My dad doesn't understand, What to do?

[CabbageMedul]

So, basically I suffer from a bunch of issues, right?
There are a lot of times where I just stay home from school because I feel I won't be able to handle it emotionally, such as today. I went home after just one hour of class because I was slowly breaking down. And I wanted to leave before it happened.

Anyway, my point is: I'm depressed, my dad doesn't get it.

Whenever I stay home, he goes "You can't stay home just like that, you won't make it this way."

But whenever I try to explain it he instantly goes "Just go take a walk outside, stop being such a baby, stop overreacting, do something else than computers, etc. (I'm in an IT course, and I'm always surrounded by computers even at home. But that's what I enjoy).

My mentor is aware of my problems to some extent, and I'd rather sit at home feeling like crap than at school, not being able to accomplish anything. Because at home I at least feel a LITTLE at ease.

How in the hell do I show my dad that it's not that easy, and that things just are bit more difficult for me? I've been trying to do this for a little over four years (as this is how long I've been suffering from the said issues.)

It's driving me insane and I just can't stand having to confront him all the time because he has something to say EVERY time.

He always wants to be right, and thinks he knows it better. It pisses me off!

I don't know what to do! :guillotine:

[Blood]

I'm really sorry to hear you're going through this, because I know it's tough, but I'm going to have to agree with your dad to some extent.

You WONT make it sitting home all day on the computer. It's not healthy. You need to get out of the house and find something else you enjoy. Go for a walk everyday. Get involved in a sport. Take up a new hobby. Read. But sitting home all day in front of a computer screen isn't going to help your situation at all.

Your dad is just trying to help you. He might not be doing it in the best way possible, but it appears that his intentions are good. Try talking to him about how you really feel, about your depression, and how being at school just gets you really stressed. Perhaps you guys can go see a therapist together.

[CabbageMedul]

Thanks for the advice, but it doesn't help me. Doing something different from what I usually do, now THAT depresses and stresses me. And I've tried, plenty of things. Trust me on this. The way I feel, sitting at school all day is just going to make me cry and break, And I am not overreacting, I can take quite a few punches before I drop to the floor, so to say.

In all these years I have learned what works and what doesn't. So far nothing has worked. The only thing that did work was getting piss drunk and taking painkillers all the time. But I'm not going back there.

Seeing a therapist doesn't get me anywhere. I've been there, I've done that.

Thanks for your advice nonetheless.

[Columbus]

I completely understand what your saying and going through. My parents (especially my mom) does not understand my depression at all no matter what I say. And I know school does not help at all.

As for talking to your father, as said before you can bring your dad into talking with your therapist, who can explain it a lot better than we can. Or possibly even watching a movie together that deals with mental illness like depression so he can get a different perspective. The movie Side Effects is a great movie that came out last year, which involves the main character being severely "depressed". I watched it with my parents and they also liked it. My dad actualy said "wow it must be so hard to deal with someone with a mental illness" so if he could see that hopefully your dad could see that its not just you.

But he is right though it wont help to sit inside all day, I do it to and know its really hard to just get out there and do something. The advice my therapist gave me to do is get some excersize and a few hours out doors. If that doesn't help then you should talk to your therapist about getting further treatment to help you feel better. Whether its medication or even certain vitamins can boost your mental health.

[CabbageMedul]

I completely understand what your saying and going through. My parents (especially my mom) does not understand my depression at all no matter what I say. And I know school does not help at all.

As for talking to your father, as said before you can bring your dad into talking with your therapist, who can explain it a lot better than we can. Or possibly even watching a movie together that deals with mental illness like depression so he can get a different perspective. The movie Side Effects is a great movie that came out last year, which involves the main character being severely "depressed". I watched it with my parents and they also liked it. My dad actualy said "wow it must be so hard to deal with someone with a mental illness" so if he could see that hopefully your dad could see that its not just you.

But he is right though it wont help to sit inside all day, I do it to and know its really hard to just get out there and do something. The advice my therapist gave me to do is get some excersize and a few hours out doors. If that doesn't help then you should talk to your therapist about getting further treatment to help you feel better. Whether its medication or even certain vitamins can boost your mental health.

Thanks, it's good to know there are other people in similar situations.

[Blood]

Thanks for the advice, but it doesn't help me. Doing something different from what I usually do, now THAT depresses and stresses me. And I've tried, plenty of things. Trust me on this. The way I feel, sitting at school all day is just going to make me cry and break, And I am not overreacting, I can take quite a few punches before I drop to the floor, so to say.

In all these years I have learned what works and what doesn't. So far nothing has worked. The only thing that did work was getting piss drunk and taking painkillers all the time. But I'm not going back there.

Seeing a therapist doesn't get me anywhere. I've been there, I've done that.

Thanks for your advice nonetheless.

Then maybe it's time you ask your dad to schedule a doctors appointment so you can talk to your doctor about getting on medication for depression.