My boyfriend is a flaming retard !!

[inamorata]

Let’s not talk about how I’m awfully mean to call my boyfriend a ‘flaming retard’. I’m not saying I’m a genius to call him that but I’m going to say why. My boyfriend always gets on my nerves. His actions make me so exasperated! Everyone who are close to him thinks he’s thoughtless senseless and moronic. He always asks dumb questions about obvious things and although I answer him sarcastically, he still thinks it’s the answer to his questions. It really annoys me thinking how naive he is. He doesn’t know what to do about things that he ends up making things worse. He doesn’t realize things that are already obvious and there isn’t anything that goes in his mind! He’s like a dysfunctional heartless robot. His friends and siblings bully him! But he doesn’t get bullied in general because people who don’t know him think he’s a cool guy. I think his idiotic personality is somewhat funny and adorable but there are times that I’m serious at things. I’m the kind of person who used to snub and boss around people, but I don’t want to do that to him. I really care for him and I'm worried. I guess he feels bad about himself but he just doesn’t admit it. He usually laughs to his own stupidity together with everyone. When he unintentionally annoys me I just stay away from him. I never told him about these things I am writing now but I am just really annoyed because of some things happened today. Everything was all ruined because of him! I love him for who he is but I don’t know if I can still keep my temper later on. I’ve been very patient for so long! I don’t want to be mean towards him. Is there anything I can do for him to make him a better person?

[Miri]

Is there anything I can do for him to make him a better person?
Just because he may be naive absolutely does not make him a bad person. Also, everyone has a different opinion of what makes a "good" person. Instead of being unhappy and trying so hard to get someone to change for you, why not find someone who already "fits the bill"? No one's perfect and I'm sure there are things he doesn't like about you, but relationships are about compromise.

It's not fair to him to try and change him, and if he doesn't comply you're just going to be unhappy. Trust me, I've been there before. If you're really as miserable as you sound in a relationship but still care about him, there's nothing wrong with being friends. You could also try talking to him about his "issue", as you stated above that you haven't, and see if there is anything he can do to work on it.

[chieko]

My boyfriend always gets on my nerves. His actions make me so exasperated! Everyone who are close to him thinks he’s thoughtless senseless and moronic. It really annoys me thinking how naive he is. He’s like a dysfunctional heartless robot.

Don't let yourself 'always' get upset because of his actions. It's a waste of time and not a pretty picture if you're suffering because of others stupidity. If he asks irrelevant and dumb questions, just understand that not everyone has the same abilities. You cannot expect your boyfriend to be as good as everyone else.

He always asks dumb questions about obvious things and although I answer him sarcastically, he still thinks it’s the answer to his questions. I love him for who he is but I don’t know if I can still keep my temper later on.

Personally he doesn't seems like very hateful to me. I know a lot of utter idiots who are rude on top of being stupid. You love your boyfriend right? Then just deal with what's the best that he has got, or tactfully teach him those things that he doesn't know.

After all, Ignorance is a bliss~

[inamorata]

thanks for your advices, it works ;)