Am I boring?

[Conqueror of Hearts]

Ok, so here I am at faculty, first year and everything looked great. I met a lot of new people and I even impressed myself, because I am very shy and anti-social person, but here I became more open, talkative and social, but....there is always but after something good. I have a really good friend there, I've met her the very 1st day, but she is sooo talkative and fun, and now I feel like she outshines me all the time.
For example, I have a friend (male) whom I met on faculty aswell, and he was never good with her, but today he told me he saw her earlier today at faculty and he said she was quite interesting and fun though he thought she was arrogant before. And later he sent me a message saying she said he was a cool guy, and then we actually exchanged about 8 messages about her. I didn't bitch about her, I said she is a great person, because in my opinion it's true, but now I feel really annoyed because I feel he thinks I am boring and uninteresting.
And I guess other people think that too, because I spent a lot of time with her when we're on faculty and beside her I obviously look like that.

I just had to share my feeling, this really bugs me and makes me feel very sad and depressed.

[Something Creative]

I could be wrong, but to me this looks like you want to be in the center of his attention. If he thinks your friend is interesting and fun doesn't mean he thinks the opposite of you. You shouldn't feel sad about petty stuff like this. If he's actually talking to you about...whatever, it means he probably enjoys your company and likes talking to you, ergo, you're not boring to him.

[Hyper]

I wouldn't say you want to be the center of attention. I'd rather say that I think all of these feelings come about when we are insecure about ourselves. Not happy with something about ourselves.

Wether we think we look ugly, are boring, not social enough or something else... We should try to figure out what we are insecure about and why. It is a long and hard process because being honest with ourselves is something that doesn't come really easily and it is the reason why psychologists have jobs.

+ do you like this guy or not? I.o are you a bit jealous as well or just insecure about something regarding yourself.

[Conqueror of Hearts]

I have always been insecure about myself...as I said I am very shy and I never had a lot of friends, which changed now. I just don't want people to find me boring after some time....and maybe next to her I will look like that. I am very happy when I'm on faculty and I enjoy being there, this is just some stupid thing that scares me, because I don't want to be left alone, with no friends.

I don't like him, I have more guy friends so it's normal for me to have that kind of friendship with them. Also I don't want to be in center of anyone's attention, I just don't want to be left out, like it was happening in high school.

[Hyper]

Well at least you can admit your feelings. Just acknowledge they are there it's healthy and a part of understanding them and growing stronger.

At worst we start projecting our insecurities outward in the form of jealousy, anger and so on... Also try to be a bit rational. There are a lot of different types of people out there. Outgoing, completely shy with vastly varying interests meaning someone who is boring for you or me might be the most damn interesting person in the world for someone else.

Again this is just my own opinion but i think when we feel insecure about ourselves, about being outgoing social and all that jazz, it all stems from social pressure... The vast majority of media and social culture we take in puts a very small contingent of people and their supposedly great traits such as being ''outgoing'', ''fun'', ''sociable'', ''popular'' and so on in the limelight making us think those are the only desirable traits in a person.

The way I see it in this huge jungle of different personalities everyone can find others who they share common interests with and can form good relationships with. But there is no way in hell you can do any of that if you aren't comfortable and happy with yourself.