Stuck in a bad spot

[Vdubz]

Ever since the end of 8th grade i knew i was bi. Well freshman year i made a good friend who i suspected was also bi. He continuously screwed me over but i kept forgiving him and every time he did this for some reason i liked him more and more. At the end of freshman year he came out to me and said he was bi which obviously made me even more attracted to him than i was in the first place. A month later (august or so) he asked me to do "things" with him and i agreed. Those things never ended up happening and he pushed me away every other month since then. I am extremely attracted to him and can't get my mind off of him. I have tried everything but as soon as he says anything to me i lose it and automatically go back to liking him. What should i do?

[frisbee25]

You should talk to your friend and discusses how you feel. Have him tell you how he feels them talk from there

[Vdubz]

I can't though he's not normal. Found out 6 months after i met him that he doesn't handle things like that well. He isn't very mature and he gets mad at random things that i do and it makes me feel horrible every time he does that. I've told him that it's not right and he apologizes but he does it anyway. Nothing i do gets him off my mind and it makes me angry that someone that has such a small impact on my life i put this much emotion into. The more he pushes me away the more i like him but he sends misleading signals to me.

[Living For Love]

What kind of horrible things does he do to you? Just tell him you really like him and that you want to keep him as a friend, but he also needs to do some kind of effort so that things between you can work.

[CostumerServiceGuy]

Talk to your friend and see why he acted like that 2 u- u obv don't deserve it.

[Vdubz]

I've been one of his only friends since the start of highschool and several time he has turned his back on me to gain new friends several times. I hate him for what he keeps doing to me but my mind continues to like him. He spreads rumors about me very often too. Then he comes to me and apologizes and says he wants me to be his friend then within a week of that he screws me over and it has happened 15+ times. Talking to him isn't really an option because he is immature.

[Living For Love]

I've been one of his only friends since the start of highschool and several time he has turned his back on me to gain new friends several times. I hate him for what he keeps doing to me but my mind continues to like him. He spreads rumors about me very often too. Then he comes to me and apologizes and says he wants me to be his friend then within a week of that he screws me over and it has happened 15+ times. Talking to him isn't really an option because he is immature.

Well, in that case, do you think it's worth it to be his friend? I mean, real friends don't spread rumours and turn their back to others, right? You don't have to tell him anything, just gradually start to back off from him, so he doesn't notice it much. It may be difficult for you at the beginning, but if you don't want to have a serious conversation with him because of his "immaturity", then you also can't let him play with your feelings that way. It will only bring you sadness and anger. Maybe he'll realise how stupidly he acted before and come back to you after he notices you're starting to leave him. In the meanwhile, get some other friends, talk to other people, and move on with your life.

[Vdubz]

We're already not talking he just finds ways to get into my life (ie: purposely befriending then trash talking me behind my back to someone i'm friends with). And as much as i try to back Away my mind just gets closer to him

[Living For Love]

We're already not talking he just finds ways to get into my life (ie: purposely befriending then trash talking me behind my back to someone i'm friends with). And as much as i try to back Away my mind just gets closer to him

Then make your mind somehow forget him. He's being a jerk, can't you realise that? He's not only not being your friend, he's disrespecting you, you mustn't allow it. Ask for some advice of those mutual friends of yours, see what they have to say. And what do you mean by "trash talking"? What does he exactly say?

[Vdubz]

I know he's a dick to me and i hate him. I mean it when i say that i hate him but for some reason i go back to liking him in a week after something happens. Most of my friends don't know what to do because they aren't bi/gay and don't have experience with these kinds of issues. Thank god i have supportive friends though. I just don't know how to get him off of my mind.

[Living For Love]

I know he's a dick to me and i hate him. I mean it when i say that i hate him but for some reason i go back to liking him in a week after something happens. Most of my friends don't know what to do because they aren't bi/gay and don't have experience with these kinds of issues. Thank god i have supportive friends though. I just don't know how to get him off of my mind.

Then stick close to those supportive friends of yours, and I'm sure you will eventually forget him, and when you feel that sudden urge to like him again, think about all the bad stuff he did to you. If you back off from him, at least until he changes his attitude, he might stop teasing you.

[Vdubz]

I had a little chat with him and he gave me a fake apology and a fake sob story but whatever this situation buys me a week of not having that issue

[Hermes96]

Do you know it sounds like your telling me my entier life story the same things happening with me. me and my guys been messing me around for the last year + and i can't even stay angry at him every time he breacks my heart but i go back for more because the reast of the time he makes me feel like i actuly matter all the body isues i have go away hell a few weeks ago he got me to remove my shirt and for the first time in about four years i felt bueatiful and like i wasnt a monster because he looked at me and didn't even notice the things i hated about my self. But the next day he said we could no longer talk as it wasn't fair on me or the girl he'd be dating. that made me feel like shit but a week lattere when he told me he was sorry it took every thing i had to not run into his arms and forgive him. i know in time i will forgive him hole heartedly and it will happen again and again in till he pushs me over the edge and the the razor slips just a bit to deep.

i know ive rambled a bit but i just wanted you to know that there is at least one other person who feels the same way. My only advise is. Are the good times enough to justifey the times that you feel broken and alone ? if he worth that much that you have to go through the pain again and again i know i belive my guy i worth the pain but is yours?

[Carson99]

It sounds like the problem is not him at all. Why do you continue to let him treat you this way? That's not healthy. First fix yourself. Run away. Don't look back. What about you is so bad, so undeserving, that you have to depend on jerks like this for friends and romantic interests? Throw yourself into people and activities that don't involve him, maybe? Completely avoid him. Stop giving him all this power to make your life miserable. You deserve better.