My Fucking Family

[Liam]

My family is pushing me over the edge.I live with my mum,step dad,brother 20 and sister 19 (and soon to be nephew in a couple days).First of all my brother is a high school drop out and the most lazy person I know,He comes in at 10 and sleeps till 2 in the afternoon he also has no job and doesn't help at home and we share a room.My sister is pregnant and due in a few days so she cant do anything and whenever we argue I get blamed no matter what.I have to do all the housework because my parents work 7 days a week and I still have to fit time for studying and for me time and friends.I am furious with them they have no appreciation for me and my parents still don't care about my brother ans sister doing nothing.I feel like I cant keep up with school,Friends,work,and the stress, I cant handle it.Thanks

[Living For Love]

Calm down, just do your part of the housework and leave the rest for the others. When your parents realise they're not being fair, you just need to tell them that: you have to study, you have a career to follow, you have friends that need your attention too, and you can't be the only one to do everything. Focus on what makes you happy, and avoid arguing and discussions, that's what I do, and it usually works. Good luck!

[CcRoder]

Not one person can deny that you're in a hard situation here, and that you certainly aren't getting the fair end of the whole deal.

Right now, the best thing to do about your brother is to not worry about dealing with him. You can encourage him to do something useful, or guilt trip him, or whatever, but apparently that won't work. He might just end up learning his own lesson. Neglect is a horrible vice, and if he's lazy as you say he is, it will certainly catch up to him.

Your sister is about to have a baby, and she will certainly need help to care for the child, but here's another stress put on YOU that you don't need at all. It's not fair, and you're trying to hold your head up as much as you can.

Liam, as far as I can tell, being blamed for absolutely everything is a part of growing up that nobody has yet to escape. It happens to me. At the end of the day it leaves you wondering "what did I really do wrong", and in most cases what was done wrong is something not even worth worrying about.

School. Your school has teachers, and you should absolutely go to every teacher you have teaching you and say to them "Listen, this and this and this is happening. I am overwhelmed. Help take a load off my back". If they cared, they would certainly help you along with schoolwork. You don't need to give them any details.

Stress. Do you have a close friend? A best mate or whatever? I mean, if you did, you could vent to them...and by every means they should try and help you. If you don't, PM me any time. I wish I could help.

How about grandparents? Do you have any around? You can talk to them too, usually they'll lend a sympathetic ear. I have never been in your situation, but I can only imagine that it's hard.

But hold your head up. And keep it. You may be yelled at, or trampled on, or what have you but remember if no one else is staying strong, you MUST. You can survive this.

[CRed]

Next time there's work that needs to be done tell your brother to do it, and complain loud and rude as hxll till he does it cuz he's freeloading at your expense, but make sure you get some evidence just in case he tries to turn it around on you when your parents get home. Maybe video tape or record the conversations. And your sister is pregnant not helpless she can do something. Sit your parents done for some one on one. Tell them that they need to do better, yea you understand that their working throughout the week, but they need to put a stop to this. Your brother needs to step his game up, get a job, do some house work, pay rent, pay you, and eventually move out and probably the same for your sister. And you can try leaving the mess for your parents when they get home. And when you get blamed for everything tell your people about themselves and how they need to act right.

[RavleIncarnate]

Wow. I say nobody should be in this situation, it IS really stressful and you deserve better. Your brother should do some too, I didn't notice how old you are, but if your bro is such a lazy slob as you imply, he should take the workload, or at least a part of it. As for the others above me, they gave commendable advice, and anyone would do well to listen to them. I recommend the teacher way, from my own experiences. I have been on some tough times, and I have always been able to confide in my teachers.

[Were]

just do your house work and go spend sometime with your friends or read your books and don't bother them