is my boyfriend insane?

[newkler]

my boyfriend is overly possessive. we see each other in school because we go to the same class. he always sit next to me. because of this i can't talk with my other classmates anymore! after school he insists to drive me home too and if i refuse he gets extremely sad so i am forced to be with him all day. not just that, when he gets home he automatically text me and he expects me to reply back right away. if i don't reply he starts making assumptions that i text with other guys. he is always jealous too, at first he didn't want me to talk with flirty guys at school. next he forbid me to talk with my own guy friends and later on he gets jealous in his own guy friends! he takes my phone too and he gets upset when guys stare at me as if i control those guys' eyes. he also deactivated my facebook so no guys will contact me. he is mad. i;m not sure if it's normal. or should i say, he's normal. i am not happy with him anymore. he was never my 'friend'. i can't talk with him about my problems, achievements or anything else because he just wants to talk about sweet sweet love! we never get along because he's kind of a spoiled brat and so am I but when it comes to us i just always make him win. he thinks he's so great and i'm just a small ant and he'll watch me squirm. i want to break up with him but i'm scared he might hurt my physically

[Kid0809]

Low self esteem?

[Meganium]

That's a bit wild. You need to make it clear that he's overstepping his boundaries as soon as possible. The more it's put off, the more possible it is that he won't take no for an answer and make things worse or even get violent.

If you do this and see no results, that's when it's time to seek help from parents or even the police if it gets too serious.

[newkler]

@Rickymar97- I don't think so! :(

That's a bit wild. You need to make it clear that he's overstepping his boundaries as soon as possible. The more it's put off, the more possible it is that he won't take no for an answer and make things worse or even get violent.

If you do this and see no results, that's when it's time to seek help from parents or even the police if it gets too serious.

I'm so daft i don't have courage to that. I'm weak :( Well i told him before that he's controlling and very possessive but i just got a headache from arguing with him and he even became more possessive

[Sandra Main]

I feel that he is over controling and needs to back off and trust you. You need trust in a relationship. and without trust there is no relationship.
If you feel he has not trust in you time to end the relationship .
Try to be friends first without going steady and trust may follow . If you fear him causeing bodily harm seek help from other sources. I hope this will help you in happiness .

[Meganium]

I'm so daft i don't have courage to that. I'm weak :( Well i told him before that he's controlling and very possessive but i just got a headache from arguing with him and he even became more possessive

Only option. Some kind of intervention needs to come into the picture here, no exceptions. If you don't feel comfortable doing it yourself, that's fine. But do this with someone else if you must.

[conniption]

This guy sounds like a basket case. I get that he might be insecure, but what he's doing is way crazy. I suggest you give him an ultimatum, either back off or you'll leave. Look at it this way, would you rather be uncomfortable for a bit while you tell him how you feel about his possessiveness, or would you rather be uncomfortable for the rest of the relationship? This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship at all and the sooner you fix it, the better.

[Meganium]

This guy sounds like a basket case. I get that he might be insecure, but what he's doing is way crazy. I suggest you give him an ultimatum, either back off or you'll leave. Look at it this way, would you rather be uncomfortable for a bit while you tell him how you feel about his possessiveness, or would you rather be uncomfortable for the rest of the relationship? This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship at all and the sooner you fix it, the better.

There's your outline.

[Living For Love]

You should really have a serious conversation with him, he's definitely not acting right. It's normal that he gets a bit jealous if he sees other guys talking to you and stuff, but forbidding you to use your own Facebook, or talk to your guy friends, and constantly controlling what you do or not, I think that's too much. He doesn't trust you, as simple as that, and you need to act before it gets too serious. First, talk to him about it, be honest with him, and ask for you girl friend's opinion as well. If he keeps acting that way, then you should break up with him, or at least give you two some time to think about your relationship. If you notice he's getting violent and mad at you in case you break up with him, don't hesitate to ask for help. Here we have a helpline for teenage victims of violence during relationships, I don't know if you have something of that kind in England.

[kylem]

you def need to talk to him about is issues. that's like almost on the verge of stalking which is a bit creepy. or he is super jealous which can create real issues to. tell him you need your space and that he doesn't need to hang with you 24-7. if you really like him, tell him it won't be an issue if he isn't with you all of the time and that he doesn't need to worry if it is something about him being insecure. tell him doing what he is doing now is only going to make things worse for you and him if he doesn't chill. if he doesn't understand that then you and him need to split up. you'll have no problem finding someone else because you're way cute!

[Waleedbt]

You dont sound so good, honestly, take time off but lets be honest, he'll probably go crazy.
Ive met guys like that, theyre weird, onetime someone called me to back off his girlfriend...Lol.
He sounds creepy tbh, i understood your last sentence, which i noticed maybe thats whats holding you off?
Im not here to tell you what to do , its your life, but your the one who should control it!

I hope everything goes to the better with you :)

[newkler]

Ok thanks guys for your advices! :yes:

[Austins]

my boyfriend is overly possessive. we see each other in school because we go to the same class. he always sit next to me. because of this i can't talk with my other classmates anymore! after school he insists to drive me home too and if i refuse he gets extremely sad so i am forced to be with him all day. not just that, when he gets home he automatically text me and he expects me to reply back right away. if i don't reply he starts making assumptions that i text with other guys. he is always jealous too, at first he didn't want me to talk with flirty guys at school. next he forbid me to talk with my own guy friends and later on he gets jealous in his own guy friends! he takes my phone too and he gets upset when guys stare at me as if i control those guys' eyes. he also deactivated my facebook so no guys will contact me. he is mad. i;m not sure if it's normal. or should i say, he's normal. i am not happy with him anymore. he was never my 'friend'. i can't talk with him about my problems, achievements or anything else because he just wants to talk about sweet sweet love! we never get along because he's kind of a spoiled brat and so am I but when it comes to us i just always make him win. he thinks he's so great and i'm just a small ant and he'll watch me squirm. i want to break up with him but i'm scared he might hurt my physically

Aye well, what about your friends that are boys? Are any of them actually strong enough to help you break up? If not be ready for one very unpleasant experience. I had to deal with my cousins boyfriend like that once, he was super possessive and she was too scared to break up with him until I started giving her a ride to school and scared him off. Breaking up is the best option, but make sure to have some nice strong security with ya

[outweighfeelings]

*EDITED: (I am a lil bit drowsy when i wrote the first)

You should dump him now because he's a nutter. Tell him to bugger off, don't be afraid. He might just act like an arsehole that but there's a possibility that he's weak. You said he doesn't allow you to talk to your 'guy friends'. If you cannot ask rescue from your friends, tell your father about it or your other family members

[CRed]

He's not possessive but he's controlling. And you should probably talk to him about that before it gets any deeper. Those emotions he's having are fake, they're just a way for him to keep you in his eye sight. If your scared he might physically harm you if break up with him then do it via text message or over the phone. And if he comes at you bust his balls a couple times and deliver some punches.

[LifeOfLove]

As others have said, he needs to be confronted about it. This is the kind of behavior that becomes permanent over a period of time. He could get violent and never let you go, at risk of physical harm to you. It makes a difference in your life as well leaving you more at risk of having another guy do the same things. It's not going to be easy, but you're going to have to do something.

Also, I fully believe every girl over the age of 12 should carry mace, especially in situations like this. When he's bigger and more powerful, mace can give you the upper edge if things turn into a physical altercation.

[ookillem]

I've seen relationships like this at my school... you need to confront him about it and if he can't handle it then maybe he isn't the right guy and there are some deeper issues he needs to work on... but also from his point of view (even though he is being really over protective and smothering you) he is just trying to keep you to himself so you don't get "stolen" away by another guy

[Melodic]

This is total signs of a relationship that isn't gonna be going into sunshine and rainbows. This is actually signs of an controlling relationship and I'd really suggest to get out of it, especially if you're unhappy. You are only a teenager once and you need to have your experiences and freedom and control it yourself, not let your boyfriend control it to the point he's all you have.

[newkler]

thanks guys for helping me. i've talked with him about this already