She is so stubborn!

[Paladino]

I have been going out with my girlfriend for 10 months and she is so stubborn when she wants something her way, if shes got her mind set doing something even when I really don't want to its hard to change her mind and it seems as if sometimes what I want to do doesn't matter, its really starting to piss me off and I try to explain to her but she just argues with me and when I practically beg her to stop she argues more!! I don't know how much more I can take of this.

[Living For Love]

Being stubborn is not necessarily something bad. It's good that we have our mind focused on something and that we try everything to accomplish it. I'm sure you've already talked to her about this, so perhaps the best is either to support her or, if you see that the things she's trying to do are inevitably going wrong, let her continue and then she will realise eventually you were right after all.

[Paladino]

Well now she is saying I am pushing her to end it, fuck knows what she wants man.

[Living For Love]

Well, in that case, ask her what is she thinking in doing. If you think it's something, let's say, plausible, you can try to support her. If you think it's going to put her in trouble, just warn her about the possible outcomes of it, don't be too harsh, though, and then, if in the end what she is planning to do goes wrong, and she comes back crying on your shoulder, just be there to support her once again. Just try not to get involved in case she involves herself in some deep trouble.

[chieko]

she's like my mom.

[LouBerry]

I have been going out with my girlfriend for 10 months and she is so stubborn when she wants something her way, if shes got her mind set doing something even when I really don't want to its hard to change her mind and it seems as if sometimes what I want to do doesn't matter, its really starting to piss me off and I try to explain to her but she just argues with me and when I practically beg her to stop she argues more!! I don't know how much more I can take of this.

I see where this could be a problem, but I wouldn't do anything too crazy, because almost all girls are the same. Most of us do not like to be wrong, and so we argue. I know I do it, and I also know that I usually take it too far, but I don't really think about that when I'm trying to win an argument. Try to talk to her rationally about it.

[Paladino]

Yes but even when she has won the arguement she still tries to keep it going and then she'll say sorry later on that day.

[workingatperfect]

Sounds a bit unfair to you. She needs to realize she can't always get her way. Maybe try putting your foot down every now and then and just making it clear that you are not going to do whatever it she's insisting on. And she sounds pretty immature to me, if she can't take any criticism without making it into a fight. When your boyfriend tries to tell you that something you're doing is making him uncomfortable, you should be able to listen and if you can't, you don't deserve him. Relationships are not a one way road, both people have to be willing to listen and compromise. Just my thoughts on it. I'd say maybe try telling her one more time that you're unhappy and you need her to just listen to you this one time without starting something, and that if she can't do that, it's over.

[Meganium]

Being stubborn is not always a bad thing. It's just not working in your favor. As Melissa says, you need to assert yourself more and make it clear that she can't always have things her way in the relationship. A relationship is all about equal contribution and effort regarding making changes, and right now it's very one-sided. Not that it's your fault, but you're in the position to fix it.

[Paladino]

It is unfair at times, but I see where she is coming from some of the time .. and I am like right okay yeah I understand but other times when I say no and she doesn't like it she shouts and I say stop it man I don't want to argue but she still does.