they just dont understand

[thatgothgirluknow]

so i called my mom (she lives in florida) and somehow we got on the subject of my sister who cuts and i said i thought how my grandma acts like shes crazy upsets me thinking shed understand but instead she said that my sister was just trying to get atention wich realy upset me because i cut to and dont believe it but she doesnt know that then my ant was making jokes about my freind who has depression and self harms and made me promise not to ever get that way and said that she didnt want me hanging out with people with things like depression self harm and other mental disorders because she was afraid i would end up like them but i already self harm and think i have had depression and even sometimes think im getting my depression back but worse witch scares me and i am afraid that shell think im crazy and blame it on my freinds but ive had it before any of them and so i can never talk to anyone because im afraid that my family will think that im crazy because my family is so judge mental
i told my mom that i dont like to talk to my grandma because of this and she said that it was my fault i hate when my aunt makes fun of my freinds because i feel like shes insulting me but i dont know what to say because i cant tell her that does anyone have any advice

[SheriK]

hey,
im really sorry to hear you're having a hard time. i recently told my mum about my self-harm and it went better than expected. however later on she did admit that at the time she thought i was absolutely nuts. im not trying to freak you out. you just have to accept that you cant control how people react to things. your mom is going to feel whatever she feels. my best advice would be to build up a really good support group before you do anything else in regards to your mum. having friends you can go cry to if it doesnt turn out well is really helpful. but also keep in mind that she is your mum and probably thinks she is protecting you when she says those things. good luck whatever you end up doing :)

[Katiya]

I've been in this situation before. A friends parents were trashing cutters and my friend didn't know I was nor the parents. The friend didn't say anything except agree with me when j stood up for sh'ers. It was really awkward and hurtful because I am one too.

Just stick up for it. Explain that people don't do it for attention. And actually if they don't believe its not for attention then you could tell that you are one and when have you Ever used it for attention from anyone? And to stop being so unfeeling.

BTW you can not catch a mental disorder. Like duh. O.o some people are just stupid I guess.

[ksdnfkfr]

Most every self harmer or someone with depression and stuff has to deal with this.
I think those who do not understand act the way they do cause it makes them
uncomfortable. It is just typical dark ages type reactions and it's sad - because
it really screws over ppl who are suffering and in need of support.
I guess I was "lucky" in that I was born with pronounced neurological
and behavior disorders so my parents, aunt, uncle and grandparents became a lot
more knowledgeable and understanding from the beginning about psychological things.
Having some kind of mental disorder is no different than someone having diabetes.
But ppl still have to act like jerks and or get all weirded out over a mental disorder or disability.
They are acting out of ignorance and primitive fears - and just plain cruelty in many cases.

[thatgothgirluknow]

i think ill try to explain it to them my best i think i have a couple people at my church that might be willing to help me explain like counselars and that but first i have to get up the nerve to tell them i have isusses witch has been getting harder since people keep messing with my freinds just recently someone told one of my freinds to go kill herself because she was anorexic and a cutter so im kinda afraid to tell anyone with all the drama as of late but maybe latter