I need help with this. like now.

[mojane_jesus_gcfreak]

Okay.
i started cutting when i was like 13.
i am 15 now.
when i started cutting i was doing it bc i had alot of pain inside[i had been molested by an uncle...], and when i cut i would forget about that inside pain, and forcus on the outside pain.
it wasnt too bad at first, and easy to hide.
bc of the shit that happened with my uncle, i was terrified of men, which in turn made me swing to the other side if you know what i mean, i am now bisexual, openly, and i came out two days before i started dating my first gf.
Well, my mom and dad found out about said relationship, and they hated it... and by the time they found out, we were in love, more like a emo love but it was love, is love. My mom desided to put me in cyber skool so i couldnt see her, and now we have broken up because we sont see each other, and we plan on getting back together when i go back to skool this fall.
now to the cutting part. when they started pulling me away from her, i started cutting more, deeper, and my arm was a mess. and im having so much trouble NOT cutting. i cant stop. it get worse everyday. i need to stop. i i dont know how. i stoped cutting when i was with her, now that i am so far away i cut again. please help me. if you know any way to help me stop please let me know.. it's very appresaited.
thanks

[thesphinx]

Sorry to hear about your girlfriend, The best thing you could do right now is seek help with a counselor or therapist because they have trained to deal with this kind of thing and can give you techniques to get the pain your feeling out in a better way.
Please give it a try.

[byee]

Sorry to hear about your girlfriend, The best thing you could do right now is seek help with a counselor or therapist because they have trained to deal with this kind of thing and can give you techniques to get the pain your feeling out in a better way.
Please give it a try.

QFT!

I agree here, i think you should ask your folks to talk with a therapist, if you're not already doing so.

There are a lot of other ways of dealing with the pain of what you've been thru, hurting yourself more isn't the best way of coping!

Tell them you want to see a therapist.

[mojane_jesus_gcfreak]

yeah.
what happens when yer parents wont take you to get help.
they just sit there and say "stop doing that..." or "dont do that to yerself..."
consoler is out of the question.
i have to deal with it on my own.

[electric7rocker]

i think you can go to a therapist without your parents consent... i mean... you may need transportation, but you could probably take a local bus or something... and just ask the therapist what to do about your parents, see if they can help without them? just an idea....

[The Batman]

I think the best thing for you to do is to just completely explain yourself to your parents and just spill your guts tell them everything you told us and hopefully they will see how much you are hurting and try and get you help

[mojane_jesus_gcfreak]

tried it.
i even called youth services on them last month.
they dont see how much pain im in.
or they see it, and they just dont care =[

[The Batman]

Then this is the time where you go out and get help for yourself don't worry about what your parents might say just go get yourself together and sorted out

[byee]

Well, it's too bad they can't see the possible correlation between their denial/inattentiveness/dismissal of your feelings/needs/issues and your hurting yourself! The task, then, is to help them see that by calmly talking with them about your need for their help in helping you, by taking you to a therapist. If you can work with them calmly to see that you need their help, you have a better chance of them responding. This might take some time, so work on it, remain calm, don't use it as a threat or excuse or taunt. Make it so they see taking you to someone as them helping you. Parents find it much easier to respond to a request for help rather than a demand for it, because that gets into the whole control thing. Also, consider talking with the school guidance counsellor about it (the same way, seeking her help with this). Parents are more likely to respond when they hear it from an outside authority, too.