Am I straight, gay or bi?

[halosta]

I'm 13 and recently I've been having gay fantasies. Whenever I see gay porn like guys giving each other handjobs, oral, and just pictures of men naked I get turned on. Also one time my friend offered to jack eachother off while alone and we did and I felt disgusted after. Later on I started masturbating to the thought of that time we jacked eachother off. Also now whenever I watch straight porn or lesbian porn I don't get turned on at all. I've also liked girls and had crushes for as long as I can remember and I've had also had one girlfriend that I've had very strong feelings for. I've also never had any feelings for a guy. Is this the result of me getting bored of straight porn and just finding more arousal from gay porn? Or am I really gay or bi? Will giving a three month break from porn and masturbation give me more clarity on my sexual orientation. I still find girls beautiful but I'm not sexually aroused by them as of now.

[CRed]

Um I think your first thought is more accurate. That's just what your feeling at the time, it doesn't have to mean that your gay or bi and you don't have to take a break. Its horniness it'll take you through trials and tribulations. I've had something similar to this to.

[chieko]

You're not gay. Ive read a similar question before in yahoo answers

[Miri]

You're not gay. Ive read a similar question before in yahoo answers
Well, that's not necessarily true, and one person's situation on yahoo could be completely different then another person's situation, which is more likely than not. You could be gay, straight or bisexual, or something else entirely.

Hormones can cause lots of different feelings at different times, and your description here can't help anyone give you a definitive answer to what your sexual orientation is. Also, I wouldn't only go off of how you feel about certain types of porn to determine your orientation, as porn is usually an unrealistic interpretation of sex designed to arouse people by showing them sexual "extremes".

If I were you, I'd take a look at the "Big Sexuality Sticky" at the top of this page in the forums, to maybe help guide you towards your answer. Think about how the points mentioned there apply to you, and it may help you find what you're looking for.

[sqishy]

You are at the least curious about your sexuality.

[mww113]

Sexuality is difficult to figure out. No one can answer that question for you. We just don't know. What I do know though, is that there's no reason to label yourself while you're young. Just like what you like, and don't worry about it :). You have plenty of time to figure it out.

[Shadow08200]

You're only 13, so I wouldn't try to say you're gay, bi, or straight until you know for sure. From what I read, it seems that you went through a phase like I did where I had those thoughts, but you'll eventually figure things out for yourself. I think you are curious, but in the end, you'll know whether or not you are this, or that.

[halosta]

I agree, that's why I'm going to lay off of the porn for quite a while. Then I'm sure it'll be more clear on what I really like. Also, I will be sure to look at the sticky. Thank's for the advice.

You're not gay. Ive read a similar question before in yahoo answers

Probably not, but time will tell.

You're only 13, so I wouldn't try to say you're gay, bi, or straight until you know for sure. From what I read, it seems that you went through a phase like I did where I had those thoughts, but you'll eventually figure things out for yourself. I think you are curious, but in the end, you'll know whether or not your are this, or that.

I agree. I'll just wait it out I guess.

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[From Chris]

I'm 13 and recently I've been having gay fantasies. Whenever I see gay porn like guys giving each other handjobs, oral, and just pictures of men naked I get turned on. Also one time my friend offered to jack eachother off while alone and we did and I felt disgusted after. Later on I started masturbating to the thought of that time we jacked eachother off. Also now whenever I watch straight porn or lesbian porn I don't get turned on at all. I've also liked girls and had crushes for as long as I can remember and I've had also had one girlfriend that I've had very strong feelings for. I've also never had any feelings for a guy. Is this the result of me getting bored of straight porn and just finding more arousal from gay porn? Or am I really gay or bi? Will giving a three month break from porn and masturbation give me more clarity on my sexual orientation. I still find girls beautiful but I'm not sexually aroused by them as of now.

Hi there Halosta. :) Let's start off with saying, figuring out your sexual orientation is not a simple nor short process. It takes time to figure out who you are and you can't judge your sexual orientation by porn. I think you could just be curious, or even bisexual towards guys but without the romance part. It's perfectly normal at your age, and i think waiting a couple years would help. I don't think stopping porn for a few months will change much honestly but opinions may vary. :) You could also be biromatic, and be sexually attracted to guys and romantically attracted to girls, which is normal. But in my best advice i would suggest you wait a couple years before feeling like you need to put your finger on a specific sexual orientation. ;)

-From Chris

[ksdnfkfr]

I'm 13... am I straight, gay or bi?... I'm really confused...

This is a really reoccurring theme I keep seeing. Sexuality is new to you. It is confusing. I can be overwhelming. You're not sure what you like, what you don't like. It's all conflicting... Try not to get too worked up over it. Most of us are in the same boat.