Would you call this a proper family?

[AlexOnToast]

Just wondering if you would call this a proper family ?
My immediate family is as present: Me
My Dad
My Sister
Also, My sister lives in London and I only see her at special occasions like Xmas, so it's just myself and my dad at home.
My mum is dead before anyone asks

People have told me Before that I dont have a proper family - thats why I'm asking

[Elysium]

There are so many different kinds of families, situations, and circumstances, I don't think calling a family "proper" is all that useful or accurate anymore. I think the only thing to make a family "improper" would be abuse of any sort.

[AlexOnToast]

There are so many different kinds of families, situations, and circumstances, I don't think calling a family "proper" is all that useful or accurate anymore. I think the only thing to make a family "improper" would be abuse of any sort.

Thats a good answer and I agree, but there are some people who would have different judgements, thats what im trying to get out of this

[Elysium]

Thats a good answer and I agree, but there are some people who would have different judgements, thats what im trying to get out of this
I can understand that, and in the end, it would depend on the individual(s) to decide whether or not their family can be classified as "proper."

If I were to use the label, I'd say yes, your family is proper in its own right; your sister is old enough to take care of herself, so it's not entirely necessary that she be part of the immediate family.

[ksdnfkfr]

I think they just mean proper family that someone who was
living under the same roof their whole life is returning. Not
that x amount of ppl makes a proper family. It really isn't a
good term - cause they are saying their family is improper
the rest of the time and I doubt that is what they mean.

[AlexOnToast]

I think they just mean proper family that someone who was
living under the same roof their whole life is returning. Not
that x amount of ppl makes a proper family. It really isn't a
good term - cause they are saying their family is improper
the rest of the time and I doubt that is what they mean.
Ok, i think I messed up the wording :P What i pretty much mean is this "people have told me Before that I dont have a proper family - thoughts?"

[ksdnfkfr]

Ok, i think I messed up the wording :P What i pretty much mean is this "people have told me Before that I dont have a proper family - thoughts?"

No I have heard that said before about someone returning -
"now we can be a proper family again"
As for your situation - that is just ppl being judgmental and
ignorant in my opinion. Maybe they think your dad should
remarry or w/e- who knows? ppl are always deciding what
is supposed to be right for others. But you are part of a family
- your dad is a family man.

[KidImage]

It's more like the people they miss in their lives which they have known for so long have come back to see them.
Not an actual family member like a mom or brother or an uncle. Just someone they've lived with for a while that is missing.
A family is what you define it to be.

[Desuetude]

Of course. If they care for you then they should be considered 'proper family'. It doesn't matter how many people there are, there isn't a guideline saying every family should have a mother, father, daughter and son to be complete. A family is what you make of it. You might have each of the 4 people I stated making a very dysfunctional family that doesn't get along at all while you could have 2 people e.g. mother and daughter who care for each other very much and that still counts as a 'proper family'. I don't know who the fuck is telling you your family isn't 'proper' but they're entirely wrong.

[Soldier212]

A proper family is just a state of mind it is normality and it always changes by person

[AlexOnToast]

Of course. If they care for you then they should be considered 'proper family'. It doesn't matter how many people there are, there isn't a guideline saying every family should have a mother, father, daughter and son to be complete. A family is what you make of it. You might have each of the 4 people I stated making a very dysfunctional family that doesn't get along at all while you could have 2 people e.g. mother and daughter who care for each other very much and that still counts as a 'proper family'. I don't know who the fuck is telling you your family isn't 'proper' but they're entirely wrong.

I agree with you, and I dont think the people who have said that mean it in a bad or harmful way, but yes it is hurtful

[Pulp501]

Any combination of people can be a good family

[Plane And Simple]

I disagree on what people have told you. A family is a parent and his/her son/s. No matter if it's 2 parents of different gender, same gender or just one of them now for whatever reasons. Inside the family itself you can have a weird family, a fairly good one or whatever, but if you get on well with your dad, you have an outstanding family, just because of the fact you and your dad have grown strong after the challenges life has given.

[sqishy]

I don't see anything wrong with your family, it's just a bit more different than most families.

[thatgothgirluknow]

all that matters is that u love ur family and they love u it doesnt matter whos in it if u love ur family then it is proper i live with just my grandma

[newkler]

you have proper family. you're just a bit broken. sorry. x

[AlexOnToast]

you have proper family. you're just a bit broken. sorry. x

How very blunt.....

[newkler]

sorry kid i don't mean to say anything offensive. it doesn't matter anyway if you're not with you're whole family, what matters most is you're dad and you are still there for each other. other kids don't even have a family :( and personally, i don't have a proper family.you had better

[Your Captain]

I understand where they are coming from but you still have a family

[AlexOnToast]

I disagree on what people have told you. A family is a parent and his/her son/s. No matter if it's 2 parents of different gender, same gender or just one of them now for whatever reasons. Inside the family itself you can have a weird family, a fairly good one or whatever, but if you get on well with your dad, you have an outstanding family, just because of the fact you and your dad have grown strong after the challenges life has given.

Thanks :) Very encouraging :)

[JohneyQuest]

A proper family is when you live with the people you love and they love you. Regardless of how many members there may be.

[riverboy]

A proper family is when you live with the people you love and they love you. Regardless of how many members there may be.

This says it all.

[Etcetera]

Lol, you should see mine.

I live with: my mom
adoptive stepdad
* my half sister who is 11
* other half sister and
*half brother who are twins and 9 years old
*= those three are kids by my mom and step-dad

I don't have contact with my mom's side of the family, it was an abusive situation.

Don't have contact with my family (I'm adopted)
My dad lives with:- my step-mom
- my step-sisters (2) which my step-mom had with dad's best friend
- my half sister
-and my two half brothers (one of them I have never met)
^haven't seen any of them since he signed over his rights when I was 6


And the only family I have contact with is my step-dad's family who I am not even related to.