Asking someone

[Paladino]

See when your in a relationship right? and you are supposed to be completely honest with someone. See if you ask them something you think they are not being honest about and they get worked up about it and start getting angry does that mean they are hiding it or just annoyed that you're asking?

[AlexOnToast]

It could be either, It really depends on the person, question and context.

[Paladino]

Well I'll break it down .. I have been going out with her for 10 months and I've asked her a couple of questions about her past experiences with other guys, one of them she lied about it up until like 2 months ago. Then I asked her about it and she said no then when I asked her to promise shes not lying to me she started laughing then she admitted she was lying. The reason I am suspicious of the other thing is because she lied about the first thing. So I asked her this morning and then I told her the reason I am worried/asking is because she lied before then she started getting angry and saying I was just going to cause an arguement.

I wouldn't be angry about the stuff if she had just told me at the very start of our relationship when she asked me, its because she lied about it at least 3 times before admitting it which is why if the second question I asked turns out to be true I will be very upset with her because she didn't already tell me. It's not what happened that will annoy me, it would be the lack of honesty you know?

[Living For Love]

Maybe it's because she thinks her past experiences are something that can't affect in any way your relationship, so she though you wouldn't be mad if she lied to you. Talking about her past relationships can be a bit uncomfortable to her. Her lack of honesty is something that can make you upset, and I understand that, but it would be worse if she was lying to you about other things, not something that now belongs to the past. I think her problems about all this stuff is that she thinks what she does aren't things that can make you or anyone upset, she's probably someone who simply lives life in the moment, and doesn't care about what's going on around her, I don't know... But maybe she wouldn't mind as well if you did the same to her, so just turn a blind eye to this, and keep on going.

[Paladino]

Well, I've left it now, but if I lied to her about my past experiences like 3 times then told her the truth she wouldn't be happy at all. It's not the past experiences that upset me because I know everybody has a past, its the fact that she felt the need to lie.

[Living For Love]

Well, I've left it now, but if I lied to her about my past experiences like 3 times then told her the truth she wouldn't be happy at all. It's not the past experiences that upset me because I know everybody has a past, its the fact that she felt the need to lie.

And why do you think she felt that need to lie? If you ever did that and make her upset, tell her that you don't like her to lie to you as well, and she will probably understand.

[Paladino]

I don't know why she felt the need to lie, so it seemed like she had been with less people than she had been or something probably, but at the end of the day I don't care about that.