Need advice on how to deal with being creeped out by my boyfriends sexual fantasy

[Mebenick]

So I've been dating this guy for a few weeks and he started talking about sex and asked me if it was ok to talk about and I said it was. I have no problem with sex, but something he revealed has really left me feeling uncomfortable. He revealed that the idea of him becoming pregnant really turns him on and that he would want to be "raped" in a rough way. At first I thought, ok well it's not gonna happen so it's fine but than he went on to say that he has pictures saved on his computer of the guys he would wanna do it with and even pictures of what the bed and room would look like. He even said he would wanna "pretend" it. Now am I a bad person for feeling uncomfortable now? I just am having my doubts as to if I want to continue this relationship before it becomes serious and I would appreciate some opinions! Thank you

[AlexOnToast]

Well, I'm not everyone, but if my boyfriend told me that, i would have some concerns at the very least...I would talk to him about it if I were you. Honesty is really the only way to go if you dont want to live a lie

[Atempinfer]

Well.

[Mohamed]

Usually I would try to cool things up but OH MY GOD !! He isn't NORMAL and if he was a friend of mine, honestly I would keep an eye on him

[Yolo98]

Dump him , he sounds like a weirdo

[Atempinfer]

Well.

[Mebenick]

See that's like why I'm so confused. And I don't wanna tell him that it creeped me out because right before he said it he made me promise not to laugh. And I really don't want to hurt his feelings and I honestly have no clue where to begin

[Waleedbt]

I thought it was normal until you went on to the pictures part.
Its kinda creepy, not sure if you should talk to him though.. , maybe? I guess

[Living For Love]

Remember, he simply can't force you to have sex with him. If you don't want to have sex, he must respect your opinion. Now, if he says he wants to be raped by some random guys, isn't that considered cheating? Would you agree with something like that? If he goes further with those plans, maybe back off from him for a while.

[Mebenick]

Well he means by me. He wants me to "rape" him.

[Living For Love]

Well he means by me. He wants me to "rape" him.

And you want to "rape" him or not?

[Mebenick]

No not at all. But like I know it's a fantasy of his but other than this, he's been completely normal so like I'm not quite sure what to do. This freaked me out but other than this he's like my "perfect" match

[Living For Love]

No not at all. But like I know it's a fantasy of his but other than this, he's been completely normal so like I'm not quite sure what to do. This freaked me out but other than this he's like my "perfect" match

He can't force you to have sex with him. If he loves you, he will understand that, and it's not that fetish that's going to ruin your relationship.

[Mebenick]

But is that something that would ruin your relationship if it was you? Or is that like ok to have a fantasy? I just don't wanna stay in this relationship if it's really that bad

[Harry Smith]

But is that something that would ruin your relationship if it was you? Or is that like ok to have a fantasy? I just don't wanna stay in this relationship if it's really that bad

Everybody has fantasies, I mean personally it's not that weird aha apart from the part with room. It's not anything that requires you to hurt him or yourself, if you feel uncomfortable with it just subtly make tell him that your not really up to it, if he's worth a relationship he should understand and respect that decisions

[JIntrepid]

He sounds kind of unstable. Like psychologically you should be careful. Don't settle for just anyone, keep your eyes open for new people.

[Body odah Man]

run. Run now. Seriously he sounds sick.

[Living For Love]

But is that something that would ruin your relationship if it was you? Or is that like ok to have a fantasy? I just don't wanna stay in this relationship if it's really that bad

Having the fantasy it's ok, it's not ok if he tries to force you to rape him or if he gets mad at you because you don't want to rape him. Having a relationship without sex is normal, many couples do it, whether they're gay or not (sometimes until they're married), and he needs to understand that. If you start to realise he's only with you because he wants sex, rape, fantasies and stuff like that, then it's a good idea to back off for a while.

[kro814]

How does your boyfriend gonna get pregnant?

[liberal raj]

he is getting obsessed to his fantasies.you should have a talk.Meet a psychiatrist if it gets serious.Meeting a psychologist is not a weird thing.

[yeehaw]

How does your boyfriend gonna get pregnant?

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