No girls I like at my school

[TheRedViper]

So I'm going into year 11 in a few days, and I'm turning 17 in a month. I've never had a girlfriend, though I've had good female friends. The problem is, there aren't any girls in my year that I find attractive or that I want to be friends with. They are either ugly (I don't mean to sound shallow) or I don't like their personalities. I had a really good friend last year who was a girl, but she always had a boyfriend, and left the school last year (I don't know if she is coming back this year). Since I'm nearly 17, I'm kind of feeling a bit of pressure to get a girlfriend, and I'm worried that if I don't soon, I never will. P.S, I'm not overweight or ugly or socially awkward. I get along well with everyone, and have no problem talking to very attractive girls, since my best friend was. It's more so that there is nobody that I find appealing, and it's not just me, one of my other friends feels the same way.

[Swimmie]

Hey Jake,

My cousin went through something like that... He went through school without ever having a girlfriend, because he was kind of different (he likes classical music, he doesn't likes partying and other things)... He complained about it every single day...
After going to college, he met a girl and they're together for almost 4 years and preparing to get married. I've never seen a happier couple.

Really, when the time comes, the girl will come... don't worry!

[TheRedViper]

Thanks for the answer, Liv. It was quite reassuring. Like your cousin I also don't like parties, since the one I went to I was bored the entire time and just talked with a couple of friends. I kind of wish I was more into parties, so then I could meet new people, but I don't want to just force myself to like them. I seem to have really bad luck in that whenever I start really liking a girl she moves, since this had happened twice now. Oh well, I'll just have to be patient I suppose.

[GingerHannah]

Don't worry about it Jake, it'll happen soon enough. If you can't wait tho, try mingling with new people outside of school. You never know, it might "speed up the process". Don't mean to brag but I met my boyfriend at a drama group. I don't know if you're into that sort of thing, but have a look around and see if anything takes your fancy.

[Living For Love]

I'm in the same boat as you. The girl (and the guys) in my class are not that ugly, it's their personalities, they would never match mine in any way, it would never work. You just need to be patient, you'll meet a lot of other people when you go to college.

[everlong]

You shouldn't ever feel pressured to get a girlfriend. That just makes everything worse. The time will come, don't worry. You just haven't met that special someone yet.

[TheRedViper]

Thanks for the answers, guys. Since the only girl I've ever really liked, who was also my best friend, has left my school, there's absolutely nobody I like anymore, so I'm just gonna wait it out and try to be like one of my other friends, who is just really laid back and unconcerned with stuff like that. If I had the choice between having a girlfriend I didn't like that much and just for the sake of it or not having a girlfriend, I'd go with the latter any day.