " Do u even care???" or "Cant u just shut up for a minute??? Cant u just sit quietly or do u want to suck something?"
I'm not making these stuffs up...this is exactly how it goes evenrytime.

[Romaana]

Tell her.bye

[death-metal]

Tell her.bye

How??? I'm afraid it'll ruin our friendship.

[Waleedbt]

Dude, you have to tell her to leave the guy.
And do not tell how you feel now! Its like hitting her while she is weak, she'll either react good or plain quiet and will avoid talking.

I would never understand how i guy would beat up a girl for breaking up with him, where is the humanity ? Where are her parents? This is another reason i dont understand relationships.
I respect you man, you do really care, ive been in your position before, and honeslty., i did nothing, she ended it herself, thats what the girl you like should do to, he doesnt own her.

I wish you the very best.

[death-metal]

Dude, you have to tell her to leave the guy.
And do not tell how you feel now! Its like hitting her while she is weak, she'll either react good or plain quiet and will avoid talking.

I would never understand how i guy would beat up a girl for breaking up with him, where is the humanity ? Where are her parents? This is another reason i dont understand relationships.
I respect you man, you do really care, ive been in your position before, and honeslty., i did nothing, she ended it herself, thats what the girl you like should do to, he doesnt own her.

I wish you the very best.

Well TBH I think she knows how I feel. But I wont be telling her about it now. I'll just try to be there for her. Thats all I really care about right now. The guy can go to full retard mode sometime. He calls her to sit with him then completey ignores her. And when he is "busy" with his friends and she calls him then he pushes her away and then continues to talk with his friends. And after he is done talking, he holds her hand and tries to kiss her. And if she doesn't want to he'll just tell something stated before. When he first "leave" her for another girl, the girl i like tried to kill herself. He found out about it and apologized but again after exactly 2 days I saw him kissing another girl. I wanted to tell her about it but I didn't. It'd break her into thousand peices and I will be more miserable than I already am.Thanks btw man!

[Romaana]

How??? I'm afraid it'll ruin our friendship.

Would you rather live with regret?. You just gotta take the chance.

[death-metal]

Would you rather live with regret?. You just gotta take the chance.

Well, the answer is pretty obvious but still...what if she ignores me for the rest of her life? And I know she'll do something very stupid if I dont watch her back.

[Romaana]

Well, the answer is pretty obvious but still...what if she ignores me for the rest of her life? And I know she'll do something very stupid if I dont watch her back.

Tell her before hand if she dont feel the same way you still want her in your life you still wanna be there for her

[death-metal]

Tell her before hand if she dont feel the same way you still want her in your life you still wanna be there for her

I told her today and gurss what...she smiled like crazy. Haha then we talked for an hour then she said "Wish B (lets consider her bf's name B) was like you" and then she started to cry. She then started talking about how she wants to leave him but she can't because she loves him no matter what he does to her and how she is scared of him.
All I did was hold her hands and listen to her. I feel ao sorry for her.

[Romaana]

I told her today and gurss what...she smiled like crazy. Haha then we talked for an hour then she said "Wish B (lets consider her bf's name B) was like you" and then she started to cry. She then started talking about how she wants to leave him but she can't because she loves him no matter what he does to her and how she is scared of him.
All I did was hold her hands and listen to her. I feel ao sorry for her.

You just need to show her that what her and B got aint love cause if he loved her he wouldnt treat her like that stay by her side and make her fall for you. :) good luck

[death-metal]

You just need to show her that what her and B got aint love cause if he loved her he wouldnt treat her like that stay by her side and make her fall for you. :) good luck

Thank you soo much! :)

[Romaana]

Thank you soo much! :)

Haha for what? You did everything yourself

[death-metal]

Haha for what? You did everything yourself

Atleast youtried to help me.
And yeah...I think they're about to break up. She is tired of him for always disrespecting her and now she talks to me more than she doesnwith him. He on the other hand hasn't even asked her if she is okay let alone asking her out for valentines.

[Romaana]

Atleast youtried to help me.
And yeah...I think they're about to break up. She is tired of him for always disrespecting her and now she talks to me more than she doesnwith him. He on the other hand hasn't even asked her if she is okay let alone asking her out for valentines.

Thats greqt :) good luck.

[death-metal]

Thats greqt :) good luck.

Well I'd need luck thats for sure. She still doesn't know what to do and still cries everytime she gets reminded of him or anything that reminds her of him.
I seriously dont know what to do...

[Romaana]

Well I'd need luck thats for sure. She still doesn't know what to do and still cries everytime she gets reminded of him or anything that reminds her of him.
I seriously dont know what to do...

Times a healer. She needs you know more than ever cause she loves him but once shes over him she'l always remember you for that. Just dont give up on her

[death-metal]

Times a healer. She needs you know more than ever cause she loves him but once shes over him she'l always remember you for that. Just dont give up on her

I hope so. I hate seeing her like this...
I won't give up on her. I know I wont!
Thanks !