Please tell me the truth do guys just date girls just for sex?

[chieko]

EDIT: I've already seen enough opinions about this so I don't really need answer in this question anymore. problem solved.thanks~

[Plasma]

That is total crap. Don't believe what they tell you. Not all guys are like that, although I will admit that a good chunk of them are, especially in school. You just need to find the nicer guys and not go after the jerks

[outweighfeelings]

I am sorry to say this but guys (my friends) date girls to have sex wit 'em but not all guys are just the same. i also think you had a wrong mindset. TBH you're very pretty and you looks like Ariana grande. you're not ugly at all. some guys are shy to approach a girl maybe that's why they just stare. If you have popular friends in school then it means you're popular too. don't lose hope. you'll find a boyfriend goodluck

[chieko]

I am sorry to say this but guys (my friends) date girls to have sex wit 'em but not all guys are just the same. i also think you had a wrong mindset. TBH you're very pretty and you looks like Ariana grande. you're not ugly at all. some guys are shy to approach a girl maybe that's why they just stare. If you have popular friends in school then it means you're popular too. don't lose hope. you'll find a boyfriend goodluck

kaaay so it all means that you're the same with your friends? they go for sex and you are too. great. maybe i am kind of popular for some other things but i'm sure not because i'm beautiful or anythin because i dun date anyone

[Nihilus]

Only the assholes =D. Everyone is looking for different things in relationships; some people want sex and others may want a deeper relationship than that.

[outweighfeelings]

kaaay so it all means that you're the same with your friends? they go for sex and you are too. great. maybe i am kind of popular for some other things but i'm sure not because i'm beautiful or anythin because i dun date anyone

Nooooo lol. I'm different from my friends and its okay that my girlfriend doesn't like to do it either xD

[Sandra Main]

No your not ugly. Your a beautiful girl.You see i was in the same bout your in not so long ago. I too had a bf we date for 6 months. I gave him what he wanted such as hj and bj fell short of going the whole way ( Intercourse ). He was pushy and persistent. but never gave in to his wishes and he also broke up with me.
For right now most of my time is being spent with my little brothers and helping mom with them. For i know that mister right will come and we will meet I'm sure. But i have a long time to do what i want untill i meet him.. And your mister right will come also and he will treat you with respect. You must have faith and believe that there is a mister right for you. Cause you are not ugly. Looks are not important .It is so many things I'm not going to list here that makes a relationship not looks.

[chieko]

No your not ugly. Your a beautiful girl.You see i was in the same bout your in not so long ago. I too had a bf we date for 6 months. I gave him what he wanted such as hj and bj fell short of going the whole way ( Intercourse ). He was pushy and persistent. but never gave in to his wishes and he also broke up with me.
For right now most of my time is being spent with my little brothers and helping mom with them. For i know that mister right will come and we will meet I'm sure. But i have a long time to do what i want untill i meet him.. And your mister right will come also and he will treat you with respect. You must have faith and believe that there is a mister right for you. Cause you are not ugly. Looks are not important .It is so many things I'm not going to list here that makes a relationship not looks.


Aw.. I know you're just saying i'm not ugly to not hurt my feelings but thank you and I'm really sorry about what happened to you and your ex. you're a kind sweet girl. and you're mister is worth the wait. I guess you're still young so it's good that you're not worrying much. You're spending your time in a good way so that's nice. I hope the best for you, and thank you!

[Sandra Main]

Aw.. I know you're just saying i'm not ugly to not hurt my feelings but thank you and I'm really sorry about what happened to you and your ex. I guess you're still young so it's good that you're not worrying much. You're spending your time in a good way so that's nice. I hope the best for you, and thank you!

I'm not saying that to not hurt you I said it because its the truth. Look don't mean a damn in a relationship and so much more than looks
If you don't belive in your self no one else will either. Personality. and so many other thing outweighs looks. You got to believe that your beautiful. and others will see it also in you and the rest will follow. I'm not saying it to be kind i said it cause its the truth. Just be yourself you young as well.

[newkler]

maybe you should talk to the guys who call you Ariana ? x

I'm not saying that to not hurt you I said it because its the truth. Look don't mean a damn in a relationship and so much more than looks
If you don't belive in your self no one else will either. Personality. and so many other thing outweighs looks. You got to believe that your beautiful. and others will see it also in you and the rest will follow. I'm not saying it to be kind i said it cause its the truth. Just be yourself you young as well.

she's right you pretty. you just don't realize it. xx

[Meganium]

hello, first, I was asking about this because I am so confused and sad with my life. its because i hadn't figured it out for a long time why I don't have a boyfriend. Then finally I come to the conclusion that I'm too ugly to be a girlfriend and boring too. :( :(

Okay, it's not really that bad, I had a boyfriend before. But he actually acts like a douchebag just like everyone else. Plus, he was obsessive and possessive. we've been together for one month. and when we broke up he told me that i was boring because I didn't have sex with him. I'm thankful for it that we didn't do anything intimate except from holding hands. I would regret it if we did something far.

Anyway, for some time i thought i need some mellow positive emotions too, so that's why I felt sad that i don't have someone with me. Maybe I'm just too ugly at everyone's site. When I'm outside stranger guys stare or smile at me. No "hello" or anythin. I can't read guys mind so maybe its what they do because i'm ugly. But ok, not all the guys are like that. Guys in school come by and greet me and they're some who calls me 'Ariana Grande'. I don't know if i resemble her. So i think they're just guys who like to annoy everyday of my life. I think am so boring to be a girlfriend too. I always get invited to parties but I don't go to because I don't like noisy places. :mad:

My friends are those girls who are popular in school. They're not as decent as me but i don't judge them and they don't judge me too. They're the kind of girls who likes to have sex all the time. It's been a part of their daily conversation. It's all disturbing for me though. They said i would never had a boyfriend because guys these days only date girls who'll have sex with them. But i acted like i'm cool with it and told them I don't need a boyfriend. I felt sorry for myself because I decided to still not do it. I dont want to do something i'll regret and I'm not ready for it. i think it will kill me. I don't know if my friends are just joking me. But i would like to know if it's true. So please tell me the truth because i'm bothered? :confused: :confused:

To start, let me try to pluck that "I'm ugly" sentiment out of your head by saying that if your avatar is at all close to what you look like, then you are genuinely beautiful. Even if it weren't, we're all beautiful to some degree in other ways, both physical and otherwise.

Secondly, unfortunately there are those asshats out there who will date women just for sex. It's corrupt, selfish, and sick, and a complete waste of time if they're going for women who have some goddamn sense as well as a vagina.

The fact that you care about yourself to not sell out to these dicks means that you know what you know what you do and don't seek in a guy, and that's all that matters. If guys can't meet your modest criteria, which I imagine is circled around "don't be a dick", then leave and move on.

Don't let your friends or anyone else change your criteria. That makes it seem like you're the one who needs to change what you are and what you want, but it doesn't. You need to maintain that control and disallow anyone to skip past the system. End of story.

I hope you have better luck with these guys, and that they don't try to take advantage of you and your desire for love. You don't deserve it, and you don't deserve to feel bad because other people are dicks.

TL;DR- Some guys are thirsty dicks, so just flip through the pages until you find one who isn't. Don't change yourself. It's them.

[jessicaann]

First you are very pretty and nice.
There are a lot of guys who play to girls to get sex. Not all but a lot. That's one reason I'm far from ready for a serious bf. I'll date. I will fool around. But I look out for my heart and needs.
Love yourself. Be proud if yourself. Cultivate good friendships. When its time for one to become more you will know. Meantime be patient and put yourself first.
Message me if you ever want to talk

[chieko]

That is total crap. Don't believe what they tell you. Not all guys are like that, although I will admit that a good chunk of them are, especially in school. You just need to find the nicer guys and not go after the jerks

Yeah, practically all of them are ._. But yeah maybe there are still marginally nicer guys~

Only the assholes =D. Everyone is looking for different things in relationships; some people want sex and others may want a deeper relationship than that.

thanks for the answer. haha~

[josh900]

no a relationship based on sex is boring

[chieko]

To start, let me try to pluck that "I'm ugly" sentiment out of your head by saying that if your avatar is at all close to what you look like, then you are genuinely beautiful. Even if it weren't, we're all beautiful to some degree in other ways, both physical and otherwise.

Secondly, unfortunately there are those asshats out there who will date women just for sex. It's corrupt, selfish, and sick, and a complete waste of time if they're going for women who have some goddamn sense as well as a vagina.
The fact that you care about yourself to not sell out to these dicks means that you know what you know what you do and don't seek in a guy, and that's all that matters. If guys can't meet your modest criteria, which I imagine is circled around "don't be a dick", then leave and move on.

Don't let your friends or anyone else change your criteria. That makes it seem like you're the one who needs to change what you are and what you want, but it doesn't. You need to maintain that control and disallow anyone to skip past the system. End of story.

I hope you have better luck with these guys, and that they don't try to take advantage of you and your desire for love. You don't deserve it, and you don't deserve to feel bad because other people are dicks.

TL;DR- Some guys are thirsty dicks, so just flip through the pages until you find one who isn't. Don't change yourself. It's them.

the girl in my avatar is me. so thanks for your opinion. i really appreciate it when somebody says i'm beautiful, but most of the time i don't know if they are just saying because its what they really think or they just say it because they say it to everyone. i don't know, anyway yes. i've finally decided that i won't change myself. sometimes i think there's nothing wrong with me. but the society i live in makes me different :/ the culture is so perverted where right is wrong and good is bad. thanks for your advice. the second to the last of the paragraphs you wrote helps a lot, since i often feel i don't deserve to be happy or anything. well. thanks again :)

First you are very pretty and nice.
There are a lot of guys who play to girls to get sex. Not all but a lot. That's one reason I'm far from ready for a serious bf. I'll date. I will fool around. But I look out for my heart and needs.
Love yourself. Be proud if yourself. Cultivate good friendships. When its time for one to become more you will know. Meantime be patient and put yourself first.
Message me if you ever want to talk


Thanks~ You are really kind to say that :) but i think you're a lot better because you atleast enjoy. you date and fool around. Thanks and I'll message you :)

maybe you should talk to the guys who call you Ariana ? x

lolx they annoy the living sh*t out of me. those are flirty kind of guys. haha xD

she's right you pretty. you just don't realize it. xx

you're beautiful. and you look like my friend haha

I'm not saying that to not hurt you I said it because its the truth. Look don't mean a damn in a relationship and so much more than looks
If you don't belive in your self no one else will either. Personality. and so many other thing outweighs looks. You got to believe that your beautiful. and others will see it also in you and the rest will follow. I'm not saying it to be kind i said it cause its the truth. Just be yourself you young as well.

sometimes believing on self is the most hardest thing to do. but i'm trying :( thank you sandra~

Please don't post multiple times consecutively, use the edit button if you have more to add or the multi-quote button if quoting multiple people. ~Siobhan.

[Plasma]

Yeah, practically all of them are ._. But yeah maybe there are still marginally nicer guys~



thanks for the answer. haha~

There are, and you'll find one someday. You could always try talking to the quiet guys. Chances are, they're nicer

[newkler]

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ why are japanese and koreans are fond of using that? this sounds random. sorry. xx

[chieko]

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ why are japanese and koreans are fond of using that? this sounds random. sorry. xx

i'm only half japanese. but we usually write this at the end of every sentence in kanji, (ts like a punctuation) and we get so used to it that even in romanji we still write it~ haha and koreans 'laugh' in text is like "kekekeke" or "kkkkkk" its weird right? haha :D

There are, and you'll find one someday. You could always try talking to the quiet guys. Chances are, they're nicer

yes i think they are. i haven't talked with some quiet person before. and thanks i hope I'll find someday :)

[newkler]

i'm only half japanese. but we usually write this at the end of every sentence in kanji, (ts like a punctuation) and we get so used to it that even in romanji we still write it~ haha and koreans 'laugh' in text is like "kekekeke" or "kkkkkk" its weird right? haha :D

i noticed that yes! at first i thought they were just saying "ok" all the time. lawl but actually i thought you're hispanic. then i saw this akatsuki lanyard or something you wear in your profile pic? it seems cool. you're a cosplayer? xx

[scott757]

You are a very attractive girl from what I can see in your avatar here. And I mean that, I don't lie to people on stuff like that. Don't fall into the "I'm ugly" thought chain as its just not worth it, especially for someone who's not, its best to stop thinking like that and think "wow, someone will appreciate me one day".

As to the guys being dicks... well, yeah, a lot are dicks, thinking with their dick, but then there is a lot who are not. Out of my friends only one of them is like that, and he IS a dick. Yes ok, all guys will comment on a girl if she looks sexy or whatever, but there is quite a good few who don't want a relationship for sex too, as I said, only one of my friends (out of about 7 or 8 of us guys) is clearly looking for sex.

[chieko]

You are a very attractive girl from what I can see in your avatar here. And I mean that, I don't lie to people on stuff like that. Don't fall into the "I'm ugly" thought chain as its just not worth it, especially for someone who's not, its best to stop thinking like that and think "wow, someone will appreciate me one day".

As to the guys being dicks... well, yeah, a lot are dicks, thinking with their dick, but then there is a lot who are not. Out of my friends only one of them is like that, and he IS a dick. Yes ok, all guys will comment on a girl if she looks sexy or whatever, but there is quite a good few who don't want a relationship for sex too, as I said, only one of my friends (out of about 7 or 8 of us guys) is clearly looking for sex.

It makes me glad if people are sincere when they give me a compliment, so thank you so much :) And, your girls in your place are very lucky then. I don't know why majority of people here are all assholish.

[chieko]

i noticed that yes! at first i thought they were just saying "ok" all the time. lawl but actually i thought you're hispanic. then i saw this akatsuki lanyard or something you wear in your profile pic? it seems cool. you're a cosplayer? xx

I'm not anymore, but I was. I regularly attended cosplay conventions. The last i went to was last January haha xD Too long ago though, my friends i had in Japan do Akatsuki cosplay. It was awesoooome :) I love naruto shippuden and Kuroko No Basuke~ and you think i'm hispanic? haha i am. I'm mixed race, which makes me uglier :/ 1/2filipino-spanish-kiwi and 1/2 japanese. btw i'm not good in maths. are you also a cosplayer?

[scott757]

And, your girls in your place are very lucky then. I don't know why majority of people here are all assholish.

It's a shame for you girls I suppose as it must be a lot of pressure to do what they want if you're wanting a relationship. I've always thought you're better off getting a proper relationship than sex anyway - it makes it much more worthwhile and you do actually want to commit time and effort to it - but that's just me.

[newkler]

I'm not anymore, but I was. I regularly attended cosplay conventions. The last i went to was last January haha xD Too long ago though, my friends i had in Japan do Akatsuki cosplay. It was awesoooome :) I love naruto shippuden and Kuroko No Basuke~ and you think i'm hispanic? haha i am. I'm mixed race, which makes me uglier :/ 1/2filipino-spanish-kiwi and 1/2 japanese. btw i'm not good in maths. are you also a cosplayer?

Owa! Yes I am. my facebook account before is for cosplay purposes, but it was deactivated atm :( i dun like action animes though lawl.. and mixed breeds are cute :D

[newkler]

There are, and you'll find one someday. You could always try talking to the quiet guys. Chances are, they're nicer

but quiet guys are nerds.. lawl

[kylem]

This is going to sound bad coming from a guy but yeah, most guys are like that, they just want to get with a girl to have sex. But not all guys are like that, some actually want to be with a girl because they really like them and have a lot of stuff in common together. If he only wants to be with you because he wants sex, then lose him and find someone else that likes you and wants to be with you and do things together then just sex. I personally know guys that that's all they wanted and after they had sex, they dumped the girl, which really sucked because they really hurt the girl, and they are actually awesome girls. I would definitely not let that happen to you because you seem really nice and your totally cute, so you won't have an issue finding someone else that respects you and wants more from you then just sex.

[Waleedbt]

Youre mindset is way better than your friends, i like it, theres not much like that these days.
Youre a beautiful girl, you need to believe in yourself, some girls are easy to get, thats why you might think in the opposite direction.

I hate how a lot of guys ruin chances for others, most are a-holes true, but some are also really nice. Just don't worry, the right person will come.

[Waleedbt]

but quiet guys are nerds.. lawl

Have to say, thats pretty true xD

[outweighfeelings]

maybe i am kind of popular for some other things but i'm sure not because i'm beautiful or anythin because i dun date anyone

I'm not anymore, but I was. I regularly attended cosplay conventions.

This just explains you're popular in school for cosplaying so how come you feel you're ugly? I think you even often hear compliments from people! Probably you just don't listen because you're intolerant with others opinions. You've got a very low self-esteem. I wonder why?

[Plasma]

but quiet guys are nerds.. lawl

Go ahead and date an asshole that only wants you for sex then. Not my problem. Don't get mad when it doesn't work out though

[newkler]

Go ahead and date an asshole that only wants you for sex then. Not my problem. Don't get mad when it doesn't work out though

No need. I've got a boyfriend, I's just saying that quiet guys are nerds, why do you seem mad about that?

[Plasma]

No need. I've got a boyfriend, I's just saying that quiet guys are nerds, why do you seem mad about that?

Because you implied that that was a bad thing, and I'm sick of people judging others for something as stupid as that.

[newkler]

Because you implied that that was a bad thing, and I'm sick of people judging others for something as stupid as that.

I'm sorry, I didn't really mean to judge anyone :(

[Waleedbt]

John you're over reacting, that is the truth in most cases.

[Plasma]

John you're over reacting, that is the truth in most cases.

Not necessarily. And the only reason I was annoyed at it was the fact that she attached the negative connotation with being nerdy

[scott757]

but quiet guys are nerds.. lawl

Not true at all, some are just quiet. Just because you're quiet doesn't make you a "nerd".

you seem really nice and your totally cute, so you won't have an issue finding someone else that respects you and wants more from you then just sex.

Youre mindset is way better than your friends, i like it, theres not much like that these days.
Youre a beautiful girl, you need to believe in yourself, some girls are easy to get, thats why you might think in the opposite direction.

I hate how a lot of guys ruin chances for others, most are a-holes true, but some are also really nice. Just don't worry, the right person will come.

Totally agree with these two guys

[CRed]

Not all guys will get with you for the sex. But I see where that comes from, because if a guy or guys are coming trying to get with you is because their attracted to you.

[chieko]

It's a shame for you girls I suppose as it must be a lot of pressure to do what they want if you're wanting a relationship. I've always thought you're better off getting a proper relationship than sex anyway - it makes it much more worthwhile and you do actually want to commit time and effort to it - but that's just me.

thankfully my ex didnt pressure me to do something i dont like. its just when we broke up that he told me things about me being boring, thats when i first started to wonder if majority of the guys just look for sex in a relationship.. and my girl friends like having sex so they dont really felt being pressured. its just like people in my age like the same things and i'm not because the things they like is utterly disgusting in my perspective. its like being out of trend, maybe thats one of the reasons why i feel ugly.


Owa! Yes I am. my facebook account before is for cosplay purposes, but it was deactivated atm :( i dun like action animes though lawl.. and mixed breeds are cute :D

thats really great, tell me if you recover your acc again. 'mixed breed' actually is a plain insult to others. its just like saying you're no one and you're nothing and no origin. haha. no offense, i just read that from a book.. and mixed breed is for animals, cute is for animals also. haha xD

Not all guys will get with you for the sex. But I see where that comes from, because if a guy or guys are coming trying to get with you is because their attracted to you.

hopefully their will be still guys on earth who'll just come not for only sex. well thanks for answering :)

[chieko]

i'm really glad for the positive feedbacks and thanks to all who answers :)

This is going to sound bad coming from a guy but yeah, most guys are like that, they just want to get with a girl to have sex. But not all guys are like that, some actually want to be with a girl because they really like them and have a lot of stuff in common together. If he only wants to be with you because he wants sex, then lose him and find someone else that likes you and wants to be with you and do things together then just sex. I personally know guys that that's all they wanted and after they had sex, they dumped the girl, which really sucked because they really hurt the girl, and they are actually awesome girls. I would definitely not let that happen to you because you seem really nice and your totally cute, so you won't have an issue finding someone else that respects you and wants more from you then just sex.

ah yes, thats what i just knew, girls get hurt because they've been dumped after the guys got what they want. they're using girls, its really terrible and i dont want that to happen to me. anyways, thank you so much. haha. you also seem really nice. and you're very positive ^_^ thank you~


Youre mindset is way better than your friends, i like it, theres not much like that these days.
Youre a beautiful girl, you need to believe in yourself, some girls are easy to get, thats why you might think in the opposite direction.

I hate how a lot of guys ruin chances for others, most are a-holes true, but some are also really nice. Just don't worry, the right person will come.

i feel great to know that there still people left that will like my mindset. theres no also people much like that these days. some girls are easy to get, yes. it feels bad when i tell my friends to take things even a little bit slower. i was giving them advice because i care for them but they were all like 'you're just jealous so you dont want us to be happy'. but after they got dumped because guys already got what they 'need', my friends come to me and cry :/ its actually hard to believe in myself but thank you. thanks to you~

This just explains you're popular in school for cosplaying so how come you feel you're ugly? I think you even often hear compliments from people! Probably you just don't listen because you're intolerant with others opinions. You've got a very low self-esteem. I wonder why?

not all cosplayers are good looking. there are those people who cosplay ugly monsters haha. im not intolerant of others opinions. ive got a slow self esteem because of many reasons

[PinkFloyd]

Trust me, you are not ugly. I can only see like half your face, but that's all I need. Believe me you are pretty!

And not all guys are tools like that. Some are bad and only want sex, but a lot of us are really great.

[chieko]

Trust me, you are not ugly. I can only see like half your face, but that's all I need. Believe me you are pretty!

And not all guys are tools like that. Some are bad and only want sex, but a lot of us are really great.

Oh thank you, really :) unfortunately the society i live in is kind of opposite from your opinion. it's some of you are really great but a lot are bad and only want sex :/

[PinkFloyd]

Oh thank you, really :) unfortunately the society i live in is kind of opposite from your opinion. it's some of you are really great but a lot are bad and only want sex :/

It's too bad, really. I know guys like that.. I don't get why they're like that.

[kylem]

i'm really glad for the positive feedbacks and thanks to all who answers :)



ah yes, thats what i just knew, girls get hurt because they've been dumped after the guys got what they want. they're using girls, its really terrible and i dont want that to happen to me. anyways, thank you so much. haha. you also seem really nice. and you're very positive ^_^ thank you~




i feel great to know that there still people left that will like my mindset. theres no also people much like that these days. some girls are easy to get, yes. it feels bad when i tell my friends to take things even a little bit slower. i was giving them advice because i care for them but they were all like 'you're just jealous so you dont want us to be happy'. but after they got dumped because guys already got what they 'need', my friends come to me and cry :/ its actually hard to believe in myself but thank you. thanks to you~



not all cosplayers are good looking. there are those people who cosplay ugly monsters haha. im not intolerant of others opinions. ive got a slow self esteem because of many reasons

no problem least it all made sense I hope. but yeah you'll have no problem finding someone that really likes you for who you are and not just because they want to get with you. Least you'll have your self respect and not feel used and abused just because a guy wants to hang with you only to find out he was leading you on. You deserve way better and hard to believe, there are actually awesome guys out there that aren't looking just to get into some girls pants.

[Matt_is_Awesome]

rachel i can honestly say i dont date girls to have sex..i date girls to have fun..some of my friends on theother hand do date girls for sex. i dont approve but they do

[scott757]

thankfully my ex didnt pressure me to do something i dont like. its just when we broke up that he told me things about me being boring, thats when i first started to wonder if majority of the guys just look for sex in a relationship.. and my girl friends like having sex so they dont really felt being pressured.

Good, I'm glad he never tried to pressure you. Once they start to do that you know it's time to give him his marching orders, if he was really interested he wouldn't pressure you at all - only the guys who want to be in the relationship because they actually want to be with you as a person will be happy to wait as long as you want/need. Don't let your ex put you down, it sounds to me that he was only interested in the one thing as you said so because you weren't up for it, then he said you were boring because of that - total douche move.

its just like people in my age like the same things and i'm not because the things they like is utterly disgusting in my perspective. its like being out of trend, maybe thats one of the reasons why i feel ugly.

Unfortunately you just summed up society nowadays - if you're into all the dodgy/uncomfortable stuff then you're "popular" and if you're not you're a loser etc. As a guy I know once said "To be popular you have to drink and do drugs" and the same seems to apply to you, except it's sex. But your attitude is very respectable and it's good to see there is some people willing to do it when/if they want, and not when others/society say you should. And just because you don't want to do this stuff does not make you ugly, because you're not that :)

p.s Sorry it seems I turned this into a rant a wee bit :P

[JakeD14]

I want to date a girl to get to know them and be close with them. Also to have someone who you can share anything with. It wouldnt just be for sex.

[chieko]

Good, I'm glad he never tried to pressure you. Once they start to do that you know it's time to give him his marching orders, if he was really interested he wouldn't pressure you at all - only the guys who want to be in the relationship because they actually want to be with you as a person will be happy to wait as long as you want/need. Don't let your ex put you down, it sounds to me that he was only interested in the one thing as you said so because you weren't up for it, then he said you were boring because of that - total douche move.

Unfortunately you just summed up society nowadays - if you're into all the dodgy/uncomfortable stuff then you're "popular" and if you're not you're a loser etc. As a guy I know once said "To be popular you have to drink and do drugs" and the same seems to apply to you, except it's sex. But your attitude is very respectable and it's good to see there is some people willing to do it when/if they want, and not when others/society say you should. And just because you don't want to do this stuff does not make you ugly, because you're not that :)

p.s Sorry it seems I turned this into a rant a wee bit :P

no don't be sorry, haha. I totally agree with your opinions and what you were saying just made me happy at the same time too. THANK YOU so much~

[IcaJess]

First of all, your beautiful. Second of all guys dont just date for sex, it could be just those that you've had experience with, If you find A nice guy that actually has feelings for you it wont be like that at all. :)

[ewht]

Well, at least for me, I don't.

[Steven1]

Sadly, a large amount of guys are like this, particularly in higher school years

[Synyster Shadows]

Both the main point and you being ugly are not true. You're pretty. Not all guys want girls just for sex. I love and want to be with my gf for who she is, not just to have sex. It'd be hard to do that, anyways, seeing as we live 3,000 miles apart.

[scott757]

no don't be sorry, haha. I totally agree with your opinions and what you were saying just made me happy at the same time too. THANK YOU so much~

Haha you're very welcome :P

[Atlas_Kin]

No, some people, like me, date a girl or guy because I genuinely like them and for the relationship.

[Eurasian guy]

I was asking about this because I've been thinking about this. it's been frustrating me a bit. I hadn't figured it out for a long time why I don't have a boyfriend. Then finally I come to the conclusion that I'm too ugly to be a girlfriend and boring too. :( :( No one tells me but i just feel like I am.

Okay, it's not really that bad, I had a boyfriend before. He's one of the known guys in school. But he actually acts like a douchebag just like everyone else ._. We've been together for only one month. When we broke up he told me that i was boring because I didn't have sex with him. (But that's NOT the reason why we broke up, that's just another story)

My friends are those girls who are also popular in school. They're not as decent as me but i don't judge them and they don't judge me too. They're the kind of girls who likes to have sex all the time. It's been a part of their daily conversation. It's all disturbing for me though. They said i would never had a boyfriend again because guys these days only date girls who'll have sex with them. So I just told them i'm too busy to have a boyfriend. Bit, I felt sorry for myself because I decided to still not do it. I dont want to do something I'll regret and I'm not ready for it. I don't know if my friends are just joking me. But i would like to know if it's true. So please tell me the truth because i'm bothered? :confused: :confused:


I'll be straight with you. Some guys just go out with girls for sex and some don;t. The ones that do are complete ass holes. And you shouldn't have sex with a guy if he only wants you for that. And you are not ugly at all! Have some more self confidence girl ;) i know you'll find a boyfriend and he'll treat you right!

[AlexOnToast]

TBH, some guys are just out for a shap, but there are plenty of guys - like me - who would only go out with a girl for HER not for sex... pity im gay tho XD

[chieko]

TBH, some guys are just out for a shap, but there are plenty of guys - like me - who would only go out with a girl for HER not for sex... pity im gay tho XD

Hahahaha xD I'm not gay but i think its awesome to be a gay, isn't it :D The best of my friends are gays haha

I'll be straight with you. Some guys just go out with girls for sex and some don;t. The ones that do are complete ass holes. And you shouldn't have sex with a guy if he only wants you for that. And you are not ugly at all! Have some more self confidence girl ;) i know you'll find a boyfriend and he'll treat you right!

Thank you, Oliver :)

[AlexOnToast]

Hahahaha xD I'm not gay but i think its awesome to be a gay, isn't it :D The best of my friends are gays haha



Thank you, Oliver :)
Hehehe thanks, we are pretty awesome XD

[EmmaJane]

It depends really. Where I live pretty much guys use girls just for sex. If I was going to date a girl/boy (as I'm bisexual) I'd go for their personality. I'd date them for them and not just to use them. It's what's on the inside that counts.

[Eurasian guy]

Thank you, Oliver :)

No worries at all Rachel. Hehe go get em' tiger ;)

[chieko]

First of all, your beautiful. Second of all guys dont just date for sex, it could be just those that you've had experience with, If you find A nice guy that actually has feelings for you it wont be like that at all. :)

You're also beautiful. Thank you :)

[DarkOmega]

maybe some will have a relationship just for sex .but not all are like that.I'm not .I actually care of what the other person wants in a relationship and don't just pressure them in doing something they don't want .and stop saying all guys cuz u haven't meet every guy in the world .maybe u've just been with a group of guys that only had that one goal .but not all are the same

[inamorata]

ur just surrounded by those kind of guys, doing wrong things that make them popular. i think guys in romance movies can exist on Earth so don't worry. you'll get through this, you're gorgeous and I'm sure many guys like you. maybe just the wrong kind of guys atm and at your place

[Jrxy98]

Mostly popular guys only want sex but there are a few guys who aren't popular that want the same thing

[Anne777]

I agree alot of guys thinks with there dicks. It's hard to know if they truly like you or are after one thing. There is this one guy i've been talking too for about a month and he's really cute. He said he likes me but not sure if he's just saying that because when i talk to him sometimes he seems to not listen and is constantly texting on his phone. But when he is, he is really sweet and all that.

My friend told me about this fun app called Friendship Quiz that just came out. I'm going to see if he knows anything about me and if he has been listening to me when i'm talking. You just create a quiz about yourself, such as what's my fav movie? fav song? when is my brithday? etc and give him multiple choice answers. I'll tell him it's just for fun but i'll be finding out if he really has been listening to me.

[Tendencies]

I can't wait to have a girlfriend just so we can watch movies and hang out. Go to concerts together and just have fun. If that special time comes to do that and we are both ready, then sure why not? But honestly, just the thought of having someone to share fun experiences would make me perfectly happy. Although there are some guys out there that are all about having sex and then that's all, there are some other guys out there that want to have relationships for other reasons and it always seems that they get the short end of the stick.

[chieko]

I agree alot of guys thinks with there dicks. It's hard to know if they truly like you or are after one thing. There is this one guy i've been talking too for about a month and he's really cute. He said he likes me but not sure if he's just saying that because when i talk to him sometimes he seems to not listen and is constantly texting on his phone. But when he is, he is really sweet and all that.

My friend told me about this fun app called Friendship Quiz that just came out. I'm going to see if he knows anything about me and if he has been listening to me when i'm talking. You just create a quiz about yourself, such as what's my fav movie? fav song? when is my brithday? etc and give him multiple choice answers. I'll tell him it's just for fun but i'll be finding out if he really has been listening to me.

I think its not really nice if you're talking and he's just into his phone. but whatever, if you think he's been really listening and let us say he's not the kind of forgetful guy, then he can remember all that. But honestly i can't really remember someone's birthday lol. Anw, Goodluck! ツ

[LuckyEddy]

Some dudes want to fuck. It doesn't make them bad people. Consider this-most guys hate being virgins. There is a high likelyhood that the guy you will end up dating will be a virgin. Many guys want to have sex simply so they don't have to deal with the stigma of being a virgin. They don't wanna deal with people teasing them, or feeling like a loser (doesn't matter if these things are true or not)

[Were]

it is not true,just a few guys do that but most of us are not sex minded

[nik511881]

premarital sex is against my religion so no. But I dont date for love either... I usually just date for the experience and the reputation after the relationship. Occasionally, I would go for kisses and the casual poke but nothing more.

[Harley Quinn]

As the OP has edited the original post to reflect that they don't want any more opinions and that it's solved, I'm going to lock this. OP if you want it re-opened at any point, let me know. :locked2: