cant move on.

[tom101]

So four weeks ago my boyfriend broke up with me after a 3 and a half year relationship. He left me for someone else who he meet only a few days before he broke up with. It was a pretty bad brake up and he really did not mind ripping my heart out and making me feel like a bit of shit.

After all that he has said and done I still love him. I hate what he has done and how he has acted but when I shut my eyes and think about him I just remember all the happiness that he give me and the way things use to be. The fact of the matter is as much as I know I should not try to get him Its all I think about. I can not, not love him. I dont want a new bf or to move on I feel that I have been cheated out of my future with Will, and all I want to do is get back what I have lost. The whole thing is driving me mad. I can not sleep at night I now ha e low self-confidence and feel like shit.

I try to put on brave face in front of friends and family but I am coming to my wiks end and out of idea's on how to move on. I just want to know if anyone has any advice ?

[Spud1208]

I'm. Sure you will find Somone else just as good as him and you shouldn't let him make you feel like that just try and forget him

[chieko]

Dude. You may have been hearing this a lot but what's the best for you is to forget him and move on. It's not easy, yes. Holding out hope and not believing it's over is just normal when breaking up happens. You are just hurt and still in love that's why you're saying you don't want a new bf. You should open up to new possibilities because you'll just suffer dwelling on the happiness he gave you. Your memories with him will just stay as happy memories, but now everything is different. Stop clinging in the past. People are changing and just because everything was OK in the past means it will still work out now and in the future.

One day you'll get to learn new things as you live and you'll forget about him. You will not spend the rest of your life alone. You will find a love that you truly deserve, maybe it could be the same person or not, who knows. For the meantime, just focus on positive things because it's easier to move on with that. Nothing in life lasts forever, you have to go through this situation because it happens to everyone, but you can help yourself to go through this faster. Be strong and positive enough to start over :)

[CostumerServiceGuy]

It's not easy (trust me, i've broken up with a guy and a girl) and I just stayed calm and tried 2 get over it. Be strong and positive ! Hehe

[Synyster Shadows]

First, I'm sorry to hear that. That's a really long time.
I've had to forget about girls in the past, a lot of them. The best way to do it, like some people say, is to surround yourself with your hobbies and things that won't make you think about him so much. It's difficult, and it takes a long time, but it will work. Time heals many wounds, even if it opens a few. You can't just get better immediately but it will improve in time. I wish you the best.

[Tenoka]

Like Synyster said, surround yourself with hobbies and friends, try to keep your mind distracted and stay positive. Also don't completely close yourself from the world, it hurts but sometimes you need to let off some steam. It will get better, I promise.