tom101
December 28th, 2013, 10:50 PM
So about 3 weeks ago my bf of 3 and a half years leaves me. It was all pretty much out of the blue I kind of worked it out few days before this happened that something was not right but put it down to paranoia.
3 days before this happened we had gone to a party where one of my friends who is also gay (he also had a bf) was there that night. In the space of 3 days and only talking to each for only a few hours that night the rest of the time by text the both planned to leave there bf and get together. To add insult to injury I need to confront my bf (will) about my paranoia that something was not right and need to more or less force him tol tell me about his new found "love"
It took him 3 days to throw away a loving 3 year relationship.
Once he finally told me I called up his new bf to see what he had to say for himself . It was just lie after lie with him. He said he knew nothing about it and that its all in wills head etc. Anyhow as thedays went past and I could see more clearly what was happening he was just leading will around. He waited till will had finshed with me before he broke up with his bf then went to tell wills more lies about what I have said to him. I know will never really wanted this to happened he has always been such a sweethearted person and I know after 3 years and the strss of growing up is hard on a relationship , I been there myself. My point being this guy who was meant to be a mate took away from me the best thing that ever happend to me. I cant sleep at night I am also slowly head toward depression again (something I have battle hard with for years)
After all this shit I still love him and want him back. I would love to hart him and want nothing more to do with him but sadly I just cant turn off my feeling for him. I want to fight for him back. Iknow I can win I am just so sacred of doing it. All I wanted is some advice from ppl on what I should do. Should I just not bother with him now.? Is what happend out of order or is it normal? I justnever been up in a situation like this before..
3 days before this happened we had gone to a party where one of my friends who is also gay (he also had a bf) was there that night. In the space of 3 days and only talking to each for only a few hours that night the rest of the time by text the both planned to leave there bf and get together. To add insult to injury I need to confront my bf (will) about my paranoia that something was not right and need to more or less force him tol tell me about his new found "love"
It took him 3 days to throw away a loving 3 year relationship.
Once he finally told me I called up his new bf to see what he had to say for himself . It was just lie after lie with him. He said he knew nothing about it and that its all in wills head etc. Anyhow as thedays went past and I could see more clearly what was happening he was just leading will around. He waited till will had finshed with me before he broke up with his bf then went to tell wills more lies about what I have said to him. I know will never really wanted this to happened he has always been such a sweethearted person and I know after 3 years and the strss of growing up is hard on a relationship , I been there myself. My point being this guy who was meant to be a mate took away from me the best thing that ever happend to me. I cant sleep at night I am also slowly head toward depression again (something I have battle hard with for years)
After all this shit I still love him and want him back. I would love to hart him and want nothing more to do with him but sadly I just cant turn off my feeling for him. I want to fight for him back. Iknow I can win I am just so sacred of doing it. All I wanted is some advice from ppl on what I should do. Should I just not bother with him now.? Is what happend out of order or is it normal? I justnever been up in a situation like this before..