Feelings for 2 girls (serious)

[equestrian]

I know everyone's going to say the typical "follow your heart, which one makes your heart beat faster, etc." but what if they both make my heart beat really fast? I care about them both. I enjoy spending time with both of them. I can't be with either of them right now because I know that I like both of them. Some say make a list of the good qualities in both of them and choose who has more. I can't do this since I care about both of them and affection can't be measured quantitatively. What do I do?

[SmokyChica]

I'd say make a pro/con list. Find out what you like about both of them. Make a list of what you want in a girl and see which fits better. See which one likes you if you don't know already. It's a difficult situation but you need to find a way to decide without hurting your relationship with either. I hope you find a way to make your decision and it's a good one! Good luck!

[Miri]

You may be attracted to them both, but the honest truth is that both of them may not care for you back in a romantic way.

If you're looking for a relationship with either of them, I guess to start, think of the one that you share the most common interests with. Think of a place that you would love to go on a date, and think of which girl would enjoy that place more. Then, ask her out. If she says no, you could always ask the other one.

That's my advice, without knowing your current relationship with both of them. Are you friends with both, or either, or neither of them? Are they close friends? All of those things can complicate a situation.

Basically, you have to choose, or just remain friends with both of them.

[chieko]

That is really complicated! Ive been to that before. It was between my boyfriend and my bestfriend who liked me. Did the two girls know about your feelings for them? In my situation since my bestfriend know that i have a boyfriend, we decided to meet secretly. They're both special to me. Later on I felt so guilty with what did i do so I broke up with my boyfriend and avoided my bestfriend, so I lost both of them. It didn't turn out well because a lot of things happened after that. But it's been a long time and they treat me like they used to do and now were okay. I don't know what will happen in your situation but I guess you'll get through a lot too so prepare for it~ loving two persons has consequences

[Harley Quinn]

Honestly, I'd go for the second girl because if you did actually like the first you wouldn't have fallen for the second one at all.

[chieko]

Honestly, I'd go for the second girl because if you did actually like the first you wouldn't have fallen for the second one at all.

She's right. It make sense :D

[ewht]

That is really complicated! Ive been to that before. It was between my boyfriend and my bestfriend who liked me. Did the two girls know about your feelings for them? In my situation since my bestfriend know that i have a boyfriend, we decided to meet secretly. They're both special to me. Later on I felt so guilty with what did i do so I broke up with my boyfriend and avoided my bestfriend, so I lost both of them. It didn't turn out well because a lot of things happened after that. But it's been a long time and now they treat me again like what they used to do and were okay. I don't know what will happen in your situation but I guess you'll get through a lot too so prepare for it~ loving two persons has consequences

You seem to be contradicting yourself. In another thread, you said that your boyfriend broke up with you because he finds you boring because all he wants is sex and you refuse to give in to his wishes. But now you are saying you broke up with him because you felt guilty playing both guys. So which is which?

[chieko]

You seem to be contradicting yourself. In other thread, you said that your boyfriend broke up with you because he finds you boring because all he wants is sex and you refuse to give in to his wishes. But now you are saying you broke up with him because you felt guilty playing both guys. So which is which?

In the other thread i DIDN'T say we broke up because of the sex issue. my question in my other thread is not about my boyfriend told me that i was boring. i just mentioned it because it's one of the factors why it lead me to ask that question. we broke up because of other things as well like this one. and i also STATED in this thread that a lot of things happened after we broke up. he was so angry at me that he said that I'm boring because i didn't have sex with him. DO you get it now? Maybe I didn't explain things clearly. I also didn't 'play' with two guys. It's NOT called playing

[Harley Quinn]

Guys, stay on topic. If you want to discuss this, do it privately, thank you.

[ewht]

Jake, you have to be very careful. One wrong move and you may ruin both friendships forever. It might be best for you to be really close friends with both of them forever. Only you know them more than any one of us giving advice here. For example, if you know that only 1 of them has romantic interest in you and the other only have close friend interest in you, you can safely have a relationship with the one that has romantic interest in you without hurting the other person. So, if you do not yet know how they feel about you, try to find out. Once you find out, we can discuss the matter better and give you better advice. :)

[equestrian]

Girl A:
Likes me: 95% Sure (She essentially told me she does)
Pros: Extremely smart. More cosmopolitan. Knows herself, knows those around her. Spontaneous in a good way. Well developed character. Creative. Happy.
Cons: Sometimes overly concerned with popularity and what others think of her.
Physical Attraction Score: 95%
Emotional Compatibility Score: 90%
Heart Beats Fast Around Her: Yes



Girl B:
Likes me: 75% Sure (She has given some very unsubtle hints)
Pros: Down to earth. Wild spirit. Quiet in a way that I like. Very Caring. Humble. Nonjudgemental.
Cons: Not as ambitious (though sometimes this is a good thing... she's very relaxed and chill). Less developed character. Sometimes seems unsure of herself.
Physical Attraction Score: 90%
Emotional Compatibility Score: 95%
Heart Beats Fast Around Her: Yes


It's really hard because they both have overwhelming pros and I care about them both so much. My head might explode.

[Meganium]

I know everyone's going to say the typical "follow your heart, which one makes your heart beat faster, etc." but what if they both make my heart beat really fast? I care about them both. I enjoy spending time with both of them. I can't be with either of them right now because I know that I like both of them. Some say make a list of the good qualities in both of them and choose who has more. I can't do this since I care about both of them and affection can't be measured quantitatively. What do I do?

As Rachel said, it's more than possible for you to lose both of them as friends if you don't pursue at least one. Unless you want the relationships to remain the same, which is clearly not the case.

Honestly, I'd go for the second girl because if you did actually like the first you wouldn't have fallen for the second one at all.

I second this.

Girl A:
Likes me: 95% Sure (She essentially told me she does)
Pros: Extremely smart. More cosmopolitan. Knows herself, knows those around her. Spontaneous in a good way. Well developed character. Creative. Happy.
Cons: Sometimes overly concerned with popularity and what others think of her.
Physical Attraction Score: 95%
Emotional Compatibility Score: 90%
Heart Beats Fast Around Her: Yes



Girl B:
Likes me: 75% Sure (She has given some very unsubtle hints)
Pros: Down to earth. Wild spirit. Quiet in a way that I like. Very Caring. Humble. Nonjudgemental.
Cons: Not as ambitious (though sometimes this is a good thing... she's very relaxed and chill). Less developed character. Sometimes seems unsure of herself.
Physical Attraction Score: 90%
Emotional Compatibility Score: 95%
Heart Beats Fast Around Her: Yes


It's really hard because they both have overwhelming pros and I care about them both so much. My head might explode.

This only makes me think that you'd be better off with #2 even more. Even if #1 likes you from a romantic angle, and you're aware of that, if the feeling was mutual enough, then the case would already be solved and you'd go for her. Don't hurt her feelings because you realized that you never cared for her as much as she did you. (Sorry if this is sounding a bit dark. I'm sure you have no intention of hurting either of these girls, but still, a gentleman would try to avoid something like that.)

[equestrian]

I knew girl B before girl A. It's the other way around. But I knew girl A liked me before I knew girl B.

[ewht]

Jake, after seeing more info, my advice has more value now. Since they both like you romantically, you have to be really really careful. I know it is tough but I can trust you can do it.