My boyfriend rejects me sexually

[thebaddest416]

My boyfriend is a christian, we've been dating for 11 months and we want to get married once im 19, I know its young but we REALLY love eachother and we want to stay together for the rest of our lives and our parents are ok with it. Im 17 and he is 18. He wants to wait until marriage to have sex with me.He is a virgin but Im not.He thinks Im a virgin
When he first told me he wants to wait until were married to have sex i didnt know he was that serious.. Every time were kissing and touching on a bed he gets a boner , Sometimes he lets me give him a hand job while were kissing but nothing more than that,he always gets mad after and says'' we arent supposed to do more than kissing''(where is it written in the bible??) and then he ignores me he doesnt want to have sex with me or give him a bl*wjob, he always pushes me away Even when he touches me he gets mad at me like i was controlling his hands and he says ''why did you let me touch you? youre supposed to tell me to back off'' he gets mad at me for his own actions .. i think its ridiculous... He acts like someone is watching us or like I have a std or something. 90% of christians arent virgin so i dont know whats wrong with him. I dont want to wait 2 years before having sex with him.
He already let me give him a hand job after 11 months so why wont he have sex with me ? Im a christian too, and i respect his choice but its just stupid. When he's hard, he always blaim me and I know he likes it when I seduce him but he still gets mad at me
Every time we talk about it he doesnt even want to hear my opinion, And im scared he finds out im not a virgin when we get married, he says i act to ''dirty'' for a virgin.. I really want to have sex with him how can i convince him?



& please answer my other question (i cant post the link go on my profile)

[the_dude69]

Self image problems if you want my opinion. Nothing is worse than holding an erection without a happy ending. I am really shocked that he is not doing anything. It's acting against everything in our dna. He doesn't reject you sexually hes rejecting himself from the looks of it he is small and ashamed

[jmx100]

ok well he may fell very strongly about that if you are a Christian you must not have sex before you get married and also there are many types of Christianity and some have different thing about that but I don't know what to say but that's all the help I can give you sorry

[Forsakenbymyself]

I'n my opinion you should talk to him, seriously. And if he doesn't change his attitude or attacks you for asking to speak about it, i would consider breaking up with him.

[Fireangel]

My boyfriend is a christian, we've been dating for 11 months and we want to get married once im 19, I know its young but we REALLY love eachother and we want to stay together for the rest of our lives and our parents are ok with it. Im 17 and he is 18. He wants to wait until marriage to have sex with me.He is a virgin but Im not.He thinks Im a virgin
When he first told me he wants to wait until were married to have sex i didnt know he was that serious.. Every time were kissing and touching on a bed he gets a boner , Sometimes he lets me give him a hand job while were kissing but nothing more than that,he always gets mad after and says'' we arent supposed to do more than kissing''(where is it written in the bible??) and then he ignores me he doesnt want to have sex with me or give him a bl*wjob, he always pushes me away Even when he touches me he gets mad at me like i was controlling his hands and he says ''why did you let me touch you? youre supposed to tell me to back off'' he gets mad at me for his own actions .. i think its ridiculous... He acts like someone is watching us or like I have a std or something. 90% of christians arent virgin so i dont know whats wrong with him. I dont want to wait 2 years before having sex with him.
He already let me give him a hand job after 11 months so why wont he have sex with me ? Im a christian too, and i respect his choice but its just stupid. When he's hard, he always blaim me and I know he likes it when I seduce him but he still gets mad at me
Every time we talk about it he doesnt even want to hear my opinion, And im scared he finds out im not a virgin when we get married, he says i act to ''dirty'' for a virgin.. I really want to have sex with him how can i convince him?



& please answer my other question (i cant post the link go on my profile)

Only tell him the true. If he loves you, he will understand and nothing to worry.

[hoboliz]

Welcome to the inbred misogyny of Christian morality.

[CRH777]

My boyfriend is a christian, we've been dating for 11 months and we want to get married once im 19, I know its young but we REALLY love eachother and we want to stay together for the rest of our lives and our parents are ok with it. Im 17 and he is 18. He wants to wait until marriage to have sex with me.He is a virgin but Im not.He thinks Im a virgin
When he first told me he wants to wait until were married to have sex i didnt know he was that serious.. Every time were kissing and touching on a bed he gets a boner , Sometimes he lets me give him a hand job while were kissing but nothing more than that,he always gets mad after and says'' we arent supposed to do more than kissing''(where is it written in the bible??) and then he ignores me he doesnt want to have sex with me or give him a bl*wjob, he always pushes me away Even when he touches me he gets mad at me like i was controlling his hands and he says ''why did you let me touch you? youre supposed to tell me to back off'' he gets mad at me for his own actions .. i think its ridiculous... He acts like someone is watching us or like I have a std or something. 90% of christians arent virgin so i dont know whats wrong with him. I dont want to wait 2 years before having sex with him.
He already let me give him a hand job after 11 months so why wont he have sex with me ? Im a christian too, and i respect his choice but its just stupid. When he's hard, he always blaim me and I know he likes it when I seduce him but he still gets mad at me
Every time we talk about it he doesnt even want to hear my opinion, And im scared he finds out im not a virgin when we get married, he says i act to ''dirty'' for a virgin.. I really want to have sex with him how can i convince him?



& please answer my other question (i cant post the link go on my profile)

First of all I an a Christian and it is his choice if he wants to have sex or not. And to where it's it in the Bible: 1 Corinthians says "But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband." This means that basically you shouldn't have sex before marrage as it is sexually immoral. Also it may be unright on his part to blame you for everything he can't control if he gets hard or not. And honestly if I wanted to get married and my partner wanted to have sex I wouldn't want to as I have no real way, aside from getting tested which I would recommend as you aren't a Virgin. Also it is also his choice as well and you shouldn't really try and force him into having sex if you really are a Christian you would respect his choice and wait 2 or 3 years it would be worth it.

[Gifford]

My boyfriend is a christian, we've been dating for 11 months and we want to get married once im 19, I know its young but we REALLY love eachother and we want to stay together for the rest of our lives and our parents are ok with it. Im 17 and he is 18. He wants to wait until marriage to have sex with me.He is a virgin but Im not.He thinks Im a virgin
When he first told me he wants to wait until were married to have sex i didnt know he was that serious.. Every time were kissing and touching on a bed he gets a boner , Sometimes he lets me give him a hand job while were kissing but nothing more than that,he always gets mad after and says'' we arent supposed to do more than kissing''(where is it written in the bible??) and then he ignores me he doesnt want to have sex with me or give him a bl*wjob, he always pushes me away Even when he touches me he gets mad at me like i was controlling his hands and he says ''why did you let me touch you? youre supposed to tell me to back off'' he gets mad at me for his own actions .. i think its ridiculous... He acts like someone is watching us or like I have a std or something. 90% of christians arent virgin so i dont know whats wrong with him. I dont want to wait 2 years before having sex with him.
He already let me give him a hand job after 11 months so why wont he have sex with me ? Im a christian too, and i respect his choice but its just stupid. When he's hard, he always blaim me and I know he likes it when I seduce him but he still gets mad at me
Every time we talk about it he doesnt even want to hear my opinion, And im scared he finds out im not a virgin when we get married, he says i act to ''dirty'' for a virgin.. I really want to have sex with him how can i convince him?



& please answer my other question (i cant post the link go on my profile)

I'm 16, gay and out about it, very happy, and proud of the young man I am. I've had many problems with Christianity in my life. I was raised as a Christian but I am no longer a Christian. I have two sisters who are total right-wing fundamentalist born-again Christians and ever since I came out, they have no problem telling me I'm going to burn in hell. Because they've decided I'm a horrible person they continually dissect every area of my life and criticize me for even the smallest thing. The judge my relationships, my friends, the way I live, everything. I don't remember seeing the memo God sent out saying it's OK for Christians to judge other people. I missed that one. They are hypocrites, and I know that Jesus hated hypocrites. I've let them go with love and as far as I'm concerned, they are no longer in my life. I want nothing to do with them.

The older sister has 3 daughters who were all virgins upon marriage. I think that belief is total bullshit. Some people can learn how to be great lovers. Sex is a God-given gift meant to be enjoyed not despised. And not feared. And not to be used as a tool to make someone else feel guilty over. Congrats to you for having had sex! I do NOT think you should wait 2 years to have it again. What if turns out to be a terrible lay? Some people are just awful at sex! I know because i've been with a few.

I respect that you love him, but I think you should sit in quiet by yourself and a yellow pad and a pen. Make a horizontal line at the top from left to right. Make a vertical line down the middle. Write"Pro" on the left side, and "Con" on the right. Make a list of all the reasons why you love him, and a list of all the things you resent about him. Down to the smallest detail. Include things/behaviours you're certain he will continue or act on after you're married. If you have kids, he's going to want to pass this belief on to them. Can you live with that? What about all the other Christian beliefs he holds? Chances are, the older he gets the more rigid he'll become. Is this who you want to s pend your life with?

I can tell you're going to want sex frequently, and I wouldn't be surprised if he won't want it very much. These Christians believe sex is for procreation, and procreation only. They don't want you to have sex for the pure enjoyment of it, they want you to have sex to make babies. How are you going to like that?

This is just my opinion, and bless your heart for the choices you're going to have to make. I would lay it out like this: I'd tell him you're not a virgin and say you weren't following the teachings of the Church when it happened, and now at this point you have deep reservations about following his brand of Christianity. Tell him you have no intention of waiting 2 years to have sex with him or anyone. Say if he loves you, then he must respect your wishes as well and start putting out. I would say that if he refuses to have sex with you, then you are fully prepared to reconsider your promise to marry him. See how he reacts to that. Again, if I were you, I'd be fully prepared to leave him and find yourself a good man with a loving heart, who wants you, loves you, wants to make love to you. Trust me, you don't need or deserve this shit. And that's what it is, is bullshit.

Marry him and you'll have his church and his interpretation of the bible controlling your life for as long as you're together. And I predict that if you marry him, you won't be married 10 years.

The people in his church are sick people who seek to manipulate and control the lives of others. Find a good Episcopal Church to go to and you'll be much happier. They're gay-friendly, women can be prieses and their interpretation of the bible isn't so filled with hate, judgement and control.

I love you and wish you the best -

- Josh

[DarkOmega]

First of all I an a Christian and it is his choice if he wants to have sex or not. And to where it's it in the Bible: 1 Corinthians says "But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband." This means that basically you shouldn't have sex before marrage as it is sexually immoral. Also it may be unright on his part to blame you for everything he can't control if he gets hard or not. And honestly if I wanted to get married and my partner wanted to have sex I wouldn't want to as I have no real way, aside from getting tested which I would recommend as you aren't a Virgin. Also it is also his choice as well and you shouldn't really try and force him into having sex if you really are a Christian you would respect his choice and wait 2 or 3 years it would be worth it.

if somebody really lives by the bile they should not cherry pick .marriage was around way before religion .and it was intended to show the wealth of the family . property like land animals currency etc and to have borders .that's all . plus its just part of life .its called sexual reproduction