Why??? Why do i get so jealous?? Why cant someone kill me instead??

[death-metal]

Why do i get so jealous?? Why??? I don't freaking get it. I've finally found someone who i think I can trust. She's not single though. Everytime I see her holding hands with her boyfriend, I get jealous.

After that I always mess things up. We are talking and all of a sudden I bring topics about her boyfriend and then get moody for no apparent reason.

I mean seriously, I hate myself right now. I just want someone to kill me!! Arghhh!!!!

[death-metal]

I always get jealous about all the little things she does with other people. Now she's not even talking to me!! I want to....

[Austins]

Why do i get so jealous?? Why??? I don't freaking get it. I've finally found someone who i think I can trust. She's not single though. Everytime I see her holding hands with her boyfriend, I get jealous.

After that I always mess things up. We are talking and all of a sudden I bring topics about her boyfriend and then get moody for no apparent reason.

I mean seriously, I hate myself right now. I just want someone to kill me!! Arghhh!!!!

You should first worry about the fact you are chasing after a girl who is taken. Its guys like you who I have to beat up when they are "friends" with my own girlfriend, my advice just be her friend or leave.

[TheRedViper]

Ignore the answer above mine. I can relate to you a lot, and believe me when I say I know how much it sucks. Over the past year and a half I've been really great friends with a very attractive and popular girl, which is a first for me, since I'm very quiet and shy. She had/has (not quite sure right now) a boyfriend who was two and a half years older than her. She was 15 until a month ago, and he was 18. He didn't go to school anymore so luckily I never met him, but she always talked about him and them and the stuff they did. And by that I mean very detailed recounts of them having sex. I was massively in the friendzone with her, and got really pissed off and and jealous whenever she talked about her boyfriend and her. It felt really unfair because she always talked about how he was so rude and uncaring toward her, and only used her for sex. They got in a fight once and she told him that I cared about her more than he did. I asked her out once, but she said no because I was too good for her and she was too damaged and she wouldn't want us fighting (her words). I also got very, very moody and quiet whenever she discussed with her other friends of even me about the stories of them having sex and doing other crazy stuff. I can tell you, nothing gets more annoying than hearing "last night he [her boyfriend] did anal on me, but it kind of hurt" or even "last night I cheated on him by having sex with five guys at a party." I never saw them together at all, but these comments were pretty infuriating as well. My advice, just don't bring up any topics about him or them together, and maybe even let her know it annoys you when she talks about him. As to the handholding and stuff, there really isn't much you can do. They are going out, and have the right to do that, even if it angers you. My friend and I are still great friends, and she trusts me more than anyone, but it still annoys me whenever she talks about them. There isn't much you can do. Just try to focus on only being her friend, like I do with my friend. With me I know we'd make a horrible couple, since I'd never approve of most of her behaviour, and she'd probably cheat on me like she does with all her other boyfriends. We're probably better off as friends, however much I want us to be together and have sex with her (which is half of the issue). Just try to be friends instead of anything more, and who knows, maybe she and her boyfriend will break up sometime. You may have a chance then.

[death-metal]

Ignore the answer above mine. I can relate to you a lot, and believe me when I say I know how much it sucks. Over the past year and a half I've been really great friends with a very attractive and popular girl, which is a first for me, since I'm very quiet and shy. She had/has (not quite sure right now) a boyfriend who was two and a half years older than her. She was 15 until a month ago, and he was 18. He didn't go to school anymore so luckily I never met him, but she always talked about him and them and the stuff they did. And by that I mean very detailed recounts of them having sex. I was massively in the friendzone with her, and got really pissed off and and jealous whenever she talked about her boyfriend and her. It felt really unfair because she always talked about how he was so rude and uncaring toward her, and only used her for sex. They got in a fight once and she told him that I cared about her more than he did. I asked her out once, but she said no because I was too good for her and she was too damaged and she wouldn't want us fighting (her words). I also got very, very moody and quiet whenever she discussed with her other friends of even me about the stories of them having sex and doing other crazy stuff. I can tell you, nothing gets more annoying than hearing "last night he [her boyfriend] did anal on me, but it kind of hurt" or even "last night I cheated on him by having sex with five guys at a party." I never saw them together at all, but these comments were pretty infuriating as well. My advice, just don't bring up any topics about him or them together, and maybe even let her know it annoys you when she talks about him. As to the handholding and stuff, there really isn't much you can do. They are going out, and have the right to do that, even if it angers you. My friend and I are still great friends, and she trusts me more than anyone, but it still annoys me whenever she talks about them. There isn't much you can do. Just try to focus on only being her friend, like I do with my friend. With me I know we'd make a horrible couple, since I'd never approve of most of her behaviour, and she'd probably cheat on me like she does with all her other boyfriends. We're probably better off as friends, however much I want us to be together and have sex with her (which is half of the issue). Just try to be friends instead of anything more, and who knows, maybe she and her boyfriend will break up sometime. You may have a chance then.

Dude, we've got the same problem. Only in my case, I dont talk much but i'm not shy, I dont really fall for people that easily but i did fall for her and the girl's boyfriend is three years older than her but is a batch senior and is in the same school we study in. Also, the girl is very loyal and modest. She too complains about her boyfriend being rude to her and only talks to her whenever he wants to and whenever he is bored.

She's closer to me than she's with her friends and her boyfriend. Even though he gets mad at her for no apparent reason and scolds her and other bad stuffs, she still loves him. I feel sorry for her :(

And yeah, I'm not behind her because she's beautiful and beautiful and want to sleep with her...She makes me feel special and thats why I think I love her.

Anyway thanks man.!!! I'm glad you answered. Most of the people on the forums only answer when the topics about sex and stuffs like that.

P.S: Austin, if you beat up alot of boys just because they've got feelings for your little girl, then you can fvck yourself. -.- Theres no need to brad about it!


And also sorry for an Emo-ish type of header/topic. I was kinda drunk and didn't knew I posted this here. Haha

[Austins]

Dude, we've got the same problem. Only in my case, I dont talk much but i'm not shy, I dont really fall for people that easily but i did fall for her and the girl's boyfriend is three years older than her but is a batch senior and is in the same school we study in. Also, the girl is very loyal and modest. She too complains about her boyfriend being rude to her and only talks to her whenever he wants to and whenever he is bored.

She's closer to me than she's with her friends and her boyfriend. Even though he gets mad at her for no apparent reason and scolds her and other bad stuffs, she still loves him. I feel sorry for her :(

And yeah, I'm not behind her because she's beautiful and beautiful and want to sleep with her...She makes me feel special and thats why I think I love her.

Anyway thanks man.!!! I'm glad you answered. Most of the people on the forums only answer when the topics about sex and stuffs like that.

P.S: Austin, if you beat up alot of boys just because they've got feelings for your little girl, then you can fvck yourself. -.- Theres no need to brad about it!


And also sorry for an Emo-ish type of header/topic. I was kinda drunk and didn't knew I posted this here. Haha


It isnt if they have feelings for her, but when they lurk around the corner waiting for a chance to pounce on the girl they like, similar to your situation. It is plain disrespectful and that is why I will beat them. Still you should not interfere with their relationship

[Paladino]

I agree with Austins on this one, Thankfully in my relationship just now nobody is going after my girl, but before in past relationships they have and it is just plain disrespectful. How do you think it makes the boyfriend feel, when some guy is lurking around just waiting for the chance of them to fall out and they know all about it?! Please just go for a girl that ISN'T taken!

[The Trendy Wolf]

I agree with Austins on this one, Thankfully in my relationship just now nobody is going after my girl, but before in past relationships they have and it is just plain disrespectful. How do you think it makes the boyfriend feel, when some guy is lurking around just waiting for the chance of them to fall out and they know all about it?! Please just go for a girl that ISN'T taken!
It's just the way guys are. They're competitive, and besides, he can't help his feeling for her.

[Paladino]

It's just the way guys are. They're competitive, and besides, he can't help his feeling for her.

That's true and when I have been single before I have seen it from his point of view, but you have to look at it from the boyfriends point of view as well. If two people are happy why try and fuck that up?

[The Trendy Wolf]

That's true and when I have been single before I have seen it from his point of view, but you have to look at it from the boyfriends point of view as well. If two people are happy why try and fuck that up?

He isn't trying to "fuck it up" because he's simply expressing his own feelings.

[Paladino]

Let me ask you this then, if you had a girlfriend that you really loved and cared about(which I'm assuming you haven't if you're saying this), how would you feel if some guy was just lurking in your shadows waiting for you two to have an arguement so he could make a move?

[The Trendy Wolf]

Let me ask you this then, if you had a girlfriend that you really loved and cared about(which I'm assuming you haven't if you're saying this), how would you feel if some guy was just lurking in your shadows waiting for you two to have an arguement so he could make a move?
Initially, I most likely would be angry with him. If I did truly care for the girl, despite the fact that I am gay, I would certainly defend our relationship, but I would also have to respect his own feelings as well.

[Paladino]

I think that if a girl is taken, then the boy who has feelings for her should understand this and respect the relationship and back off!

[Saint of Sinners]

I think that if a girl is taken, then the boy who has feelings for her should understand this and respect the relationship and back off!

I have to agree with this. I'm sorry, but even though you might like her as well, she chose him, and you have to respect that. Have you ever considered that he might like her just as much, if not more than you?

[death-metal]

Guys, I get what you're saying and I totally respect that but can you please refer to this post and reply here again?
www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=201454

it explains everything in detail.
And also, I respect that she's taken but I'm not the one trying to grt close to her. She needed someone to talk to and she found me so...i dont see any problem there