So I'm on this date... Now what?

[Mroranh]

I've never been on a date before, not for lack of social skills, charm, or good looks, but because I'm not really sure what to do. How to ask a girl on a date is all over the internet, which I'm not concerned about, but what is actually supposed to happen is not. I think people pick it up from watching movies and stuff, but I don't watch all that many, especially not that sort of stuff.

Here's the circumstances I was thinking about: I, age 16, and the girl, who is about a year older than me, and whom I am quite good friends with (don't worry though, I'm quite certain she's into me) would go and see a band or something.

In short, how do I make my intentions clear without making an idiot of myself? Are the formalities different in Australia to the US? In fact, do we even need to go on a date? Please go into EXCRUCIATING detail.

[IcaJess]

I dont think you should have to make your intentions clear, you should just be able to let it flow and be yourself and she should understand your intentions. Are you telling her this is a date or are you just going to see a band with a friend?

[Mroranh]

Do I need to tell her this is a date? Maybe I don't know so much about asking girls out as I thought. How do I make it seem as though we are on a date together, and how do I make it so at the end we haven't just had a slightly arkward excursion as friends while she thinks "what is he trying to do?"? If I just let it flow I'm fairly certain that we'll just go home like with same relationship as we left. What happens on a typical date? What are all the cliches?

[Living For Love]

You don't need to tell her it's a date. Go with her, be talkative, say funny things while you're with her, buy her a drink if you can, be kind and be yourself. And let her be the one to take the initiative if she wants to kiss you or something, so don't rush things.

[EmmaJane]

You don't need to tell her it's a date. Go with her, be talkative, say funny things while you're with her, buy her a drink if you can, be kind and be yourself. And let her be the one to take the initiative if she wants to kiss you or something, so don't rush things.
I agree with this, the main thing is to be yourself no matter what. So she will fall for you and not for who you want her to see you as.

[mrmee]

In the US, dating isn't going somewhere, it's just "those two are unavailable to everyone else"

[Mroranh]

You don't need to tell her it's a date. Go with her, be talkative, say funny things while you're with her, buy her a drink if you can, be kind and be yourself. And let her be the one to take the initiative if she wants to kiss you or something, so don't rush things.

What if she doesn't take the initiative to kiss me or anything like that? Just because if I'm not going to, there's a fair chance she won't either. Go out somewhere else another time till she gets the message?

And if she does try to take an initiative, will I be able to tell what she's trying to do?

[Living For Love]

What if she doesn't take the initiative to kiss me or anything like that? Just because if I'm not going to, there's a fair chance she won't either. Go out somewhere else another time till she gets the message?

And if she does try to take an initiative, will I be able to tell what she's trying to do?

Exactly. Don't expect her to kiss you in the first date, you need to keep hanging out with her till she get the message i.e. you're interested in her.

Well, if you notice long periods of eye contact, if she's gradually leaning onto you, or trying to be closer to you, if you notice her staring at your lips, that might indicate she's trying to kiss you.

[WeAreOneRepublic]

Now I am in australia, so to the first point if you just say "Do you want t come and join me at [insert band name]'s concert?" She will more or less likely understand, but be smooth and make sure you have the date intention in your voice. For kissing on the first date, well I have done that and things went well. Keep conversation good and at appropriate times and we humour. If you do want to go for the kiss, first look in to her eyes(while she is doing the same) dart your eyes from eyes to lips and back. If she reciprocates do it again and then if all good then move in tilting your head(you don't want to smash heads). Let it takes its course from there, good luck straya mate

[Mroranh]

Thanks Ryanair and WeAreOnRepublic. I reckon that just about covers it. One last question, though, and don't know if you can really answer it: what does the intention of a date in your voice sound like? I dunno, maybe you could give me examples to lookup?

Cheers guys. STRAYA! And, uh, Portugal?