Uhh... Help if possible?

[Meamutt]

Ok, this is a kinda long story, so i am so sorry! This guy, we will call him Scott, and i (I am a female btw) were super close. i knew all his secrets, and he knew mine. Well, his gf and him had fights alot. He self harms (cuts his chest) and i scrape (which he doesnt know). After a fight, i would lose contact with him for about 2 hours, then he would call me, upset and cleaning the fresh wounds. I have been so scared he will cut too deep, or hit his artery. Anyways, I kinda sorta yelled at his gf for making him upset, which made he break up with him. I felt so bad, and he was so upset, that i tried EVERYTHING to make him happy. Eventually, he began avoiding me. There were rumours going around since we had become friends 2 years ago that i liked him, but he had never believed them. He still never talks to me, and i just (like a month ago) realized i have feelings for him. I dont know what to do, he is completely "In Love" with his ex (we will call her Brooke), but Brooke just likes to watch him be upset. What can i do to let him know i like him, or at least show him that Brooke just is being a manipulative person? Help? Or ignore if you want i guess.... :what: :?2:

[ImAurora]

I hate to break this to you, but it might be best just to let him go. But if not that, then just try to be friends again before anything else. Apologize for what you did, maybe it'll just be one of those "forgive and forget" moments. That's all I can really say, start out as just friends again before you even consider relationship stuff. And don't worry about his ex, maybe he'll eventually realize if what you said about her is true. And I'd seek psychiatric help for both of you about your cutting.

[Meamutt]

Thank you, ImAurora that helped alot! i have been trying to talk to him again, and convinced him to go to a center to help with his cutting, i am clean for 2 months! :)

[KaraaaHope]

i am clean for 2 months! :)

So proud of you! Hugs!!

:)

[forevermb]

You're a great person. He doesnt deserve your kindness to be honest. You were trying to help him self harm and stop him from being in the unhealthy relationship he was in, you just were trying to do better for him. you didnt know she was going to leave him. he shouldve been more understanding with you. I mean after all you were there for him he still gets mad that his horrible gf leaves you and decides to avoid you? F that. You shouldnt even worry about this kid. He's not of a great friend as you thought he was if he cant even understand. You shouldnt even have to prove your worth to him. Let him go. If its real, he'll come back but you should not chase after him. Remember, its not your fault. All you were doing is trying to help!! Deserve a guy who will notice that.

P.S DONT EVER MESS WITH GUYS WITH CRAZY RELATIONSHIPS (experienced)

[death-metal]

Exactly what Meriem said.
I'm a guy and I've had the same thing done to me by a girl. We were close and I had really strong feelings for her. Her boyfriend treated her like shite and I was always there for her. She once asked if what she was doing (dating him) was okay and I said no because she always ended up cutting herself and crying everytime they talked. She wasn't happy at all. Well, the same shite went on and on and finally, she broke up with him. And now, for some reason, she doesn't talk to me. For weeks she acted like I didn't exist and after she started talking but alot differently. I have these flashbacks that kinda breaks me down sometimes and I needed someone to talk to so I went to her and explained but she laughed at me and left. After that, she told me to man up and stop being so "emotional" and man up. And then I realised it wasn't worth it. I haven't talked to her for more than a week now.
You know, you deserve better. If they treat you like that, fuck them! You don't need to waste your precious time on them anyway. I know it's hard but just try to get over it. It's good to be alone than to be surrounded by people like them anyway.

[DiamondsGirl]

Going contradictory here...

I chose to disagree with these two people above ^^^ yes, it is true that you deserve better. But it does not seem like he was thinking clearly during that time. Unfortunately, I have to say that you shouldn't have confronted his GF. If his GF is a close friend of yours, then it's fine... but if not then you really should have respected that border. However what's done is done, and you shouldn't beat yourself over it. He's out of an unhealthy relationship now and that's the most important thing. He hasn't realized that yet, but he will. Sooner or later.

I do believe that right now you should give him some space to decide for himself what's right and what's wrong. You know... time to cool his head off and think straight. Hopefully after a week or two he'd be talking to you again, realizing that even if you didn't take the best option you only did it because you care for him so much.

[Waleedbt]

You're a great person for caring, unfortunatly you're friend is not seeing it, maybe he is not able to think straight at that time.
Ive known people who are like that, to be honest... I never really talked or really done anything to help, just gave advise. Each person should take care of their own problems, they chose it.
I cant really tell you that you did the right thing by telling his girlfriend, i understand your intentions, still he didnt.
I also notice that you might be upset that he is avoiding you , you shouldnt be feeling bad. Its just the true colours of some people.

[Body odah Man]

This is out of my league sadly. I'm sorry :(
Wish I could help

[Waleedbt]

I just realised that i typed what Diamondsgirl did xD sorry! Im on my phone.

[Meamutt]

Thank you all for your help, I haven't had internet for a long time, and i just saw all of this! Thank you, and things got better! (: