I'm so upset! My mum is ashamed of me because I'm bisexual. :'(

[EmmaJane]

So a few weeks a go I addressed my mum and told her I was bisexual... She told me she was ashamed of me, it's not in our genetics, it's wrong, it's not me, and that if I still claim to be this way at 18 she is going to kick me out! Being upset about this I left it for a couple of weeks.

About an hour ago, I said to my mum. ''If I break up with Liam (my boyfriend) then I'm going to date a girl.'' Her response? ''No you're f***ing not! Not under my roof!'' Now I am even more upset and I feel hated by my mum now. She just can't accept me for who I am! I want to leave this world so badly! Why should I be here if I can't be me! :'(

[MortimerB]

I am sorry to hear this. People with closed minds and strong traditions and values can have a hard to understanding stuff like this.

I once told my mom that I thought I was bisexual and might even gay. She began crying, especially because she wanted grandchildren so badly. We talked it through though and she's settled down now - it helps even further that I have a girlfriend at the moment.

In your case, the incomprehensive nature of your mother sounds like something else. Any actual advice will be hard to give. I'm not even sure an argument would help - though many valid points do exist, especially about her "within our genes"-argument. Of course it's within our genes! It's perfectly normal, even amongst other races than humans - and I have a hard time imagining ducks being "persuaded" to become homo- or bisexuals.

Time may perhaps fix this issue. If you find a girl you truly love, then love's hurricane can perhaps tear down your mother's facade. Perhaps even arrange a meeting with a girlfriend, if you get one - though I cannot guarantee the results, as I don't your mother as well as you do.

At any rate, I will wish you the best of luck and hope that you will find a solution both you and your mother can agree to.

[Ainsleyshea]

well people u don't know are willing to help u fuck people that say no say yes im different and what im not saying you being straight is wrong so give over tell her she loves u az u are or she loses u for ever and if she cant except u leave

[mww113]

People can change their minds. It's taken my parents a long time to come around, but they're getting there. Above all else, your parents love you and want you to be happy. If they're good parents of any kind, they'll always love and accept you for who you are.

[From Chris]

So a few weeks a go I addressed my mum and told her I was bisexual... She told me she was ashamed of me, it's not in our genetics, it's wrong, it's not me, and that if I still claim to be this way at 18 she is going to kick me out! Being upset about this I left it for a couple of weeks.

About an hour ago, I said to my mum. ''If I break up with Liam (my boyfriend) then I'm going to date a girl.'' Her response? ''No you're f***ing not! Not under my roof!'' Now I am even more upset and I feel hated by my mum now. She just can't accept me for who I am! I want to leave this world so badly! Why should I be here if I can't be me! :'(

Hi there EmmaJane! It's very unfortunate that parents of all people wouldn't accept their child. I'm very sorry to hear that your mother thinks of your sexuality ! Sadly, there are parents and people in the world that are judgmental about sexuality, when in truth, you can't change it. :) As my advice, i would suggest maybe you find a friend to stay with for a little while if possible. I think while things blow over you should find a safe place to stay. No matter what, a parent always loves their child. I know people who's parents don't accept their sexuality but even years later they finally accept it even though they may not understand it. :) I think you should talk to your mom, and try to reason with her on why she doesn't approve of it. You can mention things like it doesn't make you another person, love is love, and all that good jazz! I wish you the best of luck.

-From Chris

[DarkOmega]

sry to hear that .I hate how some people still think that being gay or bi is wrong . try talking to her or ur dad .brother sister ,friend, grandparent anyone who u think is going to help u

[joejoe]

I am very sorry to hear this. Its unfortunate that some people can't accept others for who they are. Don't be ashamed! You are who you are, and no one can change that :) .
People change their views on sexuality, maybe your mom will change hers some day. For now... just accept who you are. It's awesome that you are able to accept that youre bi :)
good luck

[EmmaJane]

Hi there EmmaJane! It's very unfortunate that parents of all people wouldn't accept their child. I'm very sorry to hear that your mother thinks of your sexuality ! Sadly, there are parents and people in the world that are judgmental about sexuality, when in truth, you can't change it. :) As my advice, i would suggest maybe you find a friend to stay with for a little while if possible. I think while things blow over you should find a safe place to stay. No matter what, a parent always loves their child. I know people who's parents don't accept their sexuality but even years later they finally accept it even though they may not understand it. :) I think you should talk to your mom, and try to reason with her on why she doesn't approve of it. You can mention things like it doesn't make you another person, love is love, and all that good jazz! I wish you the best of luck.

-From Chris
It's just my mum. My dad accepts me. But because my dad accepts me my mum assumes he is bisexual too? That confuses me. I'd stay at a friends or relatives house if I could but I have no one I could really go and stay with. Plus I have school to attend. I have tried to talk to her about it saying how I am still the same daughter, I still love her and I still want to make her proud. The only difference she should see is that I like both girls and boys but that's just the way I am and she should accept that.

[AlexOnToast]

I'm terribly sorry :( My dad is fine with me, so I cant claim to know what it feels like, but we're all here to listen and try to help :) Stay positive, I'm sure your mum will see sense soon :)

[From Chris]

It's just my mum. My dad accepts me. But because my dad accepts me my mum assumes he is bisexual too? That confuses me. I'd stay at a friends or relatives house if I could but I have no one I could really go and stay with. Plus I have school to attend. I have tried to talk to her about it saying how I am still the same daughter, I still love her and I still want to make her proud. The only difference she should see is that I like both girls and boys but that's just the way I am and she should accept that.

Ahh yes, well seeing as how your dad accepts you, you are half way there! If he accepts you then that's definitely good. I think from this point it might just take time. :)

-From Chris

[EmmaJane]

Ahh yes, well seeing as how your dad accepts you, you are half way there! If he accepts you then that's definitely good. I think from this point it might just take time. :)

-From Chris
Half way there! Yeah I have just got to give my mum time. :) Can i add you on Skype?

[From Chris]

Half way there! Yeah I have just got to give my mum time. :) Can i add you on Skype?

Yupp ^_^ I would be happy to talk~

-From Chris

[ImAurora]

That's really messed up. I'd try to just sit her down and talk to her about it, that's what I did with my parents a year or two ago and they initially felt the same, but the eventually accepted it. And if she doesn't, screw her, be whoever you want.

[EmmaJane]

That's really messed up. I'd try to just sit her down and talk to her about it, that's what I did with my parents a year or two ago and they initially felt the same, but the eventually accepted it. And if she doesn't, screw her, be whoever you want.
Been there, tried that. Made things worse. That's what I've chosen to do. I am who I am, I am bisexual and proud. If my mum doesn't like it that's not my fault! She'll just have to deal with it.