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Etcetera
January 12th, 2014, 03:01 PM
How many people know that you cut? Have you told anyone? Your parents, other family?
My boyfriend knows, he was the first to know even though I hid it for 5 years. Another one of my online friends knows but she's like a sister to me now. One of my friends at school I told her because she cuts and I felt like I could be helpful to her. The nurse at school knows because when I came out about it, I told her. She then talked to the counselor and called my parents. So now they know, and I went to a counselor at a recovery center so that lady knows. So in total, about 8 people.
thatgothgirluknow
January 12th, 2014, 03:24 PM
I was forced to tell my grandma by someone I told and I have a friend I told because she cuts and I wanted her to trust me I told 2 people at church who are really close in total I also have told 8 people
Seemyheart
January 12th, 2014, 05:17 PM
My family knows...they found out because my one friend saw my scars one day and called my parents. I get routine checks every month to make sure I'm not cutting again :/
AlexOnToast
January 12th, 2014, 05:23 PM
I have only really cut once, and it was on my leg so it's easily written off as a sporting injury - I do a lot of sports....So nobody knows what I did
Tarannosaurus
January 12th, 2014, 05:25 PM
I've been clean for 3 months now but the people who have found out or who I've told along the way are my close friends, my mother, my GP and a psychologist.
RavleIncarnate
January 12th, 2014, 07:46 PM
I used to cut extremely, to the point that one razor wasn't enough. I hanged them up like a painting, varyung the lenghts of string like a pattern, so I hve a patterned scar when I *accidentally fell* into them. I stopped after it went so deep it cut muscle. If I stopped sooner, I could still have moved my shoulder. Now I can't, the muscle was too damaged. I'm only thirteen.
Anywho, I did cut, but only two online friends, a nurse from school, and my mom and grandma know. They didn't figure it out until the school nurse phoned and said I was in hospital for serious bleeding and serious damage to back muscle tissues. They've faded to the point of being barely discernable with attention, but emotional scars are always there.
ksdnfkfr
January 12th, 2014, 07:52 PM
Well my cousin found out and ratted me out, so the whole core family and my best friend and the person i got counseling from. Which is fine. im actually thankful to my cousin.
abc983055235235231a
January 12th, 2014, 07:53 PM
I don't self-harm anymore, but I only ever actually told one person. Other people found out, as a consequence of my telling that person, though.
Captain Canada
January 12th, 2014, 10:01 PM
In real life only 3 people know. I dont plan on telling any of my family anytime soon (AKA Never) So 3 people plus my online friends
casey_2014
January 12th, 2014, 10:20 PM
absolutely no one. Is that bad?
Katiya
January 12th, 2014, 11:57 PM
I don't give a shit.
I use to care but after a while its like wtf, the he'll with it. I don't broadcast it and I generally cover it as I don'twant people to feel funny looking at it. But if you went and told people I wouldn't care.
Dannibabi
January 13th, 2014, 01:01 AM
Really my boyfriend is the only one who knows, not counting people online.
King_of_Hearts
January 13th, 2014, 01:36 AM
Other than the people online... My parents... a few therapists... school councillor... maybe a couple teachers (not sure)... My ex... maybe 5 of my friends and the girl I love... so 12 or 13 people...
FullyAlive
January 13th, 2014, 01:46 PM
Now literally a majority of my close friends know, my mum, my old teachers, my doctor, counsellor etc. I obviously didn't want them all to know but it happened and I'm probably better off for it.
Then when I started uni and we were going out all the time for freshers I just wore a sleeveless top to start off confident with no secrets and my arm is scarred so it was fairly obvious but I didn't want to have to try and hide it and make excuses up so I just went for it.
I still don't talk about it though ha, we're still pretty far off that.
HeyMrsTambourine
January 13th, 2014, 04:01 PM
My parents and 1 or 2 friends.
Desuetude
January 15th, 2014, 07:11 PM
Mum & dad - they found out when I had only been SHing for around 6 months and was still a novice at keeping shit hidden.
2 best friends - I told them (plus one of their mums)
Around 10(?) people I don't like because I used to be friends with a couple and now they're dicks and I know they spread it around their group.
A couple therapists/GP/youth worker
Idk this is really too many people but most of them have either forgotten or don't think I do it anymore which is a blessing.
nearwales
January 16th, 2014, 01:02 PM
my ex must have seen my scars because there is no way she cannot have noticed but we have never talked about it, and once my sister and her friend saw some scars and questioned me but I dont think they realised what it was really. I told 2 friends but I dont think he realises the extent of it and I think they think I have stopped. I dont reallywant othwr people to know, it is my way of dealing with things and right now I dont want anyone else to intervene
Etcetera
January 16th, 2014, 02:41 PM
My sister almost told all her friends at church last night. Someone who knows stopped her. I'm pretty mad at her. It's not anything to go scream from the rooftops.
ElectraHeart
January 18th, 2014, 03:17 PM
My mom knew about my self harm behaviors since I was a kid. Hair pulling, scratching my arms and legs. She ignored it, until two years ago she saw my cuts. It was at my worst time, all my thighs and wrists were full of severe cuts and scars. She freaked out, and told all my family.
I told my close friends too, only the ones I trust.
Also some doctors I've met know.
xXl0sth0peXx
January 18th, 2014, 04:02 PM
Well.
First, I'd say about 10 kids I was in a rehab program with for my shoulder. It was all exercising and I really had no way to hide it. And all the doctors and therapists knew of course. It was never /really/ talked about.
My GP found out.. And then she left and the new GP read the logs and told my mom.. Who told my dad. Not a pretty day. Neither parent has ever seen anything though, and never will honestly.
And then I'd say 3 or 4 real life friends who follow me on tumblr, and my mom's boss (a pastor, nonetheless..) might know, but I'm not sure.
So a handful know but it's never talked about, ever. Pretty sure that most people don't remember or think it's a thing of the past now.
XENON
January 19th, 2014, 08:19 PM
Hmm.. A really close friend found out accidentally, was really disappointed and our relationship was never the same.
I told my best friend who I pretty much trust with everything, but I kinda made a trade off, if it wasn't for him that day I think half of my class and a couple teachers would've found out.
Three friends put me in a room and kept pressing till I finally told them - I was obviously very depressed.
My mom saw my scars a couple times, we had terrible arguments and fight bcuz of that, and I think she told my dad but he never said anything so I'm not sure.
A self harming friend seems really suspicious about me.
Two awesome online friends I met on Blahtherapy :]
I guess that makes them 8 - 10
connorftw
January 19th, 2014, 08:46 PM
i remember the first time i cut pretty well. july 20th 2010. it was the same day i tried to commit suicide. my parents and brother found out i was cutting but it wasnt me that told them. the doctors at the hospital did. since then i havent cut until yesterday. ive only told one person that i trust but i dont plan on ever telling my family that i have again
Hallie
January 19th, 2014, 09:06 PM
No one knew until my mom found out by seeing my cuts, then she forced me to tell my therapist (who doesn't know that it's still going on, and neither does my mom). three of my friends from school figured it out because they were also cutters and I couldn't bring myself to lie about it. I only told one person myself by initiating it without being forced. He was very understanding and constantly does everything he can to help me. Still, I often wish that no one knew so that I could just keep cutting in peace and if I were to relapse, no one would get hurt.
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