why make this into a big deal

[RunnerRunner]

Ok so I havent exersised in like forever, I dont have much stamina or whatever as I used to have 6 months ago, but I went out to ride my bike cause I was forced out of my will to, with my sister who is like a sports freak and litwrally has the capacity to be in an olympic game or somethimg, long story short I came back and my dad just yelled at me for not enduring, he started calling me gay, a girl, a pussy, etc just because I dont have the fitness level as my sister, shes been like this for 15 years, my dad expects me to beat her with me not in shape and her literally a profesional. He really expects way too much from me at other things but he literally was gonna explode when I came back.

[sisu]

I think your father didn't treat you very well (obviously). I often notice that parents want the "weaker" (not trying to be mean) child to be more like their"favorite". I too often find that my dad likes my older sister more and/or wants me to be more like her. On the topic of making small things a big deal, not too long ago my dad forgot to put some of HIS food that HE got and my mom went apeshit and brought hell to earth. I didn't understand why it was such a big deal.

[RunnerRunner]

I think your father didn't treat you very well (obviously). I often notice that parents want the "weaker" (not trying to be mean) child to be more like their"favorite". I too often find that my dad likes my older sister more and/or wants me to be more like her. On the topic of making small things a big deal, not too long ago my dad forgot to put some of HIS food that HE got and my mom went apeshit and brought hell to earth. I didn't understand why it was such a big deal.

I just dont understand why everything turns into a big deal though, and thing is I try to keep rising amd he trys to bring me down, and he keeps saying he wants me going forth and he holds me back

[sisu]

I don't really understand your dad. Maybe he wants you to go forth in the way he wants and not your way. Or maybe he thinks hes giving constructive feedback/criticism.

[RunnerRunner]

Well whatever he is doing he is doing it wrong then, but I dont know whats wrong.

[Living For Love]

The last time I rode a bike my dad told me I looked like a girl, because I was riding it quite slowly. It's stupid, I know, I just told him calmly: "Really? It's ok, I'll never ride it again, you will never feel ashamed of me again."

I don't know if it works for you, but I just try to avoid spending much time with my parents in the same room of the house, and I try not to talk with them a lot, otherwise we just end arguing with each other. What you dad thinks of you, it shouldn't matter. You are the way you are, and though what he did is wrong, you don't have to impress him and prove him he's wrong.

[RunnerRunner]

The last time I rode a bike my dad told me I looked like a girl, because I was riding it quite slowly. It's stupid, I know, I just told him calmly: "Really? It's ok, I'll never ride it again, you will never feel ashamed of me again."

I don't know if it works for you, but I just try to avoid spending much time with my parents in the same room of the house, and I try not to talk with them a lot, otherwise we just end arguing with each other. What you dad thinks of you, it shouldn't matter. You are the way you are, and though what he did is wrong, you don't have to impress him and prove him he's wrong.

Thing is he doesnt accept the way I am, I am a slow person when it comes to mentality. He takes advantage of that, so as with sports he takes advantage of me in that. Its hard to escape him but I still try to.