Never had a relationship

[JakeD14]

I've never had a relationship before let alone my first kiss. I think the main cause of this would be because I don't get out much since I don't really fit in with my friend group to well (I have another thread on this). I'd really like to gain my first girlfriend before I leave highschool which is in another 3 years but no one here really has the same sort of personality as I do. Does anyone have any advice on how I could build a friendship with people outside of school without needing my other friends?

[Seemyheart]

I've never had a relationship before let alone my first kiss. I think the main cause of this would be because I don't get out much since I don't really fit in with my friend group to well (I have another thread on this). I'd really like to gain my first girlfriend before I leave highschool which is in another 3 years but no one here really has the same sort of personality as I do. Does anyone have any advice on how I could build a friendship with people outside of school without needing my other friends?

You could join clubs, and meet people that way

[Matt_is_Awesome]

join clubs and get involved with your church youth group. Im known around alot and its because i do alot.. im in a church youth group (we hang out as friends alot) i run a club at my school, im in band, and im very social and everyone knows me and talks to me..jusy join groups and see where you fit in.. thats my best advice for you. hope this helped a little bro..good luck man

[chieko]

yes you should try to join clubs so you'll get to know people who have the same interests, another way is to go to parties

[JakeD14]

join clubs and get involved with your church youth group. Im known around alot and its because i do alot.. im in a church youth group (we hang out as friends alot) i run a club at my school, im in band, and im very social and everyone knows me and talks to me..jusy join groups and see where you fit in.. thats my best advice for you. hope this helped a little bro..good luck man

I'm not the really person to be in clubs and stuff like that let alone church groups. I could always look for a club that suits me tho.

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Even doing Volunteer work or getting a job is pretty good. That way, you can be racking up hours/money while getting out more and meeting new people. Also, I get what you mean. When you're in high school, you're kinda forced to be friends with people which you might not like that much because you know them for 5 years (Or really, your school life, wherever you live).
Anyway, good luck and I hope I helped. c:

[JakeD14]

Even doing Volunteer work or getting a job is pretty good. That way, you can be racking up hours/money while getting out more and meeting new people. Also, I get what you mean. When you're in high school, you're kinda forced to be friends with people which you might not like that much because you know them for 5 years (Or really, your school life, wherever you live).
Anyway, good luck and I hope I helped. c:

Yeah I don't think I want a real job right now as I could easily work online with something I like to do. I'd really prefer to just meet people outside of clubs and work. I'm just not sure where to.

[xandyx]

Sports? I know I meet almost all my friends (except for school obviously) in sports.

Idk its hard to say what to do if you don't wanna leave the house. Sometimes you have to pretend to be more outgoing than you are until it feels more natural after you made friends with someone.

[xandyx]

sorry for the double post the site lagged

[JakeD14]

Sports? I know I meet almost all my friends (except for school obviously) in sports.

Idk its hard to say what to do if you don't wanna leave the house. Sometimes you have to pretend to be more outgoing than you are until it feels more natural after you made friends with someone.

It's not that I don't want to leave the house. It's just I have no one to leave with. I'm to different than the friends I have now to meet any other of there friends as we don't really like the same things and such. I think I would be more active outside and shit if I knew people who liked the same stuff as me. Maybe that would be able to help.

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Or even if not, you might find this a bit dodgy but there are many sites like rentafriend.com or something where you (wait for it) find people which live around you to hang with you, whether it's for a social or movies or just for dinner.
The thing to meeting more people other than the ones at school is by getting more 'circles.' You need more circles to meet more people. That's all there is to it. If you do completely different things (which you still like), you're going to find completely different people in both circles.

[JakeD14]

Or even if not, you might find this a bit dodgy but there are many sites like rentafriend.com or something where you (wait for it) find people which live around you to hang with you, whether it's for a social or movies or just for dinner.
The thing to meeting more people other than the ones at school is by getting more 'circles.' You need more circles to meet more people. That's all there is to it. If you do completely different things (which you still like), you're going to find completely different people in both circles.

Think I will check out that website but I will try be careful in case there is any of those pedos or w/e. lol
EDIT: Looked on that rentafriend website and they all seem to be a lot older than me.

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Another idea is by joining groups online. Surprisingly, that helps too. I'm in the Australia Nerdfighters group and Tumblr group on facebook and they sometimes organise hangouts as such and there are always a lot of people there. You always find someone like the same stuff as you and hey, majority of them are 15-25 probably.

[JakeD14]

Another idea is by joining groups online. Surprisingly, that helps too. I'm in the Australia Nerdfighters group and Tumblr group on facebook and they sometimes organise hangouts as such and there are always a lot of people there. You always find someone like the same stuff as you and hey, majority of them are 15-25 probably.

But I'm not sure if there would be any hangouts arranged over here. I live in Ireland if you where wondering.

[Sorge]

I'm in the exact same situation as you except I'm a year older. So I obviously don't really have much to help, sorry. However, I can assume you're kind of a quiet guy, am I right? So, and this has helped me a bunch since I'm not exactly antisocial or shy but just really quiet, since I've kind of been the silent guy for a while, don't be afraid to strike up a conversation with someone. I have other issues involving... well, I'm really not sure, but that's a different discussion. So if you should take anything from this dumb spiel, don't be afraid to talk to people. If that's not the issue, then sorry, I really can't help.

[JakeD14]

I'm in the exact same situation as you except I'm a year older. So I obviously don't really have much to help, sorry. However, I can assume you're kind of a quiet guy, am I right? So, and this has helped me a bunch since I'm not exactly antisocial or shy but just really quiet, since I've kind of been the silent guy for a while, don't be afraid to strike up a conversation with someone. I have other issues involving... well, I'm really not sure, but that's a different discussion. So if you should take anything from this dumb spiel, don't be afraid to talk to people. If that's not the issue, then sorry, I really can't help.

Yeah I am fairly quiet. After about an hour or so of being around the person I would start talking more, but I'm trying to push myself to talk more to try become more confident around people I don't know.

[Nathan32]

Awww Bro I have the thing for you dude (: There is hope and trust me it isnt what it is cracked up to be. You seem like a quiet shy person. You are saying none of your friends are into what you like so why don't you look around your school for like groups of people that fit into what you like.

Maybe if someone is talking about something that is similar to you try to relate to them. Trust me if they are talking about the same things you do and you talk to them they most likely will start to appreciate you. Try find some new guys who like to do what you guys do, get used to them and just chill out bro things will work out you will find the one you are looking for.

Maybe text your closest new friend and just be like "What's up dude" and just see if he's doing anything if not just ask to go hang out, Go check out the things you like maybe someone will be there for you. Rushing your first is not the way to go it should feel natural and you should feel comfortable in your own skin. I'm sorry to say but you can't take 1 step forward 2 steps back bro. You need to find your people the ones you click with it won't be hard bro. Girls like confident men guys who are confident in what they believe in and if you approach them like you are confident then thats a win.

If she rejects you (It isn't going to happen %100 you have to try) don't be sad about it! and hey even if you find some girls that are into the same thing (If you like gaming,computers,reading,writing,singing, anything at all) and you become friends maybe their friends will introduce to you their friends! I know how it is i'm not a social butterfly but i know what i am talking about.

~Be a first class version of yourself, Not a second class version of someone else.

[JakeD14]

Awww Bro I have the thing for you dude (: There is hope and trust me it isnt what it is cracked up to be. You seem like a quiet shy person. You are saying none of your friends are into what you like so why don't you look around your school for like groups of people that fit into what you like.

Maybe if someone is talking about something that is similar to you try to relate to them. Trust me if they are talking about the same things you do and you talk to them they most likely will start to appreciate you. Try find some new guys who like to do what you guys do, get used to them and just chill out bro things will work out you will find the one you are looking for.

Maybe text your closest new friend and just be like "What's up dude" and just see if he's doing anything if not just ask to go hang out, Go check out the things you like maybe someone will be there for you. Rushing your first is not the way to go it should feel natural and you should feel comfortable in your own skin. I'm sorry to say but you can't take 1 step forward 2 steps back bro. You need to find your people the ones you click with it won't be hard bro. Girls like confident men guys who are confident in what they believe in and if you approach them like you are confident then thats a win.

If she rejects you (It isn't going to happen %100 you have to try) don't be sad about it! and hey even if you find some girls that are into the same thing (If you like gaming,computers,reading,writing,singing, anything at all) and you become friends maybe their friends will introduce to you their friends! I know how it is i'm not a social butterfly but i know what i am talking about.

~Be a first class version of yourself, Not a second class version of someone else.

I've tried to talk to people in school before but they seem to not be interested to talk to me. The friends I was talking about only talk to me in school or on the weekend and when I ask to do something with them they make excuses. I want to find a friend group where we can all chill and appreciate each other.