Backing Out of a Threesome?

[newyorker19]

Okay, so I have been dating my girlfriend for little over a year and we have been sexually active. We had the idea (for fun, not because our relationship is stale) of having a threesome with our male friend.

We introduced the idea to him and he was going along with the idea for the most part. The three of us had a long, informative conversation. Although we never said anything to our friend, but my girlfriend and I want to back out because we love each other too much and realized that our ideas with the situation don't align with our friend's.

My girlfriend and I were interested in a thing where it was just sexual, not emotional, and with someone that can be trusted, like our friend. Both of us got the impression that our friend is interested in something emotional, kind of like sharing my girlfriend. Because of our love and his interpretation of the situation, we are not interested anymore.

Our friend is somewhat fragile emotionally and we don't want to hurt his feelings. We're looking for some help on how to fix this. Ideas we've come up with:
-Wait to see if our friend backs out because he was still unsure
-Say that I'm not comfortable with the idea of having my girlfriend be with someone else sexually (somewhat of a lie)
-Try to deter our friend by being kind of awkward/no chemistry

We love this friend dearly and we regret doing this. We want nothing more than to leave this unscathed, friendships intact, and having our friend be flattered.

Any ideas are welcome and appreciated!

[Tenoka]

Just tell him that you two had time to think about it And you decided not to. Or just pretend you're into some freaky stuff and make him change his mind.

[etfboy]

Dude no if you are gonna do a threesome do it with a another girl instead not a dude, are you crazy?!

[JollyToes]

Don't bring it up again and if he keeps asking or insisting on an answer, in order to save his feelings, just tell him either you or she backed out after thinking it over. If u and ur gf end up doing something with another guy or girl he obviously can never find out. Oh and don't listen to ppl if they say it should just be a grl. Do what you and ur gf want to do...

[etfboy]

For a serious answer i agree with jollytoes just dont bring up the subject again and eventually you guy will forget about that.

[Living For Love]

Just tell him your girlfriend thought about it better and she decided not to do it, which isn't really lying, so you don't have to worry.

[AlexOnToast]

Dude no if you are gonna do a threesome do it with a another girl instead not a dude, are you crazy?!

That's beside the point - If he want's to do a MMF threesome theres nothing wrong with that

To the OP, I think it would be beast just to explain the situation to your friend in a way that wont hurt his feelings, like telling him that you both feel kinda uncomfortable. Sometimes a tiny white lie is appropriate to spare someones feelings

[Waleedbt]

Hes a guy, he can handle it! Plus, lets not forget the fact that you and your girlfriend came up to him, not the other way around, in another sense its not like " not keeping your word ".

I'm sorry but on your point of sharing your girl friend sexually just made me sick.

[everlong]

Dude no if you are gonna do a threesome do it with a another girl instead not a dude, are you crazy?!

That has nothing to do with this...

[newyorker19]

Thank you to those you have given thoughtful responses.

At this point, my girlfriend and I are choosing to be quiet and see if he backs out. If not, then probably say one of us is uncomfortable. We did think about being absolutely honest and say we were only interested in sex, and nothing emotional. We're just afraid that it'd hurt his feelings.

Again, thank you!