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Croconaw
January 22nd, 2014, 08:42 PM
Before I start, I will never use peoples' real names. It is this way for privacy reasons.
I'm going to attempt to keep this as brief as possible, but I really need advice right now. Just so you're not confused, I will clear this up immediately. WM is a career school that sends kids from local regular schools to get a head start at their career. It is completely optional though.

I'm in tenth grade in high school and I attend another school (which will be referred to as WM) for the morning session. I absolutely have no interest in the course I am taking at WM. You're probably wondering why I signed up for the class in the first place, right? The reason is because I thought it would be nice to try something new. I can't lie; I joined also because I wanted friends. Clearly, that wasn't the correct way to go about making, or in my case, finding friends. I figured I could find someone to become friends with within the twelve sending schools that send to WM. I did meet this one girl, though (I'll call her L, but she is in eleventh grade). She is a very nice person and we have the same exact interests. This is the first person I've ever been close with. Throughout the time I spent at WM, though, I've really despised going there everyday. The great thing is, I can drop out in June and attend my regular school for a full day. All I really have to do is not put it on my schedule.

Surprisingly, L knew that I wasn't fond of being there. Back in October I tried to drop out, but I decided to stay. At that point, I didn't really know what was stopping me. I had my mind set on dropping out. Later, it came to me that the reason I just couldn't bring myself to leave is L. I became really good friends with her and I couldn't just leave. This was one of our conversations from last week, actually:

Me: You know I hate it here, right?
L: Yeah, you don't do anything. *smiles*
Me: I should have dropped out when I had the chance.
L: Why didn't you? (confused)
Me: I guess it's because I wanted to stay and be friends with you.
L: It's fine, you know. A lot of my friends here dropped out. (sort of upset, confused)

Apparently she is aware that I hate it there. I'm not asking for help on whether I should stay or go. Besides, I already made my schedule for next year and WM is not on it. I have until June here, because that's when I can quit. I'm just asking for general advice. I'm kind of worried that I won't ever see L again because we both attend different school districts.

Thank you if you read this. I appreciate any advice you might have.

Living For Love
January 23rd, 2014, 09:32 AM
At least she knows it's the fact that you want to keep the friendship with her that's causing you not to drop out already. That must mean something to her. Even if you drop out, you can sometimes meet her outside school. Just make sure she knows you like to be her friend and that it's not your intention to leave her, you just don't want to attend WM, that's all, even though it was worth it because you met her.

Were
January 24th, 2014, 03:44 AM
you can still be friends even if you don't attend WM anymore,you can meet up and spend sometime together outside school and besides you can keep in touch too by texting or calling

Croconaw
January 25th, 2014, 04:42 PM
Thanks for the advice! I'll see her on Monday in the event that the weather is decent. Though, I'll bring this up with her closer to the end of the year.

Carson99
January 28th, 2014, 01:29 PM
You have talked about only one side of the coin. Is there no advantage to attending a "vocational" high school? I mean a "career-oriented" high school?

If you are ignoring those benefits and only seeing the disadvantages (you don't say much about why you don't like it there) then you might think more clearly about changes.

It's great that you found one person you can talk openly and honestly with. Though you need to wait till later to discuss this issue? Just how wonderful is this friendship?

In my mind, if there is a special spark there, and you both put a bit of effort into it, it can survive the daytime separation. Not WILL, but CAN. I fear it's not that close to begin with. I take it that at your old school, you would be returning to the old friends and situations (as though nothing changed)? How true is that?

You are at a crossroads, please don't base it all on a couple of friendships unless there is something spectacular. Make some smart business choices about the rest of your life.