My friends being fingered by her boyfriend

[Pop girl]

Ok so my friend is only 13 and her boyfriend fingers and rubs her. He's the same age but he has a reputation of doing that. She told us that she loved it and she told her boyfriend "if this is what sex feels like I want it!" I'm not trying to stick my nose in her business but I want her to make good decisions and not regret things later. The thing is, she is the kind of girl that lies for attention. She told everyone in school that she sent nudes to a guy she never met but then later she told us she made it up. She also lied about getting her first period because everyone else was getting theirs. Plz help me. I'm kind of mad at her cause she's not like this and she's acting slutty but it's not my place to get mad at her. What do I say? And what's normal at this age?

[Tiffy]

It sounds to me like she might be making it up. but boys are boys too. so it is possible. I was masturbating at 13. But hadnt had sex yet. I would talk to her. and tell her that you are worried about her. And if she values your friendship, she will listen. Mabey ask her details. that will clarify if she is telling the truth. And ask her what she wants outta it. where she sees it going. and how will she feel when he moves on to the next girl.

[ImagineRepublicCity]

You should talk to her and let her know that you're kind of concerned and that it actually affects you as well. I guess some people do lose their virginity really young but some don't and I don't know what the legal age is for where you live (Since I don't know where you live) but yeah. It depends on the people in the relationship. If they're into touching and rubbing, then that's what they do. If not, then they won't.

[Taryn98]

Sounds like she's not a very good friend. Good friend's don't lie to each other and make things up. I would avoid her.

[jenna123]

i would talk to her and tell her to stop lying, its serious stuff now, she could get a reputation of being a slut through her whole school life, but it doesnt seem to bother her if she made up those things of sending nude pics. At that age i think having sex is maybe too soon and it depends on the guy, and having sex is not the same as masturbating. If they are both cool with their relationship and like fingering/rubbing, then thats fine, as long as she isnt making it up or it escalades too much

[emily-candace]

I would not think that boys 13 would know how to do that and know how to do it good enough to where it feels good to us at that age. I don't really believe her, sorry.

[Shailene]

probably best you parts ways....doesn't sound like a good friend

[Swimmie]

She just wants some attention... I wouldn't be so radical as to stop being her friend... Just beware that what she tells might not be true...

[NotShortButFunsized]

She didn't feel comfortable being behind getting her first period, and you say she has a reputation of lying for attention, so i think she has poor self esteem, probably feels lonely and vulnerable, and really wants to fit in but isn't totally sure how yet.

She has perfectly normal sexual thoughts and feelings and knows everyone else does as well, but if she thinks its normal to do sexual things like that (i know i did at one point,) she would feel like she has to do that to fit in with everyone else.

of course, she also probably knows having a reputation for being open to that activity could give her special attention from boys, which would also feed her need for attention

don't reward her for lying, but my advice would be to just keep being a good friend to her and hope it helps her realize that she doesn't need to give into all the pressure to fit in and be worth friendships and things like that