Are flirty girls worth it?

[Alexwellace]

I have kind of had a big crush on this one girl in my school (also on my rugby team!) for quite a while, but until now she has always had a boyfriend before I could get to her. Now she is single I am having trouble actually asking her out mainly due to how she has treated her other boyfriends. While she was with her boyfriend she would flirt with people, including me and she would always take the chance to discuss her and her boyfriends private matters, more often then not about his privates. I know she is really two faced, but I never cared because the face she shown to.me was always really nice, if sometimes flirty. But now I have a very real chance to hook up with her (she "owes" me a birthday blow job next Saturday. I wasn't serious.but I wouldn't say no) and am worries as to if she would act that way to me, talking about me behind my back to her friends like she did to me about her ex bf. I have never known her to keep a bf more then 2 months and she is a very pretty girl.so it must be something.

My question being even if you think you will get hurt, is it worth taking the plunge?

[milo03]

I was in the same boat for a while until I decided it wasn't worth it. However, that decision is up to you. In my opinion, I don't think you should do it.

[Synyster Shadows]

The fact that she's never kept a boyfriend for more than 2 months sounds like a big red flag to me. I would strongly recommend that you don't go for her and rather a girl that will be faithful and all that but you can do whatever you want.

[IcaJess]

I agree I dont think its worth it, girls like that dont change easily.

[Alexwellace]

Thanks, that was what I was afraid of. Her last Bf was a great guy, the perfect kind off guy any girl would want and he was really sound with me hanging out with his Gf because we had been friends ages. When that ended I had no idea why and neither one wanted to talk about it and now he wants nothing to do with her, a lad who hasn't kept a grudge his entire life. I simply couldn't imagine him doing something wrong to her so she must of done something. Once again I let it go because I do have feelings for her ( even if they are only ones of attraction) and now she is flirting with Me more and more. I can't say go away because we are friends and I don't want to say stop because I enjoy flirting with her, does this mean I am horrible for not wanting to give a relationship a chance?

[IcaJess]

Just because girls flirt with you dosent really mean the want a relationship, I thought she was flirting with everyone else too?

[Alexwellace]

She does, but has been dropping some not so subtle hints that she wants to go out. Unless I am reading girls wrong, wouldn't be the first time, but when she says "oh alex, my mum loves you and thought we should go out! How cute is that?" I am guessing that's a hint. Doesn't stop her flirting with other guys when I am not there according to some of my friends though.

[LouBerry]

I have kind of had a big crush on this one girl in my school (also on my rugby team!) for quite a while, but until now she has always had a boyfriend before I could get to her. Now she is single I am having trouble actually asking her out mainly due to how she has treated her other boyfriends. While she was with her boyfriend she would flirt with people, including me and she would always take the chance to discuss her and her boyfriends private matters, more often then not about his privates. I know she is really two faced, but I never cared because the face she shown to.me was always really nice, if sometimes flirty. But now I have a very real chance to hook up with her (she "owes" me a birthday blow job next Saturday. I wasn't serious.but I wouldn't say no) and am worries as to if she would act that way to me, talking about me behind my back to her friends like she did to me about her ex bf. I have never known her to keep a bf more then 2 months and she is a very pretty girl.so it must be something.

My question being even if you think you will get hurt, is it worth taking the plunge?

For all you know, you are misreading the whole situation, and she's never flirted with you. If she has while she had a boyfriend, it likely wasn't done intentionally. Girls are often playful with their male friends, it doesn't mean they want to date them. Lastly, she is worth it. No one is "not worth it" at our age. If she really likes you, maybe you'll be her first real relationship.

The fact that she's never kept a boyfriend for more than 2 months sounds like a big red flag to me. I would strongly recommend that you don't go for her and rather a girl that will be faithful and all that but you can do whatever you want.

He didn't say that she wasn't faithful to her boyfriend. He said she was flirty. Flirting with guys is innocent and usually unintentional. And so what that she hasn't had a boyfriend for over two months? Loads of people never even have relationships in high school, and you don't even know how old this girl is. If she's 13-16 that's a completely normal thing. Hell, having long relationships in high school is usually a bad thing anyway.

[Mroranh]

Go for it! If you don't do it you'll regret it for a while, and it's not as if you have much to lose. If you think it's going to split your friends up though, which it doesn't seem like, maybe reconsider then. Just know that it might not last long or end well, that way at worst you won't be disappointed, and enjoy it while it lasts.

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Personally, I'm not sure what you can do because some people decide to take that leap of faith. I know a friend which flirts a ton but when it comes to the actual relationship, he just doesn't do the right thing or something. Anyway, you won't be able to change someone, but if you hope that it'll be different, go for it.
Also with the bad-mouthing, everyone has bad and good traits and sometimes you do point out the negative ones. As long as you treat her right, things shouldn't be too bad.
All the best~

[mctrader07]

take the chance if she cares about you even a little she wouldnt hurt you.
let me know

[inamorata]

you'll gonna end up like her ex's! goodluck

[Alexwellace]

Up date. ***

Somehow, I think I am now going out with her...I think. She didn't ask and neither did I but for my Birthday she got me a really nice watch and I leaned in for a hug (We always hugged, even when she had BF's. It wasn't a sexual thing) and then she said ''look at me'', I did and then we kissed. Not a quick peck either but the kind of kiss that made me not care how it would end, I just wanted her now. Then when she had to go I got another 'memorable' kiss and it was amazing. I haven't seen her since because but she will be in school tomorrow and I am confused on how to act. Do we act like we are going out or should I ask her if we even are. At any rate even if that was 'just' a birthday kiss I am more then willing to ask her out now, because on my Birthday we spent hours together just on my sofa watching one movie or another and I don't care how it ends.

Keep you updated, if I get my heart broken I will probably come crying back to you all anyhow.

[Seemyheart]

Up date. ***

Somehow, I think I am now going out with her...I think. She didn't ask and neither did I but for my Birthday she got me a really nice watch and I leaned in for a hug (We always hugged, even when she had BF's. It wasn't a sexual thing) and then she said ''look at me'', I did and then we kissed. Not a quick peck either but the kind of kiss that made me not care how it would end, I just wanted her now. Then when she had to go I got another 'memorable' kiss and it was amazing. I haven't seen her since because but she will be in school tomorrow and I am confused on how to act. Do we act like we are going out or should I ask her if we even are. At any rate even if that was 'just' a birthday kiss I am more then willing to ask her out now, because on my Birthday we spent hours together just on my sofa watching one movie or another and I don't care how it ends.

Keep you updated, if I get my heart broken I will probably come crying back to you all anyhow.

The best way to figure out what you are, is to ask:)
I wish you luck!

[Daniella98]

If you start by calling her type 'filthy' the apparent relationship doesn't stand a chance. You are not ready to give her a chance and this fact will make it hard. Sorry

[Alexwellace]

If you start by calling her type 'filthy' the apparent relationship doesn't stand a chance. You are not ready to give her a chance and this fact will make it hard. Sorry

Quote where I said filthy??? Reading back through I don't see it but if I missed it out it was probably meant to be flirty but might of been out corrected. Calling her flirty is not an insult, she readily agree she is a massive flirt :P On a happier note, through the magic of texting I now I know I am going out With the prettiest girl in my rugby team xD

[Daniella98]

Im happy for you then :-) sorry I misunderstood the word filthy. Im not from an english speaking country, so I just assumed that filthy was a negative word

[chiisaiaoiryu]

If you think it's a bad idea, then it's not worth it. If she's always flirty with others, then chances are that having a relationship is a bad idea. I speak from experience here as a guy from a couple failed relationships.

I'll admit that I'm pansexual (a guy or girl who prefers a sexual relationship with a person rather than being hung up on the gay/bi/straight tab) and had only have 2 boyfriends. Both were flirty guys; my first boyfriend was me being naive about it. My second was me being just plain stupid. People who flirt with others while in a relationship with you usually spells trust issues and other potentially bigger problems down the road.

[Cooper197]

If you have to ask people if it is a good or a bad idea, it's usually a terrible idea. With that said, things can work out.
My girlfriend did some stuff about a year ago that ended with us breaking up. I spent a couple months pretty much constantly trying to decide if it was a good or bad idea to get back together. In that case it was a good idea.

I wish you the best of luck.

[juanita]

If it's casual dating/sex I say go for it.....BUT people like that don't make emotional connections with others. If you do want a relationship she will only make your life hell and in the end hurt you.