How come I don't care about my mom being in jail but if it were my dad I would care?

[fmpro]

I asked about some things involving my mom's incarceration before, but there are two weird feelings I have that I wanted to ask about



I have talked to my on the phone while she is there and for some reason I feel more comfortable being open with her about anything now then when she was actually here. Any reason why I would feel that way now?


another, interesting feeling , I made some joking comments to her saying things like "oh now mom will be getting ordered around by people" , also compared prison food to school lunches and her having to take showers in front of other inmates and a guard similar to the gym locker room.

My mom is not asking for any kind of pity party and it is clear she does not mind being self depreciating about this. I think this has helped make the situation more comfortable for everyone. (and this is despite her usually being a serious person)


but I just realized now that if my dad was the one in jail I would feel a lot worse. I wonder why though. I like them both equally and neither committed a crime before , hell my dad is probably more strict and am about as equally close to them

[Living For Love]

Generally, and in an emotional way, boys are closer to their mums, and girls are closer to their dads, but even if it isn't like this, you don't need to worry about nothing. Maybe because your mum isn't physically present she can't somehow punish you for something you tell her, that's why you feel more open with her now.

[Body odah Man]

I asked about some things involving my mom's incarceration before, but there are two weird feelings I have that I wanted to ask about



I have talked to my on the phone while she is there and for some reason I feel more comfortable being open with her about anything now then when she was actually here. Any reason why I would feel that way now?


another, interesting feeling , I made some joking comments to her saying things like "oh now mom will be getting ordered around by people" , also compared prison food to school lunches and her having to take showers in front of other inmates and a guard similar to the gym locker room.

My mom is not asking for any kind of pity party and it is clear she does not mind being self depreciating about this. I think this has helped make the situation more comfortable for everyone. (and this is despite her usually being a serious person)


but I just realized now that if my dad was the one in jail I would feel a lot worse. I wonder why though. I like them both equally and neither committed a crime before , hell my dad is probably more strict and am about as equally close to them

I think that the reason u can be more open with your mom now is that she's absent from you at the moment, therefore u don't have to deal with ehr reaction as much as you would if she were in your vicinity. As for the second point...absence makes the heart grow fonder?