How do you survive fighting parents?

[someone33]

I'm a 15 year old girl whose life feels like it's falling apart. I always used to think k my parents had a strong and stable relationship until I started hearing the fights. Now they barely talk to each other and sleep in separate rooms. Me and my sister have never had a good relationship but now it is 10 times worse. We can't make it through a week without fights that leave us and our parents crying. I've told my parents they should see a counselor but they just shake it off and say they're not at that point. I am such a mental mess right now. I'm not close enough to anybody that I feel I can talk to and I don't like to admit there is a problem. I'm smart enough to know this is not my fault and it is not the worst case scenario (nobody died or anything) but then why do I feel like everything is going wrong? Can someone please help me to survive this mess?

[SecretlyKnown]

A good website to go on is http://blahtherapy.com/ You can vent your problem and get help by councillors or other teenagers.

[WeAreOneRepublic]

I went through a more minor situation as yours and it is truly terrible and a psychologist/counsellor is what they need, there doesn't have to be a certain stage. Just try to avoid dwelling on it and use a coping strategy to get away when it is really bad. It will sort it self out, do they know how much it is impacting you? And you might even find benefit in going to your school psych or counsellor.

[Loner_97]

It's your parents. you look up to them. You have the right to feel this bad. Just because they are grown ups you can't expect them to be perfect. I think all you can do is make sure YOU don't worsen the situation and maybe try to stay away from the fights. Also talk to your sister about all of this, I think that might help.IF it gets worse then talk to your parents, tell them all of this. They will do what they think is best.

[Reghan]

If you hear them fight, you can always go in your room and turn up your music really loud. Whenever my family is fighting that's what I do. Or you can oovoo with your friends or something. Just try to ignore it.

[Something Creative]

My parents went through a pretty bad fight not too long ago. It wasn't divorce bad, but it was still pretty damn bad. It all started with a ridiculously petty argument, which I ignored, cause that happens pretty often. Next thing I know, they're not talking to each other and sleeping in separate bedrooms. This went on for at least a couple of weeks, and it drove me absolutely crazy. Their marriage has always been pretty good, so I wasn't used to all the hostility at home. You can't keep all those feelings inside of you, it'll drive you crazy. I talked about it with my sister, and when I couldn't stand being home I'd just go to my best friend's place and stay there as long as possible. That was my place to vent, cause I really needed to talk to someone outside from home. When me and my sister finally got the courage to confront them about the shit they're putting us through, they just sort of...made up. They said they talked about their issues, and that they'll sort it out like normal people would, without stressing us out about stuff that we shouldn't worry about.

That's what you need to do too. You need to confront them and let them know how the whole mess is affecting you. If not, it'll go on for a looooong time, cause people are just stubborn. If you give them a reason to shut up about it and act civil, they probably will. You need a place to vent too. Talk to your sister, a friend, someone. You can't keep it all bottled up inside.

[Stronk Serb]

My parents are divorced, but when there is a fight between me and one of them, if it's pointless I just say I don't want to talk and go to my room and listen to loud music or go outside. If it has an effect on me, I go attritiom, essentially wearing them down so that I get away intact.