Could i Be Developing an Eating Disorder?

[Axellance]

i havent eaten a full days meals in nearly 2 weeks, and when i eat i feel really depressed and lazy and fat. I often worry that im to fat, even though people often tell me im thin and i feel there lying when they tell me this.

i think the fact that i worry about my weight alot may come from my stepmother, dad, sister, and brother calling me fat alot and trying to "help" me loose weight. They always acted as though i was huge!

[dinger]

i dont nessarily think that you have an eating disorda as such. but i dont think that something is wrong. and i think that you need to take your body as it is. eat healthily, exercise but dont skip meals. trust me you dont want this turning into an eating disorda. just relax a bit.

[Axellance]

Yeah i dont want it to!

[dinger]

if that is you in your picture you dont look fat at all.
see me in my picture that is the fattest i have been it was taken a couple of years ago. now i cant even bring myself to take a picture. you dont want to turn out like that. just start by eating breakfast lunch and dinner and gradually work your way back up.
just me.
how long have you been like this for?

[Axellance]

it started like 8 months ago, and thats my pic i took it about a month ago!

[dinger]

you dont want to become any skinnier then what you are. you are fine, even better then fine you are skinny. and there is no neeed. trust me just eat heALTHY AND ALL THESE FEELINGS WILL hopefully go away.

[Axellance]

i hope so!
i think i look skinny in that pic but thats not what i see in the mirror. I have a low self esteen due to my stepmother (it was mainly her) saying i was fat. I have struggled with cutting due to depression but i finally quit. its hard to forget nrgitive things people say ya know.

[dinger]

ohh trust me i know all about being told you are fat. but i know it is hard but you have got to stop listening to those memories.

any way i am sorry.
but i have been told that it is not a good idea to be talking and trying to help people oput about possible eating disordas because i suffer from a very high strength one (you can read my post if you want) and i dont wont and cant take my own advise so its seems stupid.

but i hope you do take my advise and be stringer then me, and if i didnt hlep you then i hope soeone else can.
stay strong. :)

[Axellance]

thanx
yeah i already have read your poast but your advice is still good im not really into it like you are
i hope you can work though it before its to late
and i opreceate your advice!

[sophies_justice]

On some days i dont eat aneything except for dinner, and when i eat (witch is moast of the time) i feel really depressed and lazy and fat. I often worry that im to fat, even though people often tell me im thin and i feel there lying when they tell me this.

i think the fact that i worry about my weight alot may come from my stepmother, dad, sister, and brother calling me fat alot and trying to "help" me loose weight. They always acted as though i was huge!

i don't think that you have an eating disorder, but i think that you could possibly develop one if you aren't careful. i know it is hard to ignore the things that your family (especially your step mom) says, but you need to listen to the positive things that people say to you. if your family says that you're fat and need to lose weight, but you have friends and people on here telling you that you are skinny and don't need to lose any weight then you should listen to your friends. focus on the positive things people say. and if you think that they are lying about what they say ask them to be honest about it.

are you seeing a counselor or therapist? if so talk to them about all of this, they will help you figure out these feelings and help you understand that you aren't fat and get your self-esteem and body image up.

stay strong, and good luck.!!

[Axellance]

no im not seeing a counsler or theripist!
i havent told aneyone offline about it!
and i dont plan on it!!
sorry if you think i should thats just not an options!

[Axellance]

Oops

[japanman]

well i hope you make it thourgh this :(

[Axellance]

thanx i will

[japanman]

:woot::pump::hug::bounce::banana::banana:thanx i will

just to make sure here have a pumpkin

:banana::banana::banana::banana:

[Axellance]

LOL okay

[byee]

Lance, I'm sorry I missed this, I hope my input here can still be of some value.

First, you're definitely not fat. Actually, you're rather handsome. Is that a lava light I see peaking out on your night stand? Groovy!

I don't think you have an eating D/O, but I do think you're feelings have been hurt by what your step mom has said to you about being fat. You've obviously heard this, and without recognizing that it isn't true, you've sorta accepted it, maybe because she's your step mom and kids listen to their parents.

I think parents (and adults) often say things in an attempt to be 'helpful' without realizing that their words can have an opposite effect. Chaulk it up to carelessness or sloppiness, but adults often clip their words, they often don't completely express the entire thought, preferring to get right to the point. Which is often more sharp and pointed than it needs to be. She might believe you could use more exercise or eat better foods, but instead she just rounded everything off and said you're 'fat'. Blah.

I'd suggest when these things happen you tell her nicely that you don't find those sorts of comments helpful. Very often, when people/adults/parents get some feedback about the way you're experiencing whatever they're saying, they adjust themselves. Maybe she just needs to get the feedback from you about the way she sounds and how it makes you feel.