Rainy
January 19th, 2014, 09:57 PM
So I met this guy online 2 years ago, we live pretty far away from each other (halfway across the world) and I started liking him, but I was never able to tell him something because I didn't wanted to ruin our friendship, he was always kind of distant and I thought it was because I was just his friend, so I had no right to complain. 3 months ago I just couldn't hold it any longer and told him about my feelings for him, fortunately he felt the same way and asked me if I wanted to be her gf, I was really happy about it because I was crazy in love with this guy and I never thought that he would like me back. like a month ago or something I started noticing some things, the first one is that he was still quite distant, every time I tried to start a conversation (Because I was always the one starting them) it would end up as soon as it started, I didn't knew where he was most of the time (It's not like I was a stalker, but sometimes It could pass 2 days where the only message in the chat was me saying "goodnight") or the time that I knew he was there, he was playing videogames and talking with other friends (This is not the first time I date a gamer, so I know that it's normal to be absent for a couple of hours). I decided that it was the right time to have a talk to him, he told me that he was sorry and he didn't meant to make me feel so deatached to him, that he was the kind of people that prefer other people telling him about ther lives instead of asking...He also told me that it was not the first time someone left him for that reason and he was going to try to change. That worked for like two weeks or something and the he was back to normal..I do believe that he can change and I know it takes time for someone to change. I think it had to do with the fact that he was bullied and then home-schooled when he was a kid..I don't know why I think it has something to do with it..but maybe he never had someone that truly cared for him and wanted to spend time with him..you know?, Maybe it's just a thought, and sorry for the long post, but I wouldn't be asking for advice unless I really needed it, I still love him, and I would like to help him to change, no matter how long it takes, so even if this doesn't work out as expected, he would be able to be happy with someone else...because thats something that is going to give him a lot of troubles..