A different question

[Arkius]

Hey guys, i'm new here and this is my first post, so sorry if I don't follow some rules or something. I am hesitant to post this really, because I feel it might make me seem narcissistic or something.. But this has been bugging me for a while. I have noticed I am around depressed people quite a bit. My most recent girlfriend is/was depressed, two of my best friends are depressed, and it just seems like a lot of people are. They all have their various reasons for being depressed, and I understand them and try to help. Recently, however, I discovered something. A lot of the things that make my friends depressed are things that apply to me.. I know this is odd, but I am honestly serious. I am pretty unattractive, I have a hard time when it comes to relationships. I'm 16 and my last relationship was when I was 14. I know i'm not attractive and I have come to terms with it. I don't really have much going on in my life, besides just gaming and such. I also VERY rarely get to see my Dad, as him and my mother have been divorced for most of my life and he is in the military. People are constantly arguing around me and yelling. My mom completely hates most of what I do. She loves me, but she constantly yells at me for being on the computer just because i'm on it. Nobody in my family really accepts who I am as a self admitted nerd, and they constantly show it. My family is also on the poor side, and I don't really get as much as other kids (not that I mind). I am really smart but don't try at school and get C average grades when I'm constantly reminded that I could get A's easily, which is true. I still don't have a job, which i'm hoping will change soon. However, this is my point. After all of these things which seem like causes for depression, and just the fact that there is nothing I really have that could be considered an actual usable skill outside of hobbies, I am not depressed. At all. Is it just because I have a strong state of mind, or what? Again, I am REALLY sorry if this offends anybody, because I just feel like a dick posting this. I'm just a curious person, and it is odd to me that I don't feel the slightest bit of depression at my life, even though it isn't a great one at all.

[workingatperfect]

Depression is a funny thing. Different things trigger it for different people. Personally, a lot of what you said applies to me as well. But those aren't really the causes for my depression, because a lot of those things don't bother me much (not seeing my dad, that I didn't do well in school, not being really cute, not having any skills, no job, poor family) Other things tend to be what make me depressed, mostly lack of friends and my anxiety seem to cause it a lot of the time, as well as feeling like a failure and myself - my own actions, attitude, etc.

Overall, I'm fairly happy with my life. I'm just not happy with myself, with the things that I feel like I should have control over but don't seem to. For a lot of people, it's the things they can't control that gets them. For me, it's not, and I'm guessing that's the case with you.

[Pulp501]

Things effect people different ways, so while some get depressed at very small things, others never get depressed.