Mom talks to me like a child

[Columbus]

Does anybody's mother also do this to them. Im not saying that my mom is treating me like a child but she talks to me like I am one. For the longest time she just always talks to me the same way you would to a 4 year old. Like the high pitched tone of voice just makes me mad, and im 17 now and it still goes on. It also doesn't help that she found out about my depression lately and she continues to talk to me with this peachy 4 year old type voice. And she doesn't talk to my older sister like this. I told her to stop talking to me like this when I was really mad with her and she was like "Oh Dillon stop it, its no big deal" which made me even more mad and I told her that she was driving me crazy (which I know is pretty harsh to say to your mom but I just lost after so long) and then she told me I was driving her crazy and didn't say why except she said "oh you know why" and just left. (which she was referring to my depression and how im always sad which is making her mad for some reason). After that she acted like nothing ever happened and went on with her some ways. I dont know why she does this and she doesn't realize it herself. Anyone else's mom act like this.

[ArtemisLianCrock]

Yep, mine does. She still calls me bubby girl, and wants me to act like I'm incapable of functioning without her.

[johndoe1112]

haha that bullshit my mom wants me to be younger then i am but she knows that im not going to be that shit is a bit extreme

[Living For Love]

Maybe you shouldn't worry about what tone of voice she uses, but her real intention. Do you think your mother trusts you, do you think she thinks you're mature enough to be independent? Maybe that's what is worrying her, after your depression and stuff, she might just be over protecting and doesn't trust you enough.

[CRed]

She might see that tone as more comforting now that she knows what your dealing with. Or she's could be stuck in the past and still see's you as her little baby, like maybe when you were younger she would talk to you like that and you'd get happy and smile and stuff and she wants that. But um maybe just sit her and down and tell her that you don't like to be talked to that way and try to explain to her what she should do and how you want to be talked to.

[chieko]

She might see that tone as more comforting now that she knows what your dealing with. Or she's could be stuck in the past and still see's you as her little baby, like maybe when you were younger she would talk to you like that and you'd get happy and smile and stuff and she wants that. But um maybe just sit her and down and tell her that you don't like to be talked to that way and try to explain to her what she should do and how you want to be talked to.

I think he's right that she might be stucked in the past and i think maybe your mom liked when you were still young. just be thankful that your mom treats you like a young kid. Its what my mom do to me, and i like that she treats me like a baby because she gives me what i want just as like when i was four year old. plus, i will never hear any "stop being immature because you're old now" fuss. i think its worse of some teenager dealing with melodramatic issues will be told like that (i just saw that on TV lol)

i'm also 17 now. i got a guy friend with the same age from the basketball team and when me and my other girlfriends visited him at his house, we discovered that her mom treats him like a young kid. he felt embarrassed and annoyed at her mom, but to us girls we were just like "aww.. what a sweet mom and this is so cuteeee" so i think there's no really big deal about this. if i just misunderstood how you feel then just like what the guy i quoted said, it will be better if you talk to her in a calm and good way that you're not comfortable with what she's doing

[xandyx]

I guess its hard when you raised someone since being born to see them as grown now and leaving soon. It probably feels like yesterday to her, so maybe thats why. Just ignore the tone because at least she cares. Some parents don't even talk to there kids or worse.

[Were]

YUP,my mum too does the same to me and am 17