Issues with Dad

[Connormann]

So for the past few years my father and I have been having issues getting along. It seems like he hates me and is always trying to make me be the problem.. I have always had an issue with self-harm and anorexia (he doesn't know) and when we fight it is over the most ignorant of subjects.. He refused to get help for his anger issues and wont talk to my councilor regardless f the amount of times that he requests a meeting with him. I always plays this stupid "poor me" card where he always acts like he is the victim. It just erks me.. He has always been verbally abusive and he has-in the past- pinned me to a wall and hit me, tried to pick me up by my kneck, and has tried to kick me out of the house and my mother will never let me leave.. He has me contemplating suicide and I have been relapsing hard-core lately...
Any advice? Ever experienced this before? please help...

[ImAurora]

Damn... I'm honestly not sure what you can do. I assume getting someone to talk to him or talking to him yourself are pretty much out of the question at this point. The only thing I can really tell you is just keep your head up and if violence starts back up again, don't hesitate to report it to the authorities. Talking to someone about how you feel might help you as well... friend, teacher, someone you can trust?

[Living For Love]

Talk to your mother about it, tell her that you can't stand it no longer and he needs to stop. Whenever me and my parents start talking peacefully, our conversation easily turns into an argument, so there are some tips you can apply to your situation. Avoid being in the same room with him for a long period of of time, reduce the time you spent talking to him, just say "good morning" and "good night", and whenever he asks you something, tell him what he wants to hear, the way he wants to hear, but avoid lying as well. Plus, when you're with him, try not to seem either too happy nor too sad. Whenever you think he's going to hit you, go near your mum, or near the windows so that other people can witness. And please, don't commit suicide, think about things that make you happy, your future plans for your life, focus on doing things that can help you somehow, and just try to ignore when he's verbally abusing you.

[Shailene]

Get professional help right away. Stay with a friend if you can until you feel better.

[AlexOnToast]

ImAurora gave good advice, and I wouldnt hesitate to go to the authorities if I were you. Good luck.

[Connormann]

My mom won't be of much help, she is a basket-case and she lives in fear of him, he keeps trying to kick me out, and damn it.. He's making me relapse hardcore... I wish I could just end it all... I wish my mom would just divorce his good-for-nothing ass and be done with it but the three of us can't survive without his pay check, my mom only works part time and makes like $8,400 a year.. I dunno what kind of child support we could get out of him, he makes like 60K a year, and my sister is 19, so I'm sure that we would only get it for me...

[Carson99]

He is saying he doesn't want you, so the ball is in your mother's court. She chose him, she married him. If she won't protect you from her choice, then she doesn't want you either. Tell her that. If she can't or won't help, there are plenty of outside sources of help. The only rub is that you can't get much outside help if you also want to keep family secrets or protect your mother.

The other path is to just get by the next couple of years then leave. That's what most people do. Good advice here about staying out of his way and playing the game that he and your mother are playing together against you.