Serious Relationship Advice

[jebermudez]

I am dating a girl, who I think is very nice and I like spending time with her. But I am now sure that I am gay. I am not attracted to her, but I still like spending time with her. Last weekend we made out for the first time, which I didn't mid doing, but I didn't feel any excitement sexually. I know I have done wrong to her not breaking up with her, but we are happy together and I am not ready to come out of the closet, so I don't have a valid reason to break up with her. Also I don't want to loose her as a friend. But this is the real problem, she has been texting my friends saying she wants to go further. My worry is that if she does want to give me hj or bj, that I wont be able to get a boner, and will have to end up telling her. How do I avoid having to do hj or bj without it souding like I was gay and how do I explain this to my friends who now know that we are fully capable of doing this. I am open to letting her do it to me but I don't know what will hapen. Also is there any way of getting an enhancement pill that isnt a perscription? This could be a solution? Has anybody else had a similar problem? Thanks a bunch.

[Living For Love]

While she's doing it, you can think about gay crushes you have, and it may work, but I'm pretty sure that even though you're gay it's kinda difficult not to get a boner whether it's a guy or a girl doing it, I don't think you have to worry about that. The problem is that sooner or later you'll have to tell her you're gay, or until she finds out. Maybe just keep things going on naturally with her until it starts to lose interest, you two will eventually break up, or when she finds out there's not that "sparkle" between you two.