Unsure what to do about my friend

[Pizzahead]

Firstly if this is in the wrong spot can someone move it

Ok so about a week ago a person i know in school said his parents had been fighting i also got the feeling that he isint happy at home. Today he came into school with a circlular cut on his hand(it looked almost like he was stabbed with a pencil or pen,it was that sort of shape and size) when he was asked about it he said he doesnt know where he got it from and changed the subject.

So i was wondering if he may be self harming or getting hurt at home. Or do u think i am over reacting and its nothing

If it is what i think it is do u think i should go to the guidence counsler or should i wait for something that proves he is self harming

[fordgtguy]

hes old enough to make his own decisions not yours

[Pizzahead]

hes old enough to make his own decisions not yours

Yeah i know but im worried that if he is self harming that he will get worse so i came hear first for advice

[fordgtguy]

Yeah i know but im worried that if he is self harming that he will get worse so i came hear first for advice

Well then approach him about it and ask him dont tell a counselor because if his parents are doing whatever and child services or whatever gets called you could just ruin his life hes 15 im sure he can stand up for himself

[nearwales]

similar things happened to me when I first SHed, I was worried about home life and burned myself but I didnt let anyone really talk about it and noone pushed me too. it only gets worse and this might sound silly but it is really hard to stop. I wouldnt go to anyone but the person you are concerned about right now, it is probably nothing or they may just need support right now. I wouldn't confront them about it yet, just make it ckear you care and are there if they need you.

[ausley]

Yeah if he's your friend just be there for him. ask him about it and reassure him that he can count on you and you care about him and he will eventually open up. If he is self harming just try to keep him from thinking about it. When people cut they don't want to be reminded of why they cut and its kind of awkward to bring up and talk about. hangout with him and be his shield ya know?

[firewurk]

I think the best idea would be to talk to him about it.
But then again, some people who self harm really hate talking about that sort of stuff.
I dunno your friend personally, but what you can do is talk to him about his problems at home.
Let him know that he's not alone.
That you're there for him, yunno?

[Pizzahead]

The problem is he is really quiet and sort of changes the subject or becomes withdrawen if i ask how he is