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iceyd
January 13th, 2014, 12:33 PM
Hello , lately i have been having a hard time , i am mainly confused about my sexuality therefore i seek your guys help and experience to clear my mind. From the beginning of middle school i have been watching straight and gay porn ( but gay porn more ) , which starts off with questioning my sexuality. But nevertheless i had many girls throughout my 16 years. Im generally physically more attracted to men than women but i do get hard also with girls (eventhough sometimes i do not ). So the situation lately has been quite confusing. I have a girlfriend , but i do not know what i feel for her, i mean i do not have that huge crush but i do think I like her. Everything went fine until i went to sleep at one of my bestfriends house, we w'ere kind of tipsy and we chatting as we do normally late at night. So what happened : my friend confessed that he was bisex for a couple of years and then turned straight again , i mean i felt comforted no one knew that sometimes i was more attracted to guys than girls. I confessed about my curiosity and then we started getting closer until we kissed.. We got a little intimate and made out until 4 am. We promised that this action would not compromise our frienship and it didn't , in fact the next day everything was all normal. Before going out with our girlfriends ( yes he is also in a realtion ship )we kissed again but always as friends i think. Whilst waiting for the two girls to arrive i confessed to him that i was scared , i mean i literally really liked what has happened but i fear that i won't feel anything for girls anymore and i really want to have strong feelings for a girl. He also replied that he was scared and he stated that he has a crush on his girlfriend ( which i don't ) , saying that he doesen't know if he liked it or not and concluded by saying that for him it would be better if this thing stopped for a while. But if in the future it happens again he said it wouldn't be a problem. Now comes the problem , my girlfriend doest make me hard as much as he does , i know i dont have feelings for him but its just uncontrollable. It feels so strange i mean i don't want to be like this , me and my friends have nothing against bisexuality but i want to fall in love ect with a girl , i don't want a man , I just don't. My girlfriend only when we get very intimate erects me whilst my best friend just takes literally seconds just to turn me on. Im so confused i really don't want to be like this. I want this curiosity just to remain between me and him and not to get attracted with other males. I feel what so ever no feelings for him , just flashbacks of that night and the next day which make me feel happy/comforted. Can someone give me some advice to balance my sexuality , or even things i can do to help me restrict the attraction i have for men? I have had strong feelings for girls and do get turned on by them but i want my sexuality to be mainly centered to women. Thank you guys so so much just by even reading this thread..

AlexOnToast
January 13th, 2014, 12:46 PM
All I can say is that your sexuality is what YOU think you are, and having a "fluid" sexuality (like what you somewhat described) Is neither rare nor bad. By most social standards, you would be considered bisexual, but I was never one for putting law's to sexuality...

iceyd
January 13th, 2014, 12:50 PM
But my attraction for men is just really hard to handle.. And viceversa i cannot force myself to like and get exicted for girls.

AlexOnToast
January 13th, 2014, 12:55 PM
But my attraction for men is just really hard to handle.. And viceversa i cannot force myself to like and get exicted for girls.

I think the best thing to do would be to accept yourself for the person you are :) Trust me, you will feel a lot better :) If other people have judgements, then THEY are the ones with the problem. Sorry if I cannot help more :L

Harley Quinn
January 13th, 2014, 12:56 PM
P101 :arrow: Teen Sexuality

iceyd
January 13th, 2014, 12:57 PM
Thanks for the help! Only problem i have no feelings for men i mean just physical attraction ... Whilst for girls its different , idk so confused ...

Forsakenbymyself
January 14th, 2014, 01:48 PM
Thanks for the help! Only problem i have no feelings for men i mean just physical attraction ... Whilst for girls its different , idk so confused ...

That's the same for me. I am physically attracted to men, while i am both physically and sentimentally attracted to women. I am bisexual.

Btw, i don't think you should put pressure on yourself like that....forcing feelings is never a good idea.

XZoDiaCX
January 14th, 2014, 02:39 PM
well just let your sexuality and feeling free tdont push anything :) you maybe are biseual and its ok :)

Living For Love
January 14th, 2014, 07:22 PM
You can't force yourself to be someone you're not. I think your friend has the same issue as yours, but he's just a bit more afraid to admit it. The physical attraction you feel for guys might just be hormones, the thrill you get by kissing a guy who has a girlfriend and is a close friend of yours. The biggest problem is that you don't seem to feel nothing towards your current girlfriend. Do you think she feels the same, or is suspicious that you feel that way? If it's bothering you a lot, you should talk to her about it...