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bribrand
January 17th, 2014, 12:21 AM
Im confused right now and need some advice :). Well, to start off, ive always had sort of atypical depression. Seems like its just kind of been inherited through my family. Lately its seems like its been alot more severe I guess I could say. This week I think ive started a mental crisis for myself. I dont really know how to explain it well but here is a timeline. Monday: I was in a really bad mood, I got into an arguement with my dad, and it eventually came down to considering suicide and depression greatly deepening.
Tuesday: I discovered this website and read some from the uplifting stories section. I also had an hocd attack
Wednesday: Today I was actually feeling pretty well for the most part until the hocd problem came back
Thursday: Complete breakdown. Got past the hocd thing but Another fight with my dad but this time we both screwed up. He told me I would never amount to anything, never get a girlfriend, never get a job, nothing. In-turn I told him I guess I should just shoot myself then, although when I said it I didnt really mean it, I was just pissed. Those words are very powerful coming from a child to their parent and I wasnt thinking right. I own many guns and they are my prized possesions. Sport shooting is one of the only things that can make me happy anymore. He said he was going to sell every gun in the house. I dont know how I can explain to him I didnt really mean it as he is extremely hard-headed and stubborn. Any advice? PS, I am just so confused right now I probably dont make any sense. Will edit in the morning with a fresh mind :).

Dark Unicorn
January 19th, 2014, 01:57 AM
Hi Branden.First off,it completely made sense to me.This is a very tough situation.I reckon the only thing you can really try to do is just sit down with him and talk to him about this.
But at the same time I think that if you are having suicidal thoughts it might ne best to part with your gun collection until that subsides.I mean for me, it's a battle to stay away from the knives in our kitchen and the pills my mum now keeps in her room but I still know where they are.
All I can say at this point is try to reason with him.The odds don't seem to be in your favour but it seems to me like you could still access a gun/guns anyway if you really wanted to kill yourself which I'm asking you to please don't.I hope this helped.I only want what's best for you and if you need to talk I can easily be messaged.
Best wishes!

the_dude69
January 22nd, 2014, 07:54 AM
Im confused right now and need some advice :). Well, to start off, ive always had sort of atypical depression. Seems like its just kind of been inherited through my family. Lately its seems like its been alot more severe I guess I could say. This week I think ive started a mental crisis for myself. I dont really know how to explain it well but here is a timeline. Monday: I was in a really bad mood, I got into an arguement with my dad, and it eventually came down to considering suicide and depression greatly deepening.
Tuesday: I discovered this website and read some from the uplifting stories section. I also had an hocd attack
Wednesday: Today I was actually feeling pretty well for the most part until the hocd problem came back
Thursday: Complete breakdown. Got past the hocd thing but Another fight with my dad but this time we both screwed up. He told me I would never amount to anything, never get a girlfriend, never get a job, nothing. In-turn I told him I guess I should just shoot myself then, although when I said it I didnt really mean it, I was just pissed. Those words are very powerful coming from a child to their parent and I wasnt thinking right. I own many guns and they are my prized possesions. Sport shooting is one of the only things that can make me happy anymore. He said he was going to sell every gun in the house. I dont know how I can explain to him I didnt really mean it as he is extremely hard-headed and stubborn. Any advice? PS, I am just so confused right now I probably dont make any sense. Will edit in the morning with a fresh mind :).


Just as you didn't mean what you said about shooting yourself. Your dad didn't mean what he said about the gf job and never amount to anything. It sounds to me like he's trying to light a flame under your butt so you won't become the person that you are on the path to become. If you want your life to change only you can make it better. Go get a job sitting in the house is terrible for you it makes your depression worse

the_dude69
January 22nd, 2014, 08:08 AM
Hi Branden.First off,it completely made sense to me.This is a very tough situation.I reckon the only thing you can really try to do is just sit down with him and talk to him about this.
But at the same time I think that if you are having suicidal thoughts it might ne best to part with your gun collection until that subsides.I mean for me, it's a battle to stay away from the knives in our kitchen and the pills my mum now keeps in her room but I still know where they are.
All I can say at this point is try to reason with him.The odds don't seem to be in your favour but it seems to me like you could still access a gun/guns anyway if you really wanted to kill yourself which I'm asking you to please don't.I hope this helped.I only want what's best for you and if you need to talk I can easily be messaged.
Best wishes!



There's a difference in suicidal thoughts and actually planning it. They were in an argument he got his feelings hurt so he said the thing that he thought would hurt his dad is to make him feel bad for hurting his son's feelings so bad that he was going to end his life. It was a bluff. One that isn't cool to use. I have experience with psychology. I know that you are just looking to help but if you can't find the hidden messages I wouldn't be trying to tell people what they need to do. I say that to respect the person who is actually dealing with it and not getting information stating that the knives need to be hidden. That is like the last way people commit suicide in the first place so the knives are harmless