Does she like me? am I friend zoned? thanks!

[Snowblind13]

Hi Guys,
I never planned to join all the people who put posts like this on here but I'm going to do it anyway!
Here goes:
So there is this girl in my year at school, she is incredibly nice, and very smart and pretty. I have always felt like I may have had something for her but over the past three months I have really felt something. A month and a half ago we where friends, we sat next to each other in the classes we had together and it was going well. However there was this other guy who obviously liked her and eventually he was coxed by his friends to ask her out and she said yes. This killed me but I came to terms with it and then we had the Christmas break so I had time to get back to normal. After the break things changed, I lost my phone during the break and didn't find it until we started back up at school again. I told her I lost it and when I found it I texted her I did. For that point on things changed. We have texted each other everyday for the last two weeks, it started with me starting everytime but now she is starting regularly as well. I spend more time with her han her boyfriend does because we are in the same lessons but there is one activity which we all do together. When they first started going out, they where always hanging out and talking but now she is hanging with me much more and often doesn't really speak to him that much, often when she talks to him she is also talking to me. this means I can't help but think she likes me but she seems to be fine with her boyfriend, even thought I think we have for fun and have more in common with each other!

My issue is I can't tell if she just likes me as a good boy-friend rather than a potential boyfriend. There are just little things like we put xx when saying good night to each other but I once tryed to put x during regular texting and she ignored it. I'm not sure if she felt she should'nt put x for someone who's not her boyfriend even if she has feeling for them or if she just doesn't. A few months ago we where both drunk and she said we where just friends, but I feel like that may be different now. However she is going out with another guy. Also there is a valentines dinner at school and when a friend asked her if she and the boyfriend are going she said she is not sure. I feel if she liked me she would be trying to tone down her relationship to start out with me, so not going to valentine dinners.

Does anyone offer opinion or advice? Am I "friendzoning" myself? Could she like me?

Thanks very much for reading! I would love any sort of response.

Mark.

[Synyster Shadows]

I can't say for sure. You need to ask her straight up what she thinks of you. No one here can tell you how some other person we don't know feels about you, as we don't know enough about you, nor her. You have to talk to her. And please, do it face-to-face. This isn't something that you should do over text or social media or whatever. Good luck

[TheRedViper]

You're situation is incredibly similar to one I had, so I think I can help a bit.

I've been friends with a very pretty and popular girl for about a year and a half now. We started out as just friends but then became pretty much best friends. We were always together at school, often just by ourselves taking, and we'd text each other heaps when out of school, even at weird hours like 2am. She also had a boyfriend, and he was 18 and didn't go to school anymore, so he was like three years older than we were. They'd been going out for ages, but from everything she told me it seemed like they weren't that close, and they were only still together because he bought her heaps of stuff and in return she let him have sex with her. Not exactly what you'd call a deep or meaningful relationship. And her, despite all their fights and 'break-ups' they still stayed together. She would often tell me though that I cared about her more than he did, and she trusted me more. When she told me she broke up with him I asked her out, but she said no. I felt depressed cause I thought I ruined our friendship, which was more important to me than us going out. But later via text while she was really drunk and/or high at a party she told me that she said no because she thought I was too good for her and she was too damaged and she wouldn't want us fighting. After this we kept being great friends, but I realised we are probably best just being friends, however much I wanted to go out with her.

Personally I'd say she just prefers you as a good boy-friend. That's how it was with my friend. We were very close, and she'd often tell me she loved me, but more in a way like she trusted me and loved me as a friend. Occasionally she'd ask if I would be her rebound if she and her boyfriend broke up, and I said yes, but we both knew it would only be for sex and nothing more. We were fine with this, though nothing came of it. I think that she feels more comfortable with you just being a very good and close friend to her, and there's nothing wrong with that. She might not appear to be very close with her boyfriend, but that doesn't mean they don't still want to be together. Believe me, my friend and her boyfriend outright hated each other at points but still kept together for over a year now. You should probably tell her how you feel and see how she reacts, but don't blame her if she only wants to be friends. She might be used to heaps of guys just wanting to go out with her, and she thinks you're special because you are just friends.

[nachorip]

You are deep in the friendzone

[Croconaw]

If you really want to know if she likes you, just ask her. At least you'll have closure.

[clueless_one]

Just tell her you like her. If she likes you back or not she will tell you and if you explain that you don't want to ruin friendships and still be friends with her she would understand about continuing to be friends with you. You telling her you like her isn't asking her to be in a relationship its just telling her how you feel. Its just courteous to reply saying how you feel back.

[Cooper197]

General rule about the Friend Zone.
If you have to ask if you are in the Friend Zone, you're deeeeeeeeeep in it.

[hoboliz]

Thing about the friend zone is, the phrase "friend zone" is really insulting. Just a heads up, you should probably not use it with her. So, the only way to get an honest answer is to ask an honest question. If she's really a friend and you really like her, you have to open up to her, and accept that the answer might suck. If you can't still be her friend if the answer sucks, don't bring it up.