Losing a family member

[RainbowKawaii]

Hello, new person here!
Well, my mom died July 2013, it was really hard on me, my mom was like a light for the world, I learned things mostly from her.
If wondering, cancer took away my mom. She had breast cancer first, the doctors did said all the cancer won't be gone, she had both her breast removed. Some days after that, she started falling over, it was hard trying to lift her back up on her feet, then that one day, she couldn't move at all. She went to the ER for some days. Everyone was hiding the truth about what was wrong with my mom. My brother later told me she had brain cancer, it hit me really hard to know that the cancer moved to her brain. Then something happen about moving her to some place, we did. That night we moved her she died. :( It was all just so hard on me.

Now tell me:
Did you lost one of the closest person in your family?

If yes, tell me how you lost them.

And was it hard on you on?

[DreamCatcher]

I lost my dad in 2007. He killed himself, how I don't wanna know. It was hard because I was old enough to be aware of death but young enough to not be able to adress it. I had counselling when I was little but begun it again now because of self harm. But yeah, try and keep the memory of her alive, because I've started to forget the little things about my dad and it's scary.
I hope you are doing well :P

[Katiya]

Well, I don't have any family to lose their than me mum n dad who don't spend much the with me and are always fighting with me.

Some times I think its easier to have no one. But that hurts a lot to be so lonely. And sometimes I think it would be better to have had a close sibling or member even if you lost them, ya know just for all the good they did bring.

So I guess remember the happiness you had with your loved ones when they were here. That's what I would try to do. The ole saying 'better to have loved an lost than never loved at all'. At least you had them in your life to brighten it even if for only a while.

[Sanctum]

I lost 4 of my family members in a row whithin just two monthes.two of my cousins and my uncles' wifes.
Can you imagine that?

[Jrxy98]

I Lost Both my grandpas and the one that affected me badly was My dad in 12/12/11
he had Cardio Myapathy and a few other problems. The Night he passed My mom picked us up from the neighbors where she left us when my dad stopped breathing in the middle of the night she sat us down on the couch and told us that my dad was no longer with us and thats when my brother and sister started crying along with my mom but I didn't shed a tear knowing I had to be strong for them but until the funeral a couple weeks later I cried myself to sleep and at the funeral I broke down and couldn't stay so I stayed outside most of the time.

[Cognizant]

I'm really sorry for your loss. It took me months to get back and grow from my experience. While my mom didn't die, she too got cancer. She was sick for years. My dad spent his entire life savings on her well being. She almost died, but she stayed strong and fought through it.

However, while her physical body didn't die, her presence in my family did. After she got better, she would always go out; sometimes as far away as 1500 miles for weeks with little to no natural contact. My mom didn't love my dad any more. She basically ran away when we were broke, our credit cards were all maxed out, $20,000 in debt, and my dad told her to step up her family role. As someone who trusts easily, it hurt me fierce that my mom could be that indecent to the point where she would prefer to make her old family's life miserable so that she wouldn't have to give up her dreams. It made me "toughen up" a little when it came to trusting people who are dear to me.

It took me a long time to forgive her. They broke off in June 2012, and it wasn't until around September 2013 that I gave her my full trust back. And you know what? That's okay. Time works miracles for wounds and in the end we all grow from it. Now days, my mom can come over to my dad's house and my dad doesn't have (a huge) problem with it.

[KoolKid96]

Hello, new person here!
Well, my mom died July 2013, it was really hard on me, my mom was like a light for the world, I learned things mostly from her.
If wondering, cancer took away my mom. She had breast cancer first, the doctors did said all the cancer won't be gone, she had both her breast removed. Some days after that, she started falling over, it was hard trying to lift her back up on her feet, then that one day, she couldn't move at all. She went to the ER for some days. Everyone was hiding the truth about what was wrong with my mom. My brother later told me she had brain cancer, it hit me really hard to know that the cancer moved to her brain. Then something happen about moving her to some place, we did. That night we moved her she died. :( It was all just so hard on me.

Now tell me:
Did you lost one of the closest person in your family?

If yes, tell me how you lost them.

And was it hard on you on?

Well first of all welcome to VT!

I did lose the closest person in my family , my grandfather whom
I had been living with my entire life to lung cancer in 2010. It was very hard on me 1st. My family didn't tell me until it my exams were over, by the time it was wet severe. During the past few months b4 my exams he started to fall sick easily and worse still he didn't wanna go to the doctor. Initially I expected he had some serious illness but I never expected 4th stage lung cancer. The person whom I had been living with and closest to only had about 3-4 months at most to live. It became worse when I went to stay with my other set of grandparents during the holidays(my parents forced me to) because one night he fell down while going to the toilet and that made his condition worsen a lot such that my family had to send him to the hospice. And then I spent the last few days of his life there with him. I was very sad at 1st then we talked a lot there and he told me that death was not the end, he was going to a better place. When he passed away, sure I was devastated but then I began reflecting and I thought that he wouldn't want me to be this sad, and I shd be happy for him cuz he doesn't need to suffer anymore and he's in a better place now. That's how I slowly got over my grief. How're u feelin now? Still sad?

[AlexOnToast]

Hello, new person here!
Well, my mom died July 2013, it was really hard on me, my mom was like a light for the world, I learned things mostly from her.
If wondering, cancer took away my mom. She had breast cancer first, the doctors did said all the cancer won't be gone, she had both her breast removed. Some days after that, she started falling over, it was hard trying to lift her back up on her feet, then that one day, she couldn't move at all. She went to the ER for some days. Everyone was hiding the truth about what was wrong with my mom. My brother later told me she had brain cancer, it hit me really hard to know that the cancer moved to her brain. Then something happen about moving her to some place, we did. That night we moved her she died. :( It was all just so hard on me.

Now tell me:
Did you lost one of the closest person in your family?

If yes, tell me how you lost them.

And was it hard on you on?

Trust me, I know how it feels. Losing a grandparent, cousin or other relative is very hard. Losing an immediate family member is even harder. But losing your mum at a young age is one of the hardest things imaginable. I lost mine too so I know exactly how you feel, if you need someone to talk to just let me know :)

[LunaLights]

I lost my mum in the same way when I was 11. I still miss her every day, but it doesn't hurt so much anymore. I get upset sometimes but other than that I just remember what a great mum she was and how lucky I was to talk to her. I'm going to get a tattoo when I'm 18. It's going to be a set of car keys, because they remind me of what a kick ass woman she was, and means nothing to anyone else but me. Then I'm going to get a few key chains coming off, one with a cancer research ribbon, one with a love heart. And finally I'm going to get her name underneath it in pretty writing.

It's going to be the hardest thing that you'll ever face, but it does get better. If you need someone to talk to message me (: xx