open relationships

[Brown13]

My bf brought up an open relationship and i didnt think that was a good idea. Im not entirely sure how to go about this

[CabbageMedul]

If you're not okay with it, you should talk about it with him.
I, being as paranoid as I am, would instantly think he was cheating on me and whatnot. But that's just me.

My point is, if it's not okay with you, you should tell him you don't want it. If he respects and loves you, he'll understand, and will stay with you, and only you.

[Brown13]

As of right now i don't think he is cheating on me and i'm not one to start accusing. I will bring it up with him and see what happens. If it doesn't work out, it is what it is

[ksdnfkfr]

I don't like the idea - sounds dodgy to me. it's like "let me fool around with a few others to see if i like one of them better - but still hold on to you just in case i don't find someone better"

[Synyster Shadows]

I don't like the idea - sounds dodgy to me. it's like "let me fool around with a few others to see if i like one of them better - but still hold on to you just in case i don't find someone better"

I agree with Ezra. It sounds too suspicious. But talk to your boyfriend and see what he says.

[workingatperfect]

I mean, I can see the benefits of them. I wouldn't really say it's suspicious, there's tons of reasons someone would want to in which they mean no harm or anything. But if you're not into it, tell him. He may respect it, but chances are he's not ready for a commitment, so there's always the chance he may break up with you.

[skittles_was_here]

I agree with Ezra. It sounds too suspicious. But talk to your boyfriend and see what he says.

as much as i hate to disagree with you and ezra, drewbear, i honestly think that it's not suspicious at all. i know there are people in the world (i forgot the name of them) that would like to have open relationships, it doesnt mean they're cheating on their partners, in fact they might love them as much as i love you. but it's they're sexuality and the way they are that makes them want the open relationship, just like how being gay isnt a choice.there is this couple that volunteer at my school who are married, and love each other very much, but also have an open relationship. i'm not saying this is always the case, i'm just saying, there is a possibility that this guy may not be cheating.

[nik511881]

You should be totally open with this. You'll get to date other people AND you'll have a good alibi if you decide to break it off with him.

[AlexOnToast]

Lol sounds well dodgey to me...I would be hella suspicious

[WeAreOneRepublic]

as much as i hate to disagree with you and ezra, drewbear, i honestly think that it's not suspicious at all. i know there are people in the world (i forgot the name of them) that would like to have open relationships, it doesnt mean they're cheating on their partners, in fact they might love them as much as i love you. but it's they're sexuality and the way they are that makes them want the open relationship, just like how being gay isnt a choice.there is this couple that volunteer at my school who are married, and love each other very much, but also have an open relationship. i'm not saying this is always the case, i'm just saying, there is a possibility that this guy may not be cheating.

I do agree with skittles here,

You guys are just jumping to conclusions, take a look at all possibilities. He hasn't said what nor do you guys know, you don't know him either.

Yeah, so disagreeing with the rest and supporting skittles opinion.

[Shailene]

personally not for me, wouldn't support it

[KiyoshisIsland]

Just make sure you are ok with it

[Ricky.h]

Me and my gf have an open relationship, but it's only that participates out of the relationship, but she knows and it's fine, because it's only sex for me, because I'm not getting emotionally connected to other girls...most of the time it's a one night stand or hookup. And my gf accepts it, and even encourages it just as long as I tell her about them, and I do, so it works. an open relationship isn't for everyone, me and my gf trust each other so we have a solid foundation of understanding

[photojared]

Umm yeah no, hate even the idea of it!!!!! But that's just me, you should have a open talk about it all and voice your opinion on it but first ask why they want to have an open relationship, never jump to conclusions though remember that they like you and have the or hopefully best intentions for you. just be sure they know how you feel about this. Best of luck to ya.

[Human]

If my girlfriend ever mentioned the idea of an open relationship I'd instantly assume she's cheating on me and is looking to remove the guilt... although obviously that's not all cases and as I said an assumption.
I'd say no, and be careful... I'm paranoid so my advice isn't the best however

[laurakoller0815]

I have read the posting carefuly. At the end of the day the person whos involved should talk about it and make a decision which is suitable for both.

[jessi_s]

before relationship gets too emotional and its mostly based on physical values, it could work. otherwise I doubt it.

[hoboliz]

Me and my gf have an open relationship, but it's only that participates out of the relationship, but she knows and it's fine, because it's only sex for me, because I'm not getting emotionally connected to other girls...most of the time it's a one night stand or hookup. And my gf accepts it, and even encourages it just as long as I tell her about them, and I do, so it works. an open relationship isn't for everyone, me and my gf trust each other so we have a solid foundation of understanding

This is important. An open relationship also means that the people in it are completely open with each other.
If you want to test his intent, say you're OK with it as long as the first act is him watching you with another guy. Judge his reaction.